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amother

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 3:23 pm

Yeshivish
Monsey area
Shadchan was nice and efficient , there was nothing complicated BH for her to work out , couple “dropped” her about date 7.
What is the going rate these days ?

amother

Amethyst

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 3:25 pm

I gave $2000 last year and this year.
Yeshivish Brooklyn

amother

Offwhite ↓

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 4:58 pm

At least $2500 from each side
Like everything else got more expensive so should the going rate
Chasidush give even more usually

gottago

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 5:06 pm

1800 to 2500 each side

amother

Marigold

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 5:07 pm

2100
Yeshivish Lakewood
Shadchanus was divided as per our Rav's instructions between person who thought of the Shidduch (1/6), person who redt the Shidduch (1/6), and person who carried out the Shidduch (2/3)

sbs

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 5:22 pm

Yeshivish Flatbush - within the past year, we did $1800 from each side

amother

Brickred

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 5:27 pm

I’m in the 5 towns and consider myself frum, mb slightly yeshivish. I have 2500 to the shadchan and the other side did too. The couple dropped her after the 4-5 date and used someone else. They felt she was pushing them and they didn’t feel comfortable. The woman who then coached and guided them to the chuppah who really sealed the deal, I gave even more to. Without the first, they’d never have met. Without the second they may not have gotten to chuppah.

amother

Snowflake

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 5:51 pm

Oh this makes me feel so bad. We only gave our Shadchan $250. It was me and DH paying for it and we didn’t have any money at the time

amother

Oatmeal

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 5:54 pm

Monsey here. We give 3500.

amother

↑ Offwhite

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 6:22 pm

amother Snowflake wrote:

Oh this makes me feel so bad. We only gave our Shadchan $250. It was me and DH paying for it and we didn’t have any money at the time

Not too late to send her a nice letter and check!

amother

Ecru

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 6:54 pm

Are these amounts total or for each side? We were told 1800 per side, a little less if you are klei kodesh. Lakewood yeshivish type, within the last year.

mom of 8

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 7:31 pm

I just made 2 shidduchim.
#1canadian gave 1500
Other side yeshivish gave 300. Not 3000
#2 one side gave 1500. Other side gave 1200.
Both shidduchim took a lot of time . Was pretty surprised.

amother

Birch

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 7:40 pm

And then you have shadchanim expecting $25,000

amother

Sunflower

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 7:43 pm

chasidish klei kodesh
gave $2000 this year
$1800 two years ago

amother

Bluebell

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 9:28 pm

At least 2500 and up

Princess23

Tue, Jan 23 2024, 9:58 pm

2 k each side, has the rate gone up to 2500 a side?

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