Relations tonight allowed

amother

Mintgreen

Sat, Oct 12 2024, 7:43 pm

amother OP wrote:

if its not mikvah night?

Why not?
Only last night was not allowed.

shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 1:48 am

There are TWO nights in the Jewish calendar that mikvah/intimacy is ASSUR. Those are 9 av and YK. That is it. Any other night it is allowed. Those are the only 2 nights that any mikvah will be CLOSED.

amother

Dahlia ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 2:11 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

Many people hold there are certain nights they are only intimate if it's mikva night so I believe that was her question. Last night wasn't one of those.
https://shulchanaruchharav.com.....ance/

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 2:15 am

amother Dahlia wrote:

Many people hold there are certain nights they are only intimate if it's mikva night so I believe that was her question. Last night wasn't one of those.
https://shulchanaruchharav.com.....ance/

I was telling her the HALACHA, not kabbala or minhagim.

amother

↑ Dahlia ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 2:18 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

I was telling her the HALACHA, not kabbala or minhagim.

Right. I'm pretty sure she knew that and asked about those other nights since she mentioned "it's not mikvah night", and we are in yom tov season.

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 2:20 am

amother Dahlia wrote:

Right. I'm pretty sure she knew that and asked about those other nights since she mentioned "it's not mikvah night", and we are in yom tov season.

Molly Weasley ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 6:57 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

I was telling her the HALACHA, not kabbala or minhagim.

Because God forbid we should tell people the PROPER thing to do.

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:01 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

Because God forbid we should tell people the PROPER thing to do.

huh?

amother

↑ Dahlia ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:11 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

Because God forbid we should tell people the PROPER thing to do.

Why be nasty a day after YK and not have a normal convo like I did?

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:18 am

There's no issue whatsoever having relations after YK afaik

But the attitude of some posters when asked for advice to only state the bear bones halacha and pretending that the SA and MB or somehow just "minhhig and chumra" is very disheartening.

@shabbatiscoming brings this up every time this question is asked.

amother

Aqua ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:22 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

I agree with the sentiment but in 1000% against the way it was stated

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:24 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

I just pointed it out. You were snarky. Very nice for the day after yom kippur.

And Im not sure why the bear bones of the halacha is so bad if that is what we learned.

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:31 am

amother Aqua wrote:

I agree with the sentiment but in 1000% against the way it was stated

Conversations don't start and end by each thread. @shabbatiscoming brings this up every single time s/o asks for advice.

Others do it too, but to her credit, shabbatiscoming consistently uses her name. The rest are usually anonymous.

amother

↑ Dahlia

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:33 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

The good thing is you're attacking under your SN too which is also uncommon.

↑ shabbatiscoming ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:33 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

And why cant I bring it up? Whats wrong with letting women know that there are 2 nights when a mikvah will 100% be closed? I dont see whats wrong with this. And yes, I will use my username. Ive been here almost 20 years. No reason to not post under my screen name.

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:41 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

I just pointed it out. You were snarky. Very nice for the day after yom kippur.

And Im not sure why the bear bones of the halacha is so bad if that is what we learned.

I was responding to your passive aggressive HALACHA!!!! post

Bear bones halacha is a b'deved.
If strive for the best for everything in our lives, and we should definitely do the same for Hashem.

The relations issue is a sticking point, because the SA, our literal guide to Jewish life, is very clear how we should be living. And whenever someone brings it up here, it's always knocked as being extreme.

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 7:56 am

shabbatiscoming wrote:

You could do whatever you want 🙂

You've sent the same message when people ask about RH, and I'm sorry to tell this to you, but it's not proper.

We live by the SA. The Kaff Hachaim (sefardi) and MB (ashkenazi) both say to refrain from RH night, even though the mikvah is open.

Wolfsbane

Sun, Oct 13 2024, 8:14 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

I didn't even know there were halachos about bear skeletons. I learn new things here all the time!