Babysitting during shul for yomim noraim

kangamom

Today at 7:22 am

What is normal in your community/shul to do with the young kids during davening? Please don't tell me to watch them all day myself as I'm not able to. Do you take turns babysitting eachother's kids with one or 2 friends? Do you hire non jewish babysitters? Shul provide babysitting? Share babysitting with a relative?

Elfrida

Today at 7:35 am

I know some people pair up with a neighbour, so one goes to shul while the other one stays home with the children, and second day they switch.

balance ↓

Today at 7:39 am

Why does it matter what the norm is?
You have listed all the options, now choose what works for you.

I daven netz and come home after Shacharis then my husband goes to the regular minyan and I'm home with the kids. But that likely isn't an option for you so it isn't relevant.

teachkids

Today at 7:41 am

We have babysitting in shul, but years I have an infant I hire a non Jewish babysitter in the house.

ShishKabob

Today at 7:42 am

I'm sure I'll get tomatoes for this, but to me hiring a non jew to babysit your kids on Rosh Hashonoh just doesn't align with the spirit of the day. There's nothing more holy than a mother taking care of her children. Who remembers the story of Reb Levi Yitzchok M'Bardichev?

We would sometimes pair up with a neighbor and take turns davening.
Ksiva Vchasima Tova

Brit in Israel

Today at 7:46 am

The normal is what you don't want to hear.

What we do is DH davens at neitz minyan which finishes around 11.15/30.
11.50 is the start of musaf for the regular minyan and I go for that.

Women have no Mitzva to daven in shul if they have young kids.

Bnei Berak 10

Today at 8:07 am

ShishKabob wrote:

I don't see a problem to hire someone to babysit. Mothers are also human beings. So it's 100% fine for mommy to stay at home and daven with the kids around but is it uplifting? Not really.

↑ balance

Today at 8:17 am

ShishKabob wrote:

I can't like this enough.
There are many ways of davening. One of them is by playing lego. I remember one notable year where my tefila was "Hashem, you see even on Rosh Hashana my kids need me around the clock. Give me a good year for them."

Biggest zechus that there is.
But it's hard.

watergirl

Today at 8:39 am

Brit in Israel wrote:

We did this for years because my husband davens neitz every day of the year, so it was normal for him. When we moved to a community with babysitting at shul, we tried that, but my kids really just preferred the old system.

tulip3

Today at 8:46 am

ShishKabob wrote:

So it's still holy if another mother watches your kids who happen to be Jewish? If it's the best and holiest for a mother to watch her own kids then outsourcing it, no matter who the person is, should not align with the spirit of the day according to you.

OOTforlife

Today at 9:20 am

Our shul provides non-Jewish babysitters to watch toddlers. For older children, they have their own services, with stories and activities that follow the davening, led by Jewish staff and separated by age.