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Wed, Oct 23 2024, 11:03 am

amother Hydrangea wrote:

And if she's single and/or childless, or hey children are unable or unwilling to learn, what then? Is she out in the cold? Apparently so, unless she belongs to a branch of Judaism that believes in Torah as an equal-opportunity employer and that women can and should do their own learning, irrespective of whether or not there are males in their lives and what those males do or do not do.

Wow, no. That's not what I understood at all. And he said children, not boys.

Of course, it's important for me to learn and grow in my understanding of Torah. And to focus on the people that are within my influence more and not those that are not.

As young adult woman, he was telling me to focus my energies on raising my children with love of Torah. Do you disagree with that as a life goal? Of course, not everyone has that as a possibility. I was asking for a blessing for a better life, not chizuk for grief!

(And everyone who can learn has a responsibility to teach. If you have children, wonderful. If you don't, you can influence other people in your life. There's always the need to spread Torah. In fact, that's what I am trying to do right now.)

Just as he gave me a blessing that was appropriate to my life situation, I was trying to give encouragement to OP, who does have children. If you asked the question differently, you would get a different answer. Everyone can look at their life and see how they can best learn and spread Torah.