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amother
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 Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:07 pm
I have a dilemma I neee advice on. Going anon cuz people know my situation
My husband is currently unemployed but pursuing something that could be promising. I’m currently working a 9-6 but from 3:45 and on its from home. I have a 4 month old that is home with me when I work from home
Basically long story short. I am overworked and undertrained. I have to be on call and monitoring when I’m home so some days there’s no time for suppers or cleaning and my personal life is fully on hold. Just managing to take care of my baby and that’s it. I don’t have a break ever.
If and when imh my husband gets this job is it worth quitting so I can be there for my family?
Bear in mind having two incomes also means that I have a babysitting expense and I have to pay for a second car.
I don’t mind working but 9-6 really doesn’t work and 9-3 wouldn’t justify the added expenses.
What do I do??
I don’t know if this is mom guilt speaking or just burnout.
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calvinhobbs
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Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:21 pm
Yes you’re working very hard and you’re also in a stage when hard work out of the house is compounded with hard work in the house.
My advice is don’t make any decisions now, sit tight and wait for husbands income and make a decision then based on the age, stage, wage at hand.
Hatzlacha and may it be easy for you.
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amother
Teal
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Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:49 pm
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I posted the same response on the other similar thread. If you need the money there’s nothing to talk about really. BE”H there should come for you a time when you don’t need the money and at that point you will be blessed with options to choose from.
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amother
Denim
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Mon, Dec 30 2024, 11:12 pm
Agree with the above, and I would add that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Wait until your husband has a job, then you can discuss cutting your hours. If you work until 3:45 you’ll be cutting out the most stressful part of your day. Yes, working comes with expenses but hopefully you’re still earning after expenses.
If your current job is not flexible on hours you can look for something else more part time, but this can only happen after DH has a job.
If his opportunity falls through and you can’t cut back, he has to watch the baby in the afternoon and contribute to the household tasks.
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amother
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Mon, Dec 30 2024, 11:33 pm
| amother Denim wrote: | Agree with the above, and I would add that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Wait until your husband has a job, then you can discuss cutting your hours. If you work until 3:45 you’ll be cutting out the most stressful part of your day. Yes, working comes with expenses but hopefully you’re still earning after expenses.
If your current job is not flexible on hours you can look for something else more part time, but this can only happen after DH has a job.
If his opportunity falls through and you can’t cut back, he has to watch the baby in the afternoon and contribute to the household tasks. |
Once I get home from work he’s a really big help. Cleans the house while I’m out and will run errands that need to get done. It’s just my guilt of not being a present mother for my baby that’s eating away at me
But maybe my obligation lies with providing for my baby too. So he has a house to live in… so many conflicting thoughts
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HarrietW
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Mon, Dec 30 2024, 11:42 pm
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Is this a job that has growth and potential? You have to think about your future as well… it’s healthy to have a job/ career for when your children are older but obviously needs to be manageable in between
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amother
Pumpkin
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Mon, Dec 30 2024, 11:45 pm
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Can you get a different job that’s not 9-6?
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amother
Candycane
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Mon, Dec 30 2024, 11:59 pm
Can I scream this from the roof??! Money comes from
Hashem. NOT from working like a dog. Period. Internalize it. And then take action.
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