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amother ↓

Thu, Sep 20 2007, 11:59 pm

do you do this?
we havne't done this before, but this year we're doing it.
basically you put a candle in your bedroom lit so that you won't...u know...do the forbidden stuff on YK.

DO you do this? (the candle that is...)

match

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 1:12 am

we did this on the first Yom Kippur of our married life.
This year I would most likely not do this, since we have a toddler in our room and she can't sleep well if there's a light. So I think of leaving an electric light next to our room so the light would be able to enter. My dh is going to ask a rav tomorrow if that's ok..

miriamnechama

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 3:03 am

I wouldn't do it for safety reasons and never did do it.

drumjj

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 3:19 am

use a kosher lamp?

hila

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 4:13 am

sound like an invernted chumra to me

If you are not allowed to do "it" - you wont do it.

Do you go eat icecream when you ae fleishic ? Or walk out the house with no hat on ? And you manage 2 weeks out of 4. WHy is yk different ?

Last edited by hila on Fri, Sep 21 2007, 4:42 am; edited 1 time in total

baba

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 4:41 am

I've never heard of this and agree with Hila.

chanab ↓

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 6:44 am

It doesn´t have to be a candle specifically but there should be light coming into the room.

↑ chanab

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 6:50 am

It doesn´t have to be a candle specifically but there should be light coming into the room, afaik.

shalhevet ↓

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 8:35 am

hila wrote:

It's not an invented chumra at all. I don't know if everyone holds like this, but I learned it's halacha.

We have 'fences' for lots of things. Do you write on Shabbat? So why is a pencil muktza? As a 'fence'.

chocolate moose

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 10:22 am

I have also learned this.

lamplighter

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 10:23 am

learned the same thing. My DH has gone away the past 2 Yk so we've never done it but I always learned it.

Ruchel

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 10:50 am

I never heard of this, neither the candle nor the light. I don't think it sounds safe (the candle) or practical to sleep (light), and if we manage 12 days we will manage on a soooo not exciting day like YK! shock

Mama Bear

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 10:52 am

never heard of this!

greenfire

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 10:54 am

never heard of it ...
are shabbos candles safe ?!
candles ... hm ... seem romantic ...
and if you can't why would you even think otherwise ?!?!?! shock

shopaholic

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 11:43 am

Never heard of this, but I agree with Hila. Also, if it's to have light in the room, my bathroom light is on & I have a Shabbos lamp.

↑ amother ↓

Fri, Sep 21 2007, 12:14 pm

I like to put scented candles in the room to set the mood for hmm hmm, so it probably wouldn't work for me!!!
And never heard of it.

greentiger ↓

Sat, Sep 22 2007, 4:36 pm

For all those of us who haven't heard of this, I just asked DH and he said it's mefurash in the mishna brurah.

IMO having a candle in the room at night sounds very romantic, but he said it's to make having relations assur, but it's assur anyways so what is having an extra issur gonna help..?

Raisin

Sat, Sep 22 2007, 5:11 pm

We used to use a candle but we have a kosher lamp so dh said we should use that. The problem is it was shining right in my face and I am very light sensitive when sleeping, I need total darkness. So I shut it. I anyway had a bad tummy bug the whole night, I figured that was enough of a fence.

I think you use a yarzeit candle.

klotzkashe

Sat, Sep 22 2007, 5:32 pm

it's written in shulchan oruch

↑ shalhevet

Sat, Sep 22 2007, 5:39 pm

I wonder if a Shabbos lamp would be okay, since you can close it if you want to.

We use a 'yartzheit' candle, and it doesn't bother me sleeping.

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