|
|
|
|
|
Forum
-> Chinuch, Education & Schooling
Has your child been suspended
|
Yes, multiple times |
|
15% |
[ 12 ] |
Only once |
|
8% |
[ 7 ] |
No never |
|
72% |
[ 58 ] |
No my kids school doesn't believe in that |
|
3% |
[ 3 ] |
|
Total Votes : 80 |
|
amother
OP
|
Tue, Nov 12 2024, 8:52 pm
My kid in middle school is suspended again from school. This happens once a year and they say my kid was so badly behaved and disturbing and ruining the learning for other kids and nothing they tried helped.
This is so damaging, my kid like lives up to this title.
Do I need a new school? Why can't they figure it out?
| |
|
Back to top |
19
0
|
amother
Catmint
|
Tue, Nov 12 2024, 8:55 pm
What was their plan before suspension? Is he getting help? Are you involved? Or do they ignore until they can’t anymore?
| |
|
Back to top |
0
2
|
amother
Stonewash
|
Tue, Nov 12 2024, 8:57 pm
the dean tried suspending my neurodiverse son. dh called and yelled and cursed. he never started up with our family again
| |
|
Back to top |
12
0
|
amother
Snowdrop
|
Tue, Nov 12 2024, 10:14 pm
amother OP wrote: | My kid in middle school is suspended again from school. This happens once a year and they say my kid was so badly behaved and disturbing and ruining the learning for other kids and nothing they tried helped.
This is so damaging, my kid like lives up to this title.
Do I need a new school? Why can't they figure it out? |
What have you been doing to try to help your child?
| |
|
Back to top |
0
12
|
amother
|
Tue, Nov 12 2024, 10:17 pm
amother OP wrote: | My kid in middle school is suspended again from school. This happens once a year and they say my kid was so badly behaved and disturbing and ruining the learning for other kids and nothing they tried helped.
This is so damaging, my kid like lives up to this title.
Do I need a new school? Why can't they figure it out? |
What are you doing to figure it out?
| |
|
Back to top |
0
19
|
amother
Yolk
|
Tue, Nov 12 2024, 11:24 pm
Yes, this was my first question. You and the school together need to try to work together to help your DS. What have you been doing? Ultimately it falls on you.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
5
|
amother
|
Tue, Nov 12 2024, 11:30 pm
amother OP wrote: | My kid in middle school is suspended again from school. This happens once a year and they say my kid was so badly behaved and disturbing and ruining the learning for other kids and nothing they tried helped.
This is so damaging, my kid like lives up to this title.
Do I need a new school? Why can't they figure it out? |
OP, you need to figure it out, not the school. What are you doing about the situation?
| |
|
Back to top |
0
9
|
dena613
|
Yesterday at 12:28 am
Your child is your achrayus.
Meaning, if he needs glasses, that's on you, not the school.
If he needs braces, that's on you, not the school.
Similarly, if he needs a neuropsych eval, or medication, or therapy, that's all in you, because ultimately he is your pikadon.
What have you done for your child? Does he have a diagnosis?
| |
|
Back to top |
0
12
|
amother
Pearl
|
Yesterday at 11:42 am
My son got sent home from school last year.
He ran away from the classroom without permission (he was 4) and the teachers needed to chase him around the school.
He deserved to be sent home, what he did was not only disruptive but dangerous.
I think the school was right in what they did.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
4
|
amother
Lawngreen
|
Yesterday at 11:48 am
amother Pearl wrote: | My son got sent home from school last year.
He ran away from the classroom without permission (he was 4) and the teachers needed to chase him around the school.
He deserved to be sent home, what he did was not only disruptive but dangerous.
I think the school was right in what they did. |
Because 4 year olds are capable of understanding what adults can.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
8
|
amother
|
Yesterday at 12:55 pm
amother Pearl wrote: | My son got sent home from school last year.
He ran away from the classroom without permission (he was 4) and the teachers needed to chase him around the school.
He deserved to be sent home, what he did was not only disruptive but dangerous.
I think the school was right in what they did. |
Sorry but a 4 year old is not going to understand the consequences of being sent home.. I think the school should have communicated with you so you could get him to understand the danger (a 4 yr old being “disruptive” is normal and not cause for punishment) but sending him home is not the right thing to do in any case
| |
|
Back to top |
0
6
|
amother
DarkOrange
|
Yesterday at 1:18 pm
Assuming your child doesn't have a diagnosis then yes your school needs to provide the chinuch that you pay for. Unfortunately many yeshivas feel that chinuch is the job of the parents who are not witnessing the behavior, or a therapist if the parents won't take responsibility for the child's acting out. Sending him home is more of a message to you than to your child, you need to take off work, babysit, follow up with a perp walk (if they call you down before they allow him to return to class)
I have found that when you come on strong to the school, they usually back down but they will try to undermine you so be aware.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
amother
Rose
|
Yesterday at 1:28 pm
It's the school's responsibility to educate your child, the child's behavior is on the parents. You're raising an adult
| |
|
Back to top |
0
5
|
amother
Anemone
|
Yesterday at 1:33 pm
This way of thinking is foreign to me. The whole "us" vs. "them" thing with the school.
