S/O Fat Acceptance

BmoreBubby

Fri, Jul 05 2024, 6:50 pm

amother Springgreen wrote:

It's not laziness. I mean, there's a little bit of that going on for me (and I speak strictly for myself on that). I guess when I choose to read a book instead of exercise, that's laziness. But when I keep choosing unhealthy but convenient food because I was dealing with all sorts of thing at work, with kids, with household stuff etc and in all that I didn't take the time to make a better choice, I wouldn't call that laziness. And if I struggle with cravings, that's not laziness either.

It's actually weird, you can offer me a piece of the most delicious looking and smelling cake and I will not touch it for six hours if I just ate something fleshig, no problem. But if I don't have that stopping me, I will have a very hard time not eating the cake, and probably going for seconds. So it's not a will power issue either. I dont know what I'd call it. Definitely not laziness. But for those of us who struggle with this, it's a real problem and not simple at all.

I have the same struggle! I finally conquered it (more or less) by internalizing the idea that the unhealthy food (what I determine is not health-promoting for my body) is assur to me like treif. Some people don't want to think that way because it may cause them to feel guilty eating the cake and I get that, but for me it works most of the time. (I got this idea from TorahHealth.org BTW.)

↑ Glitterveil

Mon, Jul 08 2024, 11:49 am

amother OP wrote:

But what happens when the body doesn’t have healthy signals, and following your natural cues leads to overeating, eating junk food, and becoming and staying obese? Which is what this thread is a spin off of.
Some people are blessed to be able to eat “comfortably” and stay at a normal weight (even overweight, yet not obese). Others eat “comfortably” and are obese.

I think there is a difference between 'eating comfortably' and listening to the body. It's Definity harder for some people then others, but with enough work anyone can achieve it. I think the biggest factor is that there are a lot of stigmas and/or negative thought around certain foods, like "I'm eating this cake buts it's unhealthy," or "This cucumber is healthy and therefore I can eat as much of it as I want." etc. So even though someone may be trying to be intuitive, their choices and actions are still somewhat dictated by their internal thoughts and stigmas. Listening to the body also means being honest with yourself and really thinking about your choices at times. For example, Maybe I still want to eat more xyz, but I might take a breath and ask myself "how am I physically feeling now?" and also reassuring the part of the brain that wants more by thinking "I can always have more later, This isn't the last chance to eat xyz."
I think it is also imperative to learn about what exactly is a balanced meal and the role that the macronutrients plays in the body, which helps with creating meals and snacks that are satisfying to the body and one's tastebuds.
I know this is a bit of a long paragraph, and that all of this is way easier to say and do, but know it isn't impossible, and with the right knowledge, skills, support, and - if needed - help from a professional, very attainable.