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amother
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Today at 12:36 pm
I am spending sukkos at my parents together with most of my siblings which rarely happens as we live all over the place. I am noticing that although we are "close" there is an underlying attitude of each man for himself.
For example we went to a local park today. Instead of one person packing snacks, another packing drinks etc for everyone, each family had to pack their own stuff and what do you think happened? The kids were kvetching non stop they want what that other kid has. Another example, my sister went to the bagel store this morning and came home with 2 bagels for her and her DH.
I would like to raise my children differently. They are still young and I would love to hear from mom's who have raised children who really look out for each other and have each other's backs. How did you do it? What's your secret?
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amother
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Today at 12:55 pm
Lead by example.
My kids are too young but we ask does anyone else want a snack, or come along somewhere… they see it they’re copy.
My sister in law bakes for everyone, will just go to the sink and start washing the dishes at my mils we’re all staying together.
Might be a personality or she’s just a considerate person- her kids are the best kids so gracious and warm they’re raised with excellent middos and everyone loves them!
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Today at 1:08 pm
Every mother knows what foods and snacks her kids will eat.
I see my daughter packing 3 different snacks and mains for her kids because the whole family will not eat one type of snack or main
So it makes sense that mothers pack foods for their family
OP you are obviously lucky and your kids are not picky.
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imaima
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Today at 1:47 pm
amother OP wrote: | I am spending sukkos at my parents together with most of my siblings which rarely happens as we live all over the place. I am noticing that although we are "close" there is an underlying attitude of each man for himself.
For example we went to a local park today. Instead of one person packing snacks, another packing drinks etc for everyone, each family had to pack their own stuff and what do you think happened? The kids were kvetching non stop they want what that other kid has. Another example, my sister went to the bagel store this morning and came home with 2 bagels for her and her DH.
I would like to raise my children differently. They are still young and I would love to hear from mom's who have raised children who really look out for each other and have each other's backs. How did you do it? What's your secret? |
How many siblings are there? At some point it’s easier to just serve your own family
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amother
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Today at 2:21 pm
I wonder this because my mother somehow raised us to be super independent and not close at all. I remember as a kid we couldn't sit in the car if our thighs were touching each other (all girls). My husband's family is super crazy close but they border on codependent so... pros and cons to everything.
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amother
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Today at 3:20 pm
My DH is not considerate or of generous spirit even though he was raised in a home of chessed and everyone looking out for each other.
I am exactly the opposite of him and I see that my children are some and some. Not so sure it's how you're raised as much as personality or natural tendencies.
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renslet
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Today at 3:29 pm
Consideration of others can mean so many things.
One of my kids will always offer her food to others and yet says mean things to her siblings constantly.
Another one is very in tune to others feelings and picks up when someone is upset and is incredibly supportive but doesn't usually remember to think of other when it comes to food.
I try to remind, when you bring yourself water ask if anyone else wants and also modal.
Rabbi shais taub once wrote that when telling stories, stop in the middle and ask kids "what do you think this person was thinking, why do you think they said that etc" it really helps kids put themselves in others shoes.
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