Grade reunion | Imamother

troby

Tue, May 23 2023, 10:22 am

My grade just had our 10th grade reunion. It looked like a 9th grade party with everyone sitting with their high school cliques and not even turning around once to greet the girls sitting on the other side. I sat with my friends and had a good time but I was really looking forward to catching up with my classmates I hadn't seen in years. I tried making eye contact or talking to girls but they ignored me and continued talking to their friends. It felt like I was invisible to them. Not worth just to be greeted. My friends felt the same way. The next morning I sent a message on the grade chat saying that some girls came home from the reunion feeling unseen and we should work on greeting everyone as a grade and in zechus of making everyone feel welcome we should merit yeshuos. I started getting calls from the heads that they were upset that they worked so hard on the reunion and I'd put a a damp on the whole thing. What are your thoughts about this?
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Java

Tue, May 23 2023, 10:24 am

I mean I agree with you in essence
But if someone said that on my grade chat it would come across as a little socially off/not reading the room
That's just the impression that it would give, but otherwise you're totally right
People don't change.

Blessing1 ↓

Tue, May 23 2023, 11:01 am

I stopped going to reunions for this reason. I used to make an effort to go, travel 3 hours round trip, just to see grown adults that have teenagers themselves, behave like high school girls. It's not worth the effort for me.

↑ Blessing1

Tue, May 23 2023, 11:13 am

Java wrote:

I don't think it's socially off, I think OP did the right thing. Those that can't handle it, are immature high school girls.

BusyMama1

Tue, May 23 2023, 11:25 am

You are so right and very smart to point it out since some people don't even notice that they are acting that way.

I hear the head though too, that they don't want a neg comment after the event. But I think you were right for saying it.

Good Friend

Tue, May 23 2023, 11:34 am

Maybe in the future you can suggest to whoever arranges these reunions to plan some funny games that will cause everyone to interact and have a good time, and have time for chatting after that once everyone is comfortable with each other and in a good mood.