Are you embarrassed to tell ppl if you're on vouchers?

amother

Fri, Jun 07 2024, 2:06 pm

I get embarrassed and put on the spot if I'm asked outright or if someone asks where I send to a playgroup and it's a voucher only playgroup. Like it's basically letting you know my income status

amother

Seagreen

Fri, Jun 07 2024, 2:10 pm

You can be vague and list the general area and then switch the topic.

amother

Babypink

Fri, Jun 07 2024, 2:11 pm

Nobody should be embarrassed that they have vouchers. They should be embarrassed about reporting only the minimum amount of money to be eligible

amother

Brass

Fri, Jun 07 2024, 2:22 pm

I feel as if I get judged for not having vouchers

PS its a generous income limit for vouchers

amother

Feverfew

Fri, Jun 07 2024, 2:36 pm

I never thought about that.
Though come to this of it your right. Still don't care though.

amother

Tan

Fri, Jun 07 2024, 2:41 pm

amother Brass wrote:

I feel as if I get judged for not having vouchers

PS its a generous income limit for vouchers

It’s a generous amount because we have big families, B”H
I feel that ppl that ask are wondering if they can get vouchers as well

amother

Mayflower

Fri, Jun 07 2024, 2:47 pm

If I knew someone sent to a voucher playgroup I’d be happy for them and wish I could have an affordable daycare option for my own kids! No judgement (unless I know someone’s cheating the government)

chocolate moose ↓

Sun, Jun 09 2024, 3:55 pm

Dh was out of work years ago and a family with 10 kids asked to come for yomtov. they weren't bringing anything to the meal either. I said we were getting financial help from the community and that it wasn't right to ask them to feed us and a family too. I wasnt happy to say it but it wasn't the first time I had to say it either.

Bnei Berak 10

Sun, Jun 09 2024, 4:24 pm

chocolate moose wrote:

Family with 10 kids wanted to spend YT with you? Speechless

How on earth do you even accommodate unless you live in a mansion?

amother

Lightcyan

Sun, Jun 09 2024, 4:27 pm

Bnei Berak 10 wrote:

Family with 10 kids wanted to spend YT with you? Speechless

How on earth do you even accommodate unless you live in a mansion?

I think she meant for 1 meal

Light1234

Sun, Jun 09 2024, 4:31 pm

I am Canadian and I don't know what vouchers are specifically, but I get the idea. No, I would not be embarassed. When I get this kind of thing in Canada, I actually feel relieved when people accidentally find out. It's like, I can just be myself and don't need to pretend I'm some big macher;)
Also as long as I am being honest, ethical and trying my personal best, and also I use the support to get stronger, so that I can "give back" to society later, it actually feels like I'm doing the right thing to accept the help I need right now.

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amother

Chestnut ↓

Sun, Jun 09 2024, 4:53 pm

In nyc the vouchers limit is over 130k for a family of 6. That's decent enough and everyone has vouchers. If u can't get vouchers, people wonder why u can't adjust your legal income to get it

amother

↑ Chestnut

Sun, Jun 09 2024, 4:54 pm

amother Melon wrote:

can I pls ask what are these vouchers?

Child care vouchers for free tuition

↑ chocolate moose

Mon, Jun 10 2024, 3:44 pm

amother Lightcyan wrote:

I think she meant for 1 meal

right. for one meal. it still was way more than we were up for.my

giftedmom

Mon, Jun 10 2024, 4:06 pm

I am shamed for not having vouchers. Apparently the vouchers preschools are for fancy people and my kid will be neglected in a regular preschool.

HonesttoGod

Mon, Jun 10 2024, 6:15 pm

giftedmom wrote:

I am shamed for not having vouchers. Apparently the vouchers preschools are for fancy people and my kid will be neglected in a regular preschool.

Same here!!

mother’s spot

Sun, Jun 16 2024, 1:58 pm

Nothing to be embarrassed at all, no one knows how exactly you got it, and there are so many types of vouchers too.
Most people that ask if you send to a vouchers playgroup is because they're looking for one

amother

Oldlace

Sun, Jun 16 2024, 2:04 pm

amother Brass wrote:

I feel as if I get judged for not having vouchers

PS its a generous income limit for vouchers

This