How to address dc bullying

amother

OP ↓

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 9:59 pm

He's almost 4. I'm not sure how clear and accurate picture I have, but seems like he's lately made the same boy cry several times. Once he tore his paper, other times was physical hurting. It's hard for me to get clear response from him why he's doing it. For tearing paper he said someone tore his. I'm wondering how to put a stop to it. Pls advise. He's very sensitive, cries very easily if someone fights with him or tells him something negative. So I'm pretty surprised he would make someone else cry.
But maybe it's due to him being taken advantage from at home from his pandas sibling, like he gives in frequently though he'd rather not or when he's being hurt by sibling will cry but most of the time not fight back. Prob cuz he's learnt its not worth getting into fight.....and I'm wondering if he's letting it out in school.

amother

Navyblue

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 11:27 pm

It’s so sad when we see our pure children hurting others. I’m not an expert but I’m in a similar boat with my daughter who is almost 4. She experiences a lot of physical violence from her brothers unfortunately.
Here is my plan of action. I believe that “hurt people, hurt people.”

1. As much as I can, I try to show her lots of warmth physically (hugs and snuggling) and by catching her being good and complimenting her.

2. When we’re around other children where she might be mean to them, I try to stay close to her and prevent as much as possible.

3. When I didn’t prevent her from acting mean, I’ll apologize to the other children in front of her. “I’m so sorry x did that to you. That really wasn’t nice. You’re a good kid.”

4. I try to have my daughter apologize . I’ll give her the script of what to say.

It’s so upsetting and embarrassing to see our kids act like this. There is no magic solution. I’m hoping that with what I wrote above, things will get better for me (and for you.)

amother

↑ OP

Sun, Jan 05 2025, 12:30 pm

Is having talk about it, and telling him will ask him daily about it and reward positive behavior with small treat just bribing? Or is it doing anything?