The Beckman’s - Ami Serial

↑ Perly1 ↓

Sun, Feb 04 2024, 6:50 am

amother Chestnut wrote:

Take a drink every time updates on this thread and it says “Eli is angry” lol

Yeah his blood pressure must be awful!

↑ nachasmom

Sun, Feb 04 2024, 9:26 am

I've just about had it. Many of us unfortunately have lost family members and grieve in different ways. Eli's way of grief is way above normal limits. Nobody goes up and down with feeling the way he does. He needs serious therapy. Esti has my sympathies; I am not saying she is completely innocent, but she is definitely being a korban here. I am thrilled with Yossi's words about his cuckoo wife. Dina and Eli should get a family therapy plan with the mother thrown in for free.

amother

↑ Apricot ↓

Sun, Feb 04 2024, 9:31 am

nachasmom wrote:

I think Esti is completely and truly innocent.
Tell me one wrong thing she did in this story?

amother

↑ Wandflower

Sun, Feb 04 2024, 9:54 am

For those asking why the mother sticks up for dina; it doesn't have to be because of some deep dark secret. I have a sibling who is also acting crazy since a parent passed and the surviving parent is supporting them. I wasn't allowed to come for yt and they called me to bes din all while my parent is on their side. It's awful to lose a parent to death plus the other parent to a mentally unstable sibling in one year.

amother

↑ Coral ↓

Sun, Feb 04 2024, 4:21 pm

amother Wandflower wrote:

I have it in my family, but sorry, they are all same boat, and all the money won't replace anything.

amother

↑ Gray ↓

Mon, Feb 05 2024, 9:38 am

I think now Eli will realize how he treats his wife.
Eli and Dina aren't very different in the way they treat their spouse. He'll start seeing it through the eyes of someone else and hopefully change.

amother

↑ Chartreuse

Mon, Feb 05 2024, 9:42 am

I always wonder if the idea in "marriages" like the pseudo-marriage of Eli & Esti, in which he literally ignores her and gaslights her and takes advantage of her--- are they celibate all this time? Is she actually spending intimate time with this guy who spends zero times with her? I know, they're fictional characters lol!

amother

↑ Black

Mon, Feb 05 2024, 10:11 am

amother Chartreuse wrote:

There are a bunch of threads/amothers on here talking about how they have really difficult marriages that they are managing except for the relations part. There's a mix of advice, ranging from needing to take care of yourself and not be a shmatte to still giving relations because it can somehow apparently hold a marriage together.

I think that in this story, we got very little of what their marriage was like before all of the craziness, and barely remember it. This past week's installment has confirmed that Eli's work schedule may have been owing to problem dynamics already.

amother

↑ Coral ↓

Mon, Feb 05 2024, 10:20 am

amother Chartreuse wrote:

At times, he softened at her. All it takes is a moment they are feeling mushy. People have needs after all....maybe not characters lol

I believe many complaining here still go on to dtd at times. Nature.

amother

↑ Gray ↓

Mon, Feb 05 2024, 11:29 am

amother Coral wrote:

that's what mikvah is for.

↑ username11 ↓

Mon, Feb 05 2024, 11:36 am

amother Gray wrote:

That would be some good character development, what seems to be happening is Esti discovered the 5 stages of grief and all will all be explained away with that

↑ Polaris ↓

Tue, Feb 06 2024, 5:26 am

username11 wrote:

That would be some good character development, what seems to be happening is Esti discovered the 5 stages of grief and all will all be explained away with that

I wonder if I'm the only one who thinks this has nothing to do with grief? Eli has a horrible personality not unlike his sisters.

↑ Perly1 ↓

Tue, Feb 06 2024, 5:36 am

it’s okay! wrote:

I wonder if I'm the only one who thinks this has nothing to do with grief? Eli has a horrible personality not unlike his sisters.

He certainly doesn't sound pleasant but I think it will be written as grief being the main reason. Although Hadassah did hint to Esti that this kind of thing doesn't happen in a vacuum.

He'll probably agree to grief therapy and perhaps they'll get some marriage therapy after that.

amother

Powderblue ↓

Tue, Feb 06 2024, 6:49 am

I’m trying not to get too connected to this story. I remember the same author wrote pathways (not sure I remember the name correctly, 1before roadblocks) and created more and more drama every week then she dropped us in the middle of the story. So It might end that he started to
Go to therapy the end or something like it.

amother

↑ Gray ↓

Tue, Feb 06 2024, 8:15 am

amother Powderblue wrote:

thanks for letting me know.
I haTe when that happens.

↑ Perly1 ↓

Tue, Feb 06 2024, 8:40 am

amother Gray wrote:

thanks for letting me know.
I haTe when that happens.

Endings are often like that - everything fixed in one paragraph.

amother

↑ Powderblue

Tue, Feb 06 2024, 8:50 am

Perly1 wrote:

Endings are often like that - everything fixed in one paragraph.

Right but that had so many open threads. They needed a few epilogues after lol

amother

↑ Chestnut ↓

Tue, Feb 06 2024, 5:25 pm

Same thing happened in the summer one with the narc friend.
The main character decided she needed to drop the friend, the end.
Would have been interesting to see how that would play out