Playing with unvaccinated kid

amother

↑ Eggplant ↓

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 4:38 am

Ohh is that Tdap

Lol my brain isn’t thinking straight these days

Thanks for clearing it up!!

If mom took Tdap isn’t baby protected? My obgyn told me it protects my newborn when I got my tdap

↑ Chayalle

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 4:41 am

amother Eggplant wrote:

Ohh is that Tdap

Lol my brain isn’t thinking straight these days

Thanks for clearing it up!!

If mom took Tdap isn’t baby protected? My obgyn told me it protects my newborn when I got my tdap

Baby has some percentage of protection, but it's not complete.

amother

Slateblue ↓

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 4:51 am

For the poster who raised the question about babies being around grandparents whose immunity has worn off, you’ve raised a great point (albeit facetiously.) Yes, it’s very important for grandparents to update their Tdap so as not to give pertussis (whooping cough) to an infant or young baby. We had ours before our dd gave birth. For those who think it’s not an issue, it’s going around in the NYC area. Also, our ds came home from Israel with it a few years ago. I was skeptical, until I heard that his friends were all being diagnosed, some several states away. So it’s a thing. OP, yes, I would exercise caution when hosting an unvaccinated guest. Limit play to outdoors or wait until the baby is older.

amother

↑ Eggplant

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 5:05 am

Chayalle wrote:

Baby has some percentage of protection, but it's not complete.

Hmm ok good to know

Does breastfeeding help immunity?

I do need to think about this, I will definitely have young kids wanting to hold my baby once I am ready to sit outdoors after baby comes (I live on a block where the kids love pushing and holding babies)

I understood that until 6 months baby is protected by my immunity and breast milk.

seeker

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 5:07 am

I would let my vaccinated kids play with them outside or on someone else's turf but would not let them into my house with the 3 month old. The odds of them actually spreading something are low but with a little baby I'm not playing even low odds. They can come over after the baby is a year old and has had one of everything and is a little less fragile.

The grandparents argument is ridiculous. I myself predate the varicella vax. I had a lovely chicken pox in kindergarten along with my ENTIRE peer group and I believe we are more immune than my kids will ever be.

amother

Amethyst

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 5:36 am

amother OP wrote:

I don't want to this to lead to anti provax discussion. My child is friends with a child that is not vaccinated. I have a 3 month old baby that is upto date with current vaccinations. I don't think they do all vaccines at this point. Is it dangerous to have my child play w this kid in my house? Ftr we are very much provax. I don't want to hurt this child or parents feelings. Also I dont want my child having any negative feeligns. We are very openminded. Is it dangerous that she plays by me?

I would keep the baby away regardless.
Making safety about vaccinated/unvaccinated neighborhood kids is a little ocd imo. Tests and diagnoses aren't foolproof, everyone is carrying some virus for a week or two before they know they're sick, and pertussis is always going around lately.

amother

Gardenia

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 5:40 am

At one point I had a baby with zero white blood cells.

I asked the group of doctors at the hospital what they thought about my kids playing with their unvaccinated neighbors.

Drs discussed and decided that since my kids are vaccinated it is okay. I should keep my baby away but my kids could play with them and I didn't have to worry about them bringing diseases home with them.

amother

Trillium

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 6:23 am

Speaking as a mom with unvaccinated kids, do what you feel is best. In general though, I wouldn’t have many people around my baby because as someone else pointed out, there are diseases out there where there is no vaccine for, or even diseases with vaccines that don’t do as great at protecting.

I did have a close friend who had a baby I never met because I knew her stance on vaccines. To where she required them for even her mom to be around the child. And that’s okay.

amother

Blonde

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 6:27 am

amother Glitter wrote:

I would keep a 3 month old away from an unvaccinated child. Thats my comfort level.

Do you send to a morah? 3 month old Morah’s don’t ask for vaccination records

amother

Violet

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 8:25 am

I heard there are current cases of whooping cough and measles. I wouldn't take a chance but that's just me... you can definitely talk to the pediatrician about it to ask about the risk and if current vaccines your child has is enough.

amother

DarkPurple ↓

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 9:03 am

I would not let my kid play with an unvaccinated kid if I had a baby in the home. The baby doesnt have a great immune system
Even though I nurse and don't do formula.

If there was an outbreak of anything (measles etc) I wouldn't let my vaccinated kid play with any child unvaccinated. Vaccines are not 100% so playing with someone who hasn't had any is dangerous during an outbreak.
If I have a baby or immunocompromised family member I wouldn't allow it ever.

And yes, we had a huge measles outbreak where I live when I had a baby. We were invited out for a shabbos lunch and while there we found out NONE were vaccinated against measles. We left pretty quickly. (And yeah, their kids all had autism and other special needs and none were vaccinated with anything. Mom wasn't vaccinated either).

amother

Cyan ↓

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 10:20 am

amother Slateblue wrote:

Honestly I'm more concerned about vaccinated individuals. Someone who got the vaccine for whooping cough can very easily be an asymptomatic transmitter. I'd prefer knowing if someone is carrying it (with symptoms) so I can know to keep my baby away.

Also, sometimes disease "outbreaks" can be FROM the vaccine - like this: https://www.npr.org/sections/g.....ains-
of-polio-vaccine-now-cause-more-paralysis-than-wild-polio 18

amother

↑ Kiwi ↓

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 10:43 am

amother Eggplant wrote:

Yes but it's transient, limited to when your breastmilk is in his system, and if you add formula that takes the level down somewhat because formula alters the gut.

It's a different kind of immunity than the placental immunity very young babies have, it works differently.

Side point, almost all tiny infants with pertussis were born to moms who didn't get the DTaP while pregnant.

amother

↑ Kiwi

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 10:45 am

amother Cyan wrote:

OP specifically asked that this thread NOT turn into bashing vaccines, so I reported your post.

amother

↑ Cyan

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 10:49 am

amother Kiwi wrote:

OP specifically asked that this thread NOT turn into bashing vaccines, so I reported your post.

I missed the part where I'm bashing vaccines?
I'm bringing awareness, if she's concerned about vaccine-available diseases, she should know this, is all

amother

Obsidian

Tue, Oct 22 2024, 10:55 am

I think its due diligence to keep an infant away from all kids who are either 1- mildly sick even & 2- during the time period that contagious diseases are going around. Quite frankly, I think I kept someone that young in general away from all kids who aren't family. And I am totally not differentiating between vaxxed & unvaxxed.