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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 4:04 pm
Op, after the excitement of your engagement wore off- were you and your friends petrified to actually get married to a strange man?
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 4:40 pm
amother Leaf wrote: | Op, after the excitement of your engagement wore off- were you and your friends petrified to actually get married to a strange man? |
Most of my friends were still flying high until the wedding. The older we got we bacame mature and understanding of the big step we were taking.
I was not terrified but had a healthy dose of trepidation and excitement
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 4:53 pm
amother Firebrick wrote: | OP, based on your many comments, I think it is very clear you could be considered to be "Modern Satmar". |
Thats funny. I'm a quite typical satmar graduate. I wear seams and a shoulder length wig. I agree with most, if not all, of what op says.
This is true about my BP family as well as my extended family in Monsey, Williamsburg and KJ
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 4:56 pm
amother OP wrote: | Most of my friends were still flying high until the wedding. The older we got we bacame mature and understanding of the big step we were taking.
I was not terrified but had a healthy dose of trepidation and excitement |
Honestly, you sound like a very well balanced person š
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 4:56 pm
YounginBP wrote: | Thats funny. I'm a quite typical satmar graduate. I wear seams and a shoulder length wig. I agree with most, if not all, of what op says.
This is true about my BP family as well as my extended family in Monsey, Williamsburg and KJ |
I actually am really curious what modern satmar means. I've never heard the term before.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 5:01 pm
amother Leaf wrote: | Honestly, you sound like a very well balanced person š |
Thanks, I try
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 5:09 pm
OP, it sounds like your English education was subpar, but you communicate and write really well. How did you achieve this?
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 6:27 pm
amother Oxfordblue wrote: | OP, it sounds like your English education was subpar, but you communicate and write really well. How did you achieve this? |
I mentioned in a previous post that (atypical for the community) English was the spoken language in my home. We spoke yiddish to the little kids until about 3-4 years old, and then it was mostly English.
I also love to read and gained a lot of knowledge that way.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 9:31 pm
amother Leaf wrote: | Op, after the excitement of your engagement wore off- were you and your friends petrified to actually get married to a strange man? |
Yeshivish couples are also strangers to each other when they get engaged.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 9:34 pm
It is the same idea as someone being referred to as "Modern Yeshivish". It means they are more modern than the normative Yeshivish person.
Same idea here.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 9:51 pm
amother Firebrick wrote: | It is the same idea as someone being referred to as "Modern Yeshivish". It means they are more modern than the normative Yeshivish person.
Same idea here. |
I think I'm really middle of the road Satmar. I really don't see how I'm modern. Can you please expound on how you came to this conclusion
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 10:07 pm
Iām also Satmar Chassidish. Satmar on this website feels like being an Orthodox Jew in the secular world. People think weāre fascinating at best or downright crazy. Anyone else Satmar chassidish or other chassidus feels this way?
In the big picture I think weāre not so different.
Yes I shave, my English is not perfect, I donāt drive, my husband wears a shtreimel and shoulder length peyos.
BUT
I try to be a good person, I love my family, friends and chocolate, I love Hashem and try to follow his will, I wish the best for the people I love, I make mistakes, I try to be honest, happy, see the good in other people and so much more just like most of you hear on the site.
Arenāt we similar after all?
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 10:22 pm
amother Starflower wrote: | Iām also Satmar Chassidish. Satmar on this website feels like being an Orthodox Jew in the secular world. People think weāre fascinating at best or downright crazy. Anyone else Satmar chassidish or other chassidus feels this way?
In the big picture I think weāre not so different.
Yes I shave, my English is not perfect, I donāt drive, my husband wears a shtreimel and shoulder length peyos.
BUT
I try to be a good person, I love my family, friends and chocolate, I love Hashem and try to follow his will, I wish the best for the people I love, I make mistakes, I try to be honest, happy, see the good in other people and so much more just like most of you hear on the site.
