How do I deal with my 9 year old.

miriamnechama ↓

Sun, Jan 04 2009, 11:19 am

There are certain issues that are getting worse over the past few months and I'm getting fed up and really don't know how to deal with it.

1. lately he refuses to let me leave thehouse at night once he comes back from cheder making things I need to do like mikva impossible. he once barred me from opening thedoor aa I was on the way out, if I go out it's for 5 minutes.. I was laos told that it's not so terrible from aged 9, alot of my neighbours do it and to find firl babysitters are very hard plus tehre is now theissue of yichud. he gets worried that he has to babysit ds2 but I told him he doesn't need toa n d I even took ds2 with sometimes, but he still makes life impossible.

I try to schedule my dr's appointmentys while he's still in cheder but if I'm running late he'll expect a din vcheshban as to where I am/was sometimes I'm not interested in telling him and I thinkit's non of his business.

mikva is geting harder but now I try to go when he is just coming back from cheder.. ie at 5 so I'm out before he comes back, but then teh cell starts ringing.. so I put it on quiet, I don't want to have to tell hoim where I go, but he doesn't get it. also if I don't go then when he comes back I'll just never be able to get out.

dh works late so I can't ask him to come back early, and the attendant told me last year she trained her kids froma young age that mommy can go out when she wants and they have no right to ask where.. her married children do the same.

it's the same thing when I have to see the ob/gyn which is quite regualrly now... I don't want him at theclinic there.. he's the type that just doesn't understand when I say he can't come into the u/s room or the ob/gyn he will davka come in. which I''m not interested, and if I'm runninglate there and I don't want him there I don't feel I have to tell him where I am/ what thedr is doing etc. (just today a saw a preg woman take her kids to the u/s room but I def wouldn't do it for fertility issues)

What ami supposed to do with him?

any ideas??