Spinoff of dh wants me to wear heels

DefyGravity

Mon, Nov 23 2009, 1:41 pm

Gam zu l'tovah wrote:

louche wrote:

OK, ladies, we all know what sort of needlessly painful things women endure to please their husbands, such as piercing their ears, wearing high heels, wearing girdles and getting Brazilian waxes.

I argue with your original premise. Women do the above to please their husbands? I say this is a false statement.

I got my ears pierced at age 13, wore high heels because I liked how they looked before I met my husband (and now that I am married I go for the comfort and lower heels), got waxed out of laziness, so I wouldn't have to shave. (Never a Brazilian eeeeeeeewwww! And I would say most men don't even know what a Brazilian is! I didn't until I joined Imamother!)

Even in the tznius threads many women asserted that they dress the way they do for themselves or "other women". So why DO women put themselves through painful procedures or the discomfort of certain fashions?

I agree. All the stupid beautification rituals I do are for myself, not DH. He doesn't notice if my eyebrows aren't tweezed to perfection and definitely doesn't notice if I don't wear a girdle with certain dresses! The only thing he ever notices are unshaved legs - and he HATES shaving (his face) because his skin is so sensitive, but he also does it fairly regularly.

↑ lovemykids

Mon, Nov 23 2009, 4:40 pm

Ruchel wrote:

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I want to look as attractive to him as I can. It is a pleasant pain for me.

The shrinks call that "alienation". Being a stranger to your own person.

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if my husband would be in pain I would not be able to handle it especially if he would do it for me.

Because you love him, right?
What does that tell about HIS feelings that he can stand it?

He does not ask me to do it. He knows it's painful for me and he told me I don't have to do it. But I still do it cuz I know how much he appreciates it.