Arenāt we similar after all? |
100%
except for the chocolate;-)
and the shaving (though I do shave my legs) and the driving and the shtreimel (my husband wears a black hat - shtreimel is way more elegant)
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 10:47 pm
I might be biased (ok I am biased) but, it is well known in the heimish corporate world that Satmar girls have unique talent and ability.
Iāve heard this from bosses in BP, Williamsburg and Monsey.
Some are even runaway Satmar People but reverted to Satmar employees because of their capabilities.
Not writing this to flaunt anything
but to point out our education is just as good as anyone elseās if you want it to be.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 05 2023, 10:56 pm
amother Cornsilk wrote: | I might be biased (ok I am biased) but, it is well known in the heimish corporate world that Satmar girls have unique talent and ability.
Iāve heard this from bosses in BP, Williamsburg and Monsey.
Some are even runaway Satmar People but reverted to Satmar employees because of their capabilities.
Not writing this to flaunt anything
but to point out our education is just as good as anyone elseās if you want it to be. |
Same for the menās side of the room. My husband spoke English poorly when we got married. He opened a well grounded business in shana rishona and is doing great bh.
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Fri, Oct 06 2023, 5:41 am
amother OP wrote: | I think I'm really middle of the road Satmar. I really don't see how I'm modern. Can you please expound on how you came to this conclusion |
I am not the one that said that but I donāt think you are āmodern satmarā I think ppl have an idea of what satmar is and since you are not that then you then you are modern. I personally consider myself āmodern chassidishā I drive, I have Netflix and a smart phone, I went to university and encourage my children to do so too but at the same time we are very connected to our chassidus and live according to that derech. I do not consider modern chassidish to be negative but somehow the term modern satmar sounds bad to me š¤·š½āāļø.
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amother
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Fri, Oct 06 2023, 5:56 am
My question went unanswered and garnered no sympathetic responses
So I will post again and hope to receive a response.
Is there a judgmental attitude in terms of tznius, especially towards others who arenāt chassidish?
Amongst each other you noted itās āhorrorā if you wear black stockings, and that thin stockings arenāt acceptable. No problem butā¦
Regarding other Jews - are you ok with their level of tznius and aware of the standard basic Halacha in terms of what applies to them? Hold them as keeping ālowerā than you?
My SIL is satmar and hurt me before when it came to tznius by calling me nebach. It was not appropriate especially as we were secluded in a place where there was a very slim chance of men coming.
No fake responses, please be real
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amother
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Fri, Oct 06 2023, 8:08 am
emee2 wrote: | I am not the one that said that but I donāt think you are āmodern satmarā I think ppl have an idea of what satmar is and since you are not that then you then you are modern. I personally consider myself āmodern chassidishā I drive, I have Netflix and a smart phone, I went to university and encourage my children to do so too but at the same time we are very connected to our chassidus and live according to that derech. I do not consider modern chassidish to be negative but somehow the term modern satmar sounds bad to me š¤·š½āāļø. |
How is it possible to say you "live according to the derech" of your chasidus if you admit to watching movies, having unfiltered internet, going to non-Jewish schools and encouraging your children to do all of the same of these?! This sounds more like cognitive dissonance.
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amother
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Fri, Oct 06 2023, 8:10 am
amother Trillium wrote: | My question went unanswered and garnered no sympathetic responses
So I will post again and hope to receive a response.
Is there a judgmental attitude in terms of tznius, especially towards others who arenāt chassidish?
Amongst each other you noted itās āhorrorā if you wear black stockings, and that thin stockings arenāt acceptable. No problem butā¦
Regarding other Jews - are you ok with their level of tznius and aware of the standard basic Halacha in terms of what applies to them? Hold them as keeping ālowerā than you?
My SIL is satmar and hurt me before when it came to tznius by calling me nebach. It was not appropriate especially as we were secluded in a place where there was a very slim chance of men coming.
No fake responses, please be real |
How can one justify dropping their full level of tznius based on the idea that the chance men will see them is only slim? And, perhaps, what you are assuming is an okay but only a "lower" level of tznius is really not so okay objectively.
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