One bed | Imamother

amother

OP ↓

Today at 1:35 am

I only have one bed, do harchakos of physically not sleeping together apply on Yom Kippur? Do I need to get a blow up mattress?

effess

Today at 2:07 am

Yk separation is biblical. Not a minhag.
You need a separate bed😔

kugelEater ↓

Today at 4:20 am

What would you do if you were niddah?

Raizle ↓

Today at 4:24 am

kugelEater wrote:

What would you do if you were niddah?

Maybe she doesn't become nidda.
It happens

↑ kugelEater

Today at 4:25 am

Raizle wrote:

Maybe she doesn't become nidda.
It happens

Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)

amother

Crocus

Today at 4:28 am

kugelEater wrote:

Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)

Its not "fun" - people without a womb don't get a period ( I have a friend like this, she had 2 kids thru surrogacy)

But my assumption is that she is away for sukkos and the vacation home or hotel room does not have two beds....

amother

Camellia

Today at 4:30 am

kugelEater wrote:

Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)

I had a hysterectomy for medical reasons at age 37. Therefore, I stopped being nida at a relatively young age. B"H I already had 4 children.

amother

Hyacinth

Today at 4:38 am

My in laws are past menopause. When they moved as seniors they brought the second bed with them to have just for Yom kipper.

amother

DarkPurple

Today at 4:38 am

kugelEater wrote:

Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)

Ever heard of menopause?
I didn't know that we need to separate the beds for y'k. That's new to me.

amother

Lightgray ↓

Today at 5:17 am

kugelEater wrote:

Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)

Menopause??? hysterectomy???
So many reasons why one would never be nidda.

amother

↑ Lightgray

Today at 5:19 am

effess wrote:

Yk separation is biblical. Not a minhag.
You need a separate bed😔

What is the source?
We have one bed, I had to have a hystetectomy.

↑ Raizle ↓

Today at 5:39 am

Yeah I don't think you have to have an extra bed just for Yom Kippur unless you don't trust yourselves.
You can't be intimate though

amother

Apricot

Today at 6:06 am

Raizle wrote:

Yeah I don't think you have to have an extra bed just for Yom Kippur unless you don't trust yourselves.
You can't be intimate though

No, on Yom Kippur you need to jeep harchakos even if you do trust yourselves.

amother

Valerian

Today at 6:10 am

You need another bed. It’s Halacha.

Brit in Israel

Today at 6:14 am

Raizle wrote:

Yeah I don't think you have to have an extra bed just for Yom Kippur unless you don't trust yourselves.
You can't be intimate though

Pretty sure it doesn't work like that for YK and Tisha baav.
Of course OP should ask her Rav.
We will all be happy to hear for her otherwise.

Hashem_Yaazor ↓

Today at 6:31 am

It's one night, can someone sleep on the couch?

↑ Raizle

Today at 6:51 am

Brit in Israel wrote:

Pretty sure it doesn't work like that for YK and Tisha baav.
Of course OP should ask her Rav.
We will all be happy to hear for her otherwise.

So people who no longer get their periods have to keep an extra bed for 2 days a year? Ok I'm curious what the Rov will say. OP please let us know. If you have to do it then I'd just get a blow up bed

↑ Hashem_Yaazor ↓

Today at 6:54 am

They need to have an alternative location for sleeping for two nights a year, yes.

amother

Babyblue

Today at 6:58 am

I was told we do not need to keep all harchakos on Tisha B'Av, but yes on YK.

zaq

Today at 7:27 am

kugelEater wrote:

Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)

Post menopause, post hysterectomy,etc. Not everyone here is a fertile twenty-year-old.