My house is too happening, B"H

amother

OP ↓

Thu, Jul 11 2024, 6:05 pm

I am so grateful for my brachos, and I am also at my wits end. My children are so loud, and so active, and I have so much trouble being around them. Really they are probably normal, but I am sensitive to sound and having everyone home gives me sensory overload. The whole house is a mess, hard to walk without tripping, kids in every room playing loudly. Ka"h they are active and have great imaginations. They entertain themselves so well, and I feel like I should at least be able to get something done. But it's so loud and I just shut down, I either hide in my room, or veg on the couch... when I try to spend time with them, they all crowd around and I get clostrophobic, I try to push through, and often end up loosing it Crying

Then there is the fighting and kvetching. It feels nonstop, and I wish they had some gratitude.. today we were listening to a story in the car and they wanted to continue inside once we got home, I tried playing it on Alexa, but was having trouble figuring out how to connect, they were pushing me, and kvetching loudly, complaining I got really angry and snapped at them. I have one kids who if anyone does something he doesn't like will hit them as a knee jerk response. I think he often doesn't even realize he does it!

The mess, it's as if they don't realize a mess needs cleaning up will drop stuff on the floor, leave stuff on the floor, refuse to pick stuff up, if someone spills something by accident it's always somehow someone else's fault "so they don't need to clean up (I'm trying to teach them that it doesn't matter whose fault it is, together we keep our home clean but it isn't going)

I'm so lost. I have no energy for the drama.
I just vented a whole bunch of things.
- sensory overload
- kvetching/midos
- responsibility

Really what I need help with most I think is the sensory overload, think once I can figure out how to be around my kids and keep my calm, I can figure out how to teach them the other stuff. After all they are kids, they won't know this stuff until they are taught...

I'd also like to know to what extent is the stuff I'm dealing with normal...it would take such a load off to hear, that's just kids, keep teaching and eventually they'll get it... but maybe it's not? Maybe I ruined them by loosing my patience too much?

Any chizuk/advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks so much!

amother

Dahlia

Thu, Jul 11 2024, 6:28 pm

I totally hear you about the sensory overload.
I think it’s great that you recognize what it is.
That makes a big difference.

You can try one of these programs like Neuro links if the issue is auditory processing. I tried a program (I forgot what it’s called) but I didn’t stick with it.

Otherwise you can talk to the kids when it’s calm, say, when mommy gives this hand signal, it means she needs to take a time out. And give yourself a 5 or 10 minute time out. (Not always possible but maybe sometimes)

amother

↑ OP

Thu, Jul 11 2024, 7:23 pm

amother Dahlia wrote:

This is interesting. I was diagnosed as a kid with LPD. What kind of program are you referring to? What is neurolinks?