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amother

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 2:35 am

Old house with no soundproofing. Teen stays up all hours. When, where, and how do you have private conversations?

mha3484

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 2:39 am

Back yard, in the car, with the bedroom door locked.

amother

Lightyellow

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 3:15 am

mha3484 wrote:

Back yard, in the car, with the bedroom door locked.

I get sitting in the car in the backyard, but how would having the bedroom door locked help that?

amother

Burlywood

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 3:22 am

amother Lightyellow wrote:

I get sitting in the car in the backyard, but how would having the bedroom door locked help that?

Because the kids notice the bedroom door is locked and try to listen there not realizing you’re really in the backyard in the car.

amother

Lightyellow

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 4:21 am

amother Burlywood wrote:

Because the kids notice the bedroom door is locked and try to listen there not realizing you’re really in the backyard in the car.

AMOTHER, I LOVE YOU!!!! LOL

essie14

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 5:12 am

We take a walk or go in the car.

amother

Mocha

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 5:16 am

When I have a zoom meeting or phone conversation that I need privacy for, I walk over to the hotel next block and sit into the lounge.

amother

Red

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 7:53 am

Whisper in the bedroom or we call each other during the day on a lunch break and speak on the phone.

amother

Almond

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 9:19 am

Place a noise Machine outside your door.

amother

Red

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 9:38 am

amother Almond wrote:

Place a noise Machine outside your door.

They will just turn it off

Lucky Princess

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 9:59 am

In the car. That's the only way we get some privacy!

Hashem_Yaazor

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 10:17 am

My teenagers wouldn't deliberately sabotage efforts to keep a private conversation private. Maybe they'd be quiet to try to hear more if they were in earshot, but things like turning off a sound machine?!
We have a home where I respect my kids' privacy and they respect ours. Sure, they're curious but this whole thread is beyond me. If we go outside, they're not going to follow us to deliberately eavesdrop.

I've had private conversations with kids' teachers on the phone where I went into a room downstairs and told my kids I needed them to go upstairs since I was on a private conversation and they listened (and then tried guessing, always incorrectly!, if it was about them, etc)

Change the culture in your homes, there should be respect for privacy when talking about this age old enough to know better.

giftedmom

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 10:20 am

In the morning. Even if they’re home they’re sleeping.

amother

Gladiolus

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 10:22 am

You wait for them to grow up and move out What

amother

Dustypink

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 10:25 am

Sound machine by the door, inside my room

lamplighter

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 10:34 am

We try to have these discussions during the day on the phone when kids aren't home. Or at night in our room. Kids can't casually hear us, they would need to actively try to eavesdrop. If they hear something they shouldn't then they have to deal with the consequences of their feelings around it. Its not their business. If they ask me about something they overheard (let's say we didn't realize they were near the kitchen when we spoke), I just tell them I wasn't talking to them and it's non of their business.

amother

Crocus

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 10:45 am

Go for a walk

amother

Azalea

Sun, Jun 23 2024, 12:09 pm

I remember my friend telling me, when the kids are young you get your house to yourself in the evening but need a babysitter to get out. When your kids are older, you don't get your house or evenings to yourself but you it's easier to get out.

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