If my child is having a hard time, for whatever reason, I want to help them. That means brainstorming with the teachers, calling in the principals if need be, coming up with ideas on my own. That means asking them to support me, and being willing to support them.
What is your son doing that's so bad? Was this based on one bad day, or was this just the last straw? Does he act like this at home too? If so, how do you address it? If not, what are his feelings towards school, and how can you/his teachers help with that?
If your son is actually disrupting the class on a regular basis, something has to change. Maybe it's the wrong class for him. Maybe he needs additional motivation to succeed. Maybe he needs other supports so he feels successful. Maybe it's as simple as a seat change. But you can't dump the responsibility on the school unless you've taken the time to figure out what's wrong and try to work with them to fix it...
| |
|
Back to top |
0
5
|
amother
Steel
|
Yesterday at 2:38 pm
My child BH behaves in school but got suspended (sent home for two days) from sleepaway camp for doing a particular prank....we worked with the camp (brought child home, talked it out with our kid, why kid was doing that, what kid could do to get out of getting into that situation, etc...) and were able to send child back with no further incident that summer, but we did switch to a different camp the following year. We felt there were reasons why our child was joining the kids making trouble in the first camp, and the change and a different environment was much better for child.
You have to evaluate why this is happening, why your child is being drawn to being the class troublemaker. Is it because of what goes on in school, or something else? What are the possibilities, and is another school with a different approach better for your child.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
amother
|
Yesterday at 2:52 pm
amother DarkOrange wrote: | Assuming your child doesn't have a diagnosis then yes your school needs to provide the chinuch that you pay for. Unfortunately many yeshivas feel that chinuch is the job of the parents who are not witnessing the behavior, or a therapist if the parents won't take responsibility for the child's acting out. Sending him home is more of a message to you than to your child, you need to take off work, babysit, follow up with a perp walk (if they call you down before they allow him to return to class)
I have found that when you come on strong to the school, they usually back down but they will try to undermine you so be aware. |
I disagree.
OP said that her son getting suspended, is an ongoing issue. It's not the first or 2nd time it happened. OP is blaming the school, when really it is her responsibility.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
4
|
Mamushka
↓
|
Yesterday at 3:17 pm
Being susspended once a year doesn't sound so bad to me. The kids I know, who got susspended, were susspended a few times a year.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
amother
|
Yesterday at 3:33 pm
Mamushka wrote: | Being susspended once a year doesn't sound so bad to me. The kids I know, who got susspended, were susspended a few times a year. |
I cannot imagine a school taking back a student that gets suspended afew times a year. I also can't think of any kid that I know that got suspended afew times a year. Maybe you're getting mixed up with a kid just being sent out of class?
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
↑
Mamushka
|
Yesterday at 3:37 pm
amother Oleander wrote: | I cannot imagine a school taking back a student that gets suspended afew times a year. I also can't think of any kid that I know that got suspended afew times a year. Maybe you're getting mixed up with a kid just being sent out of class? |
Nope, I didn't get mixed up. I guess where I live, it's different.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
TwinsMommy
|
Yesterday at 8:56 pm
Solidarity to the other 10 of you who voted yes, multiple times. Did y'all get expelled and switch schools? We did. Then the new school didn't work out either and he ended up homeschooling for 11th and 12th grade--- yippee.
Those on an IEP with a diagnosis--- if your kiddo is behavioral, don't bother trying the Jewish or private schools. Public school MUST provide a free and appropriate education. My son got dumped from PUBLIC school so THEY paid to send him to an expensive special ed charter. We kept him there from 4th through 10th because even though it wasn't a good fit academically, it was a GREAT fit otherwise. Other than academics--- a great school---- other than that Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?
If your kiddo is suspended over and over again and they DON'T have a special ed diagnosis/ IEP....... why not? Do you not feel they need one? A lot of behavioral stuff is from adhd/ autism/ ODD/ etc etc etc.
And yes, I agree that the IEP team needs to consist of the school AND the parents equally. We all need to work hand in hand.
For those on IEPs already and in a therapeutic school already (or at least a public school)---- try an FBA/ BIP. Not that it worked for MY kid, but your mileage may vary.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
Related Topics |
Replies |
Last Post |
|
|
Make my sheitel shiny again
|
2 |
Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:48 pm |
|
|
Uch, we are smoked up again!
|
11 |
Sun, Nov 10 2024, 1:58 pm |
|
|
Sleep training again
|
1 |
Sun, Oct 27 2024, 11:06 pm |
|
|
Failed road test again
|
13 |
Mon, Jul 29 2024, 2:26 am |
|
|
My Cake Flopped (again)
|
17 |
Tue, Jun 18 2024, 10:00 am |
|
|
Imamother may earn commission when you use our links to make a purchase.
© 2024 Imamother.com - All rights reserved
| |
|
|
|
|
|