Bullying on the bus

amother

OP ↓

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:35 am

I can eat my heart out for my son. We recently moved and he has a long bus ride. About 45 min. There is no Bus Rebbe like we had in town. The bus is from the district with a non jewish driver. My son comes home every day crying from the bus ride. He is 6 years old. A sweet sensitive boy. Has has the card games the kids all play, I give him plenty of snacks etc but some how he always sitting alone. I know, he is not charismatic and his a skinny. Yesterday I went to pick him up from the bus I see it is taking a while for him to come off. Now he finally tells me after many times that this is going on that another boy bangs his head to the window and stepped on his foot not letting him off. I have a newborn I could not leave her on the side of an unpaved road to get on the bus. I am filled with hatred towards the boy that is torturing my son. I know who it is from the description he gave. A privileged character. How is it fair that he can ruin my sweet sons bus ride. He is the type that is ok to sit alone. The child that my heart aches for. The yeshiva doesnt want to do anything and the bus company well at the end of the day just provides a service. He is 6 years old my son, What can I do to help him. BULLYING SCARS KIDS! PARENTS, TEACH YOUR KIDS ITS NOT OK.Ps- As a side note, I feel that bullying comes with an attitude from parents. If they see you sitting and talking badly about others at your yom tov meal ( yes I have seen people do it in the sukkah) then they LEARN FROM YOU how to devalue people. WE need to do better.

What can I do to help my son. No, he will not hit the kid back as much as I wish he would because sometimes thats the only way if they see how it feels. Especially since the kid is older than him.

mha3484 ↓

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 11:46 am

This is going to sound harsh because there is no tone here but if the yeshiva wont do anything you have to pick him up. Boys PM busing is the worst. I didn't put one of my kids on the bus home until 3rd grade because the behavior was so bad and I didn't think he could manage himself.

Long term, if the menahel wont deal with the bus behavior its a red flag for how they deal with in school behavior. My sons menahel and DH and I have had some contentious moments so I get it but the bus behavior and bullying over all is taking very very seriously even when the kids parents are considered VIP's.

↑ mha3484

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 12:02 pm

I also wanted to add I understand your frustration in the part you bolded. My oldest never had an easy time socially with many ups and downs. 5th grade was especially bad and I found myself in the same place as you wanting to blame the parents but I found after a while it wasn't serving me well. It wasn't making my kids issues any better and I was becoming a bitter person. Deep down no kid wants to act this way and no parent wants their kid to be a bully.

amother

Heather

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 12:13 pm

Welcome to the wonderful world of boys alone on the bus. Speaking to school or rebbe will not help only options are
-let child suffer for several more years
-have hubby go on bus with a club and threaten daylights out of kids (I know parents who have done sometimes works some times makes worse)
- DO NOT PUT CHILD ON BUS ANYMORE

amother

↑ OP

Tue, Oct 29 2024, 1:14 pm

mha3484 wrote:

This seems to be the most sensible solution but I already have to pick up my 2 year old from school and have a newborn. I have to drive every where in this neighborhood. I am already breaking from being so overwhelmed why this now.