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Did your kids ever punch or kick a hole in the wall?
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Did your kids ever punch or kick a hole in the wall?
Yes  
 48%  [ 79 ]
No  
 51%  [ 84 ]
Total Votes : 163



amother
OP  


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 8:54 am
From anger or a tantrum...Asking because one of mine did this week. It's the first time for this child, but it's not the only child of mine to do this. Baruch Hashem my other child stopped as they grew older but now this one just did it and I'm tired of patching up holes in the walls!
And I know it's not "normal" but wondering if it's uncommon. So there's the poll. (No need to answer if your oldest kid is a toddler Smile )
Hug away lol
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mha3484




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 8:55 am
My sister did with a cast for a broken foot.
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amother
Gardenia


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 8:57 am
Why is it happening? They are being wild in the house? Or it’s anger issues? All have solutions.
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amother
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Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 8:58 am
amother Gardenia wrote:
Why is it happening? They are being wild in the house? Or it’s anger issues? All have solutions.


Oh good question, I'll add that. I'm referring to anger and tantrums
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amother
Pear


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 9:18 am
Kicked holes in the wall.
Kicked the connecting wall with the neighbor and made things fall off their shelf 🤦🏻‍♀️.
BH seems to have grown out of anger issues.
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amother
Hydrangea  


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 9:20 am
My boys were fighting and one shut himself in the bedroom and wedged a broom behind the door to stop the other one opening it. The one on the outside forced the door open and the broomstick came through the door. Not sure if he is strong or the door is junk or both. So now we have a hole in the door.
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bigsis144  




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 9:23 am
Slammed a door so hard it shattered the door jamb

Punched hole(s) in drywall

Punched through a glass windowpane (it’s heartbreaking to see a 5’10” teenager sob like a toddler while you pick glass out of his knuckles. The shame and feeling of loss of control only kicks in with the pain; when he was angry, he would go out of his mind like a person possessed. BH mood stabilizers have helped)

Slammed door on a brother, who had been stretching out his arm to stop it and put arm through a glass window pane. (A *different* glass window pane. We’ve since covered so much glass in our house with clear plastic panels.) Brother got a huge gash in his arm that went through layers of skin, fat and muscle. Still has a huge scar.
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amother
Oatmeal


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 9:48 am
My brother kicked a hole in the bathroom Door cuz someone was taking too long. He also once punched the fridge when was upset and shattered the bones in his hand in multiple places. He went to therapy for anger management after the second incident
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amother
Clematis  


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 9:50 am
Yessss.
My 9 yo DD with adhd has kicked so many holes. We stopped fixing them.
Also, her and her sister (also has adhd) have broken many a door frame, slamming doors and trying to force doors open.

Bh bh bh over the last 6 months we didnt get any more holes in the walls, and dh and I were just discussing it on Monday that it's time to fix it.

I honestly spent know how my kid was able to punch holes like that. She's a tiny petite human. But oh so powerful when in an adhd rage.
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Comptroller




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 9:57 am
Wow, 2/3 "yes" votes? I'm shocked!! What is it with your children? Or is it your walls???
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amother
Outerspace


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 10:01 am
Makes me feel so much better that it’s not just my kids….maybe this is somewhat normal ? Sad
Lots of things are thrown and broken out of anger (step stool, kiddy table, toys…) and a kitchen cabinet and bedroom door were knocked off the hinges by a child who was angry.
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amother
Cantaloupe


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 10:03 am
My husband did that when he was a teenager and he's in general a very calm person that hardly ever angry... if that's any reassurance...
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amother
Babyblue  


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 10:07 am
bigsis144 wrote:
Slammed a door so hard it shattered the door jamb

Punched hole(s) in drywall

Punched through a glass windowpane (it’s heartbreaking to see a 5’10” teenager sob like a toddler while you pick glass out of his knuckles. The shame and feeling of loss of control only kicks in with the pain; when he was angry, he would go out of his mind like a person possessed. BH mood stabilizers have helped)

Slammed door on a brother, who had been stretching out his arm to stop it and put arm through a glass window pane. (A *different* glass window pane. We’ve since covered so much glass in our house with clear plastic panels.) Brother got a huge gash in his arm that went through layers of skin, fat and muscle. Still has a huge scar.

❤️Have things turned around at this point? If so, how?
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  bigsis144




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 10:52 am
amother Babyblue wrote:
❤️Have things turned around at this point? If so, how?


Like I said, mood stabilizers have helped. He also finally agreed to start talking to a therapist, even if visible progress is glacial.
He’s still not an easy child at all, but things don’t feel as dangerous anymore.

He’s also old enough that we have more options for sending him away from home long-term, if that becomes necessary. We hope it doesn’t come to that - he certainly doesn’t want to leave the house, even if he seems miserable more often than not. He’s on the spectrum and very resistant to change. He just wants to be a little hermit crab in his shell, even if he needs a new one.


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sequoia




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 10:56 am
Comptroller wrote:
Wow, 2/3 "yes" votes? I'm shocked!! What is it with your children? Or is it your walls???


American houses are not well made. You can’t punch a hole in a five-story “stalinka” no matter how strong you are.
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small bean




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 11:08 am
My boys can be quite destructive and brooms are weapons.

But as they get older, they calm down and mature and I'm not worried about them being destructive adults.
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amother
Snapdragon


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 11:14 am
No, because our walls are quite solid. Hulk Hogan probably could, though.
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amother
Foxglove


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 11:20 am
Meds have made a big difference. No longer doing it
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amother
Tangerine


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 12:27 pm
sequoia wrote:
American houses are not well made. You can’t punch a hole in a five-story “stalinka” no matter how strong you are.


Most houses/apartments in my area have interior walls made with 2x4s and plywood.
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amother
Vermilion


 

Post Thu, Jun 20 2024, 12:31 pm
No holes in walls but kicked through door
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