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No nap vs late nap

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amother

OP ↓

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 12:44 pm

My almost 2.5yr has been fighting naps with his daycare morah.

He comes home at 3 and bedtime is 7ish.

Some days I've put him to bed at 3 and wake him for 4 (sometimes happy other times he's more cranky) but then bed time time is later and or the evening is ROUGH

But on the flip side of he doesn't nap bedtime is still 7 or just before, but he has a bit of falling asleep on couch followed by overtired and sometimes he has night terrors when skipping naps.

Wondering what other mommies do in this situation. My other kid is a baby.

amother

Copper

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 12:54 pm

why not move up bedtime?

Brit in Israel

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 12:57 pm

I have it at that age that they stop napping but get tired after school. if you put them to rest after school do not let it go for longer than 20 mins. it is enough for them to get rested up but not enough to push off bedtime (sometimes by a max of 30 mins) Ive done it with all my kids and didnt have any problems.
Its really tempting to let them sleep just a few more mins that you can finish doing the laundry or supper, I know btdt, but if they sleep for a minute after 30 mins they go in a deep sleep and it makes things worse.
You may have to sit with them for the first few minutes after you wake them up whilst they get their barings.

ETA: if your baby is sleeping at the same time, make the most of it and close your eyes on the couch for 10-15 mins yourself, put on an alarm on your phone. The rest of your day will go so much better if you are usually tired in the evenings. Its amazing what such a short time of shut eyes can do.

Last edited by Brit in Israel on Wed, Dec 04 2024, 12:59 pm; edited 1 time in total

amother

↑ OP

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 12:59 pm

amother Copper wrote:

why not move up bedtime?

My husband gets home late and it's important to me that my kids get a few minutes with him before bed. Plus the earlier they go down the earlier they're up and I'm not looking to be up earlier than we already are

amother

Tulip

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 1:11 pm

Let him nap from 3-4 and put him to sleep at 9:30 for the night.

I do that when my toddler didn't nap all day.

amother

Ballota

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 2:42 pm

It’s a stage/age that all kids go through. You just have to rough it for a few months till they can handle being up 12 hours straight

amother

Quince

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 2:44 pm

My kids at that age are in bed at 6/6:30 with no nap.

amother

Papaya

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 3:10 pm

I used to let my son sleep in the car the way home from Morah and that was his nap. 15-20 min max and he was still able to sleep at 7.

amother

Grape

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 3:37 pm

amother Quince wrote:

My kids at that age are in bed at 6/6:30 with no nap.

my baby is 2 and this is what I do, not my choice to drop nap but I kind of love it ...

amother

Chicory ↓

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 3:54 pm

I used to be like you keeping my little one up till my dh came home. I later realized how I thought it was for her benefit but she was really suffering from it.
Now they go to bed earlier if they see daddy good if not there’s always Shabbos.

amother

Viola

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 3:58 pm

amother Chicory wrote:

I agree we facetime every night before little ones go to bed.

teachkids

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 4:00 pm

We gave up on abba time at night and instead he spends time with them in the morning before he leaves for shul.

amother

↑ Chicory

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 4:10 pm

amother Viola wrote:

I agree we facetime every night before little ones go to bed.

That’s so nice! I should start doing that thanks for the idea

amother

Lightcoral

Wed, Dec 04 2024, 4:22 pm

My 2.5 yo stopped napping most days a while ago.
When no nap she sleeps from about 7:30 to 9 sometimes she even falls asleep just before bedtime if we happen to be out and coming home in the car, I wake her up quickly, within 10-15 mins and she still falls asleep at bedtime.
On days when she naps mainly Friday and Shabbos she's up until 8/9 in the evening.
When she was napping properly she couldn't have her bedtime before 9.

artist770

Thu, Dec 05 2024, 5:05 pm

I would skip the afternoon nap and hold off till bedtime

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