Ironing- bad wife?

↑ chen

Sat, Aug 04 2007, 9:51 pm

chocolate moose wrote:

I don't often wear blouses, but if I do, they're wrinkle free . . they're not as soft & comfy as plain cotton, though . .

Right. In winter I wear whatever, even 100% polyester, which needs little or no ironing. In our tropical summers, though, I cannot abide anything but 100% cotton--which means ironing. I recently bought a 70% cotton-30% poly blouse, thinking that the high %age cotton would be fine for summer. Wrong! It's about as comfortable as wearing Saran Wrap.

myfriends715

Sat, Aug 04 2007, 10:54 pm

Dh only wears white button down shirts and is very particular that it have no creases.. I however, have never picked up an iron.. actually I tried once and burnt myself and the shirt, that G-d for dry cleaners... for a while DH wanted to try to cut costs so he tried to iron it himself and he used like a bottle of starch on each shirt and it still wasn't crisp enough so I explained that he's wasting $ on starch just send it to the cleaners which he now does... once in a blue moon when he runs out of shirts and has to iron one... not only is he the one to do it but he kicks me out of the room b/c I'm such a klutz hes afraid I'm gonna knoch the iron over and give myself a terrible burn... so me and the iron have seperate rooms and its gr8 4 my sholom bayis

GAMZu

Sat, Aug 04 2007, 11:51 pm

My husband wears his shirt under a vest and bekeshe... what is there to iron?
That collar is stiff, and looks neat. And that's the only thing that shows through!!

NO IRONING FOR ME!!!! Very Happy

Classicookie

Sun, Aug 05 2007, 9:21 pm

you r not a bad wife I happen to love irning I know werid but I dont sit and iron his shirts if he ask me once in a while to iron a shabbos one I will but not on a reg baises

jba

Sun, Aug 05 2007, 9:29 pm

the first few months we were married I ironed everything (including king size 100% cotton sheets -- tell kallas to NEVER get sheets like this). each time I would slighly burn my arm or hand. after one bad incident where the iron fell on my forearm DH asked me to stop. since DH only wears cotton shirts and for his work need to look presentable, our biggest expense/splurge is the dry cleaner -- she has become our good friend!

Being a good wife is more than the soecifics of what you do for your husband if your husband wanted his clothing to look a certain way but you couldn't do it as long as you compromise in a way that shows you care and want to take care of eachother -- that is a good wife - and husband!

happymom

Sun, Aug 05 2007, 9:42 pm

its def a nice wonderful thing to iron, but if you dont you are not a bad wife. my husband irons his shirts, but if he ever doesnt have time or doesnt want to, I do it because I would not want him walking around with a wrinkiled shirt cuz it doesnt look put together, same with myself and my kids.. I dont think wrinkled clothes look good, and they look shlumpy but as someone else said if you are both happy thats what matters. tell ure mil to let u live the way u want and everyone is diff...

↑ Shimmysmom

Mon, Aug 06 2007, 8:16 am

I don't know who it was that gave the suggestion to hang shirts up right out of the dryer but thanks! I just tried it and it looks like it will really make the ironing go a lot faster!!!!

↑ creativemommyto3

Mon, Aug 06 2007, 8:37 am

no problem! My rebbetzin/therapist told me to do that. She NEVER irons except for her husbands kittel since it is cotton! She always buys cotton/polyester mix so this idea will work. Although, I keep on dreaming of the day when I am so organized for shabbos that I can iron my dh's shirt for shabbos and feel good that I am taking care of him. It would be more for creating feelings of ahava on my part.

↑ amother

Mon, Aug 06 2007, 8:34 pm

I never iron dh's shirts. But to save money at the dry cleaners (and becasue they dont pretreat and get the stains out) I wash all the shirts, hang dry them and then just send them to the cleaners to be pressed only.

Chocoholic

Thu, Aug 16 2007, 12:19 pm

You are definately NOT a bad wife for not ironing your DH shirts.... As long as your DH is generally happy with you there is nothing you should worry about (although if needed you could hook up with the local drycleaners...) however regarding this issue I can´t be more different than you!!!!

Every day I wear a clean shirt (meaning, wearing it a day and then putting it into laundry - even if I´ve been doing nothing at home the whole day) and I ALWAYS iron it.. ALWAYS!!! I never will wear an unironed shirt, even if the material not neccesarily needs ironing....
I can´t imagine myself wearing something unironed........

My DH has to wear nice shirts for his work and he also wears them for 1 day only and dumps them in the laundry... He sometimes irons them himself, but sometimes I will do it or my MIL does it (we live in my in-laws apartment).............

LOL

whatever

Thu, Aug 16 2007, 12:51 pm

wow wow and wow again. not ironing I never heard of that. I even iron my babies and dh underwear. mom did it and so did the cleaning lady in my grandmas house and so do my aunts (though I am extreme on a few bit of things). I thought that was the way of life. until dh looked at his boxers the morning after our wedding (I ironed everything he brought over to the apartment like a few days earlier) and asked why they were so hard. I thought he must of fallen down from the roof. I spend over an hour every week ironing when its just dh, baby and me. I use linit startch on everything.

CAYA

Thu, Aug 16 2007, 12:54 pm

my dh wants me to iron EVERYTHING! including his underwear, and happens to be, I really enjoy doing it, at first, I felt a little pressured since he's a very particular person, but by now I love doing it, takes me not more than 45 min. shirts, underpants, undershirts....etc

NotInNJMommy

Thu, Aug 16 2007, 1:09 pm

I don't....when we first got married I planned to, but dh has particular preferences when it comes to various domestic things....well, only 24 hours in a day, and he just doesn't care about his shirts being ironed....so I focus on the things he is particular about.

My mother thinks it's a huge crisis that I don't, but dh doesn't care, his shirts are PP, and when he's out he's usually wearing a jacket/kapote, so he looks just fine.

greentiger

Tue, Aug 21 2007, 5:49 am

OP, I reccomend you try getting non-iron shirts. My husband has a few and they are great. You are meant to just stick the shirt on a hanger while its still wet, and it dries starch straight. The instructions say that any creases left will straighten themselves out just off your body heat, and I can vouch it's true.
It happens to be that I iron them anyways because my machine creases everything, but its litt just running the iron over it and I feel like its my time best spent because it stays ironed --by the end of the day when DH takes his shirt off it looks just as good as it did when he put it on in the morning.
Anyways, if you don't like ironing I'd say its well worth the investment.

(LOL this post sounds like an advertisment but I'm totally serious, and I'm not selling them)

raizy

Thu, Aug 30 2007, 12:05 am

I don't iron ever. one of the time I ironed I knocked over the water and I burned myselve and the clothing. and that was in sem. the girls thought it was so funny and even took pic of me....