 |
|
 |
 |
|
|
Forum
-> Relationships
-> Giving Gifts
amother
|
 Mon, Apr 22 2024, 2:08 am
|
I gave all my kids' teachers gift cards for 100-150 shekel apiece for Purim. The gift card site allows me to check the balance and I can see that only one of them used their card. The others are still full. I really want to see them used and enjoyed! Should I ask them about them? They don't expire until 2029 but I thought before Pesach would be the perfect time to use them. They're accepted in at least 50 stores, maybe 100, mostly frum clothing and shoe stores.
| |
|
| Back to top |
 1
 1
|
shabbatiscoming
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 2:11 am
No, do not ask them. And stop looking to see if theyve used them.
It was a gift. Now its in their hands. Now you let them use it when and how they want.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
38
|
|
amother
Powderblue
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 2:28 am
|
Someone gave me a real nice gift card and I want to get myself something specific with it. I simply didn't get the time to go get it before yom tov so it'll wait till after. I hope she doesnt think I'm not going to use it
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
3
|
|
amother
Firethorn
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 3:10 pm
I'm a playgroup morah. I very often get gift cards from gift card registery(sound very similar to your system) I collect them and wait until I have enough to buy what I want.
So instead of spending a $36 gift, I'll wait and spend a few hundreds. They're valid a few years so it's convenient!
In any case, it would be super awkward to ask them how they used it or why they didn't use it. Please don't!!
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
17
|
|
amother
Almond
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 3:12 pm
|
Very tacky to follow up. It's a gift you gave. End of story.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
16
|
|
amother
DarkYellow
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 3:17 pm
|
I would be extremely creeped out and uncomfortable if someone gave me a gift card and checked out the website to see if I used it or not.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
20
|
|
amother
Chambray
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 5:08 pm
I’m sure you mean well but please stop checking if they used it or not. Realize it’s a busy time and they might’ve not gotten around to treating themselves. I’m sure if they would know how anxious you are they would rush to use it 
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
7
|
zaq
↓
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 6:07 pm
|
I'll be blunt: it's none of your business. Your acceptable involvement stops when you deliver the gift. I would feel both incensed and violated if my gift giver monitored my expenditures. They don't owe you anything more than sincere thanks. TBH your behavior is more than a little stalkerish.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
10
|
ChutzPAh
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 6:17 pm
|
I would be creeped out if I knew my gift card giver was monitoring my usage and would honestly rather not get anything.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
7
|
↑
zaq
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 6:19 pm
|
Yep, I wouldn't use a card if I thought someone was monitoring my use--and this is exactly what you're trying to avoid.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
6
|
|
amother
Seagreen
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 6:54 pm
|
This is one of the weirdest posts I’ve read here
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
8
|
kenz
|
Mon, Apr 22 2024, 7:02 pm
|
I get it, OP. I’d want to know too. But definitely do not ask them. Just assume they’re waiting to treat themselves.
| |
|
| Back to top |
0
1
|
|
Imamother may earn commission when you use our links to make a purchase.
© 2024 Imamother.com - All rights reserved
|  |
 |
|
 |
|
|
