What was the most challenging time you went to the mikvah?

amother

Clover

Yesterday at 1:26 am

Went to mikvah in a town I was visiting and got accused by the ML of being single and going to mikvah to have sx with my boyfriend because she didn’t recognize me

Went in the ocean while vacationing on a Greek island with my SIL watching me (that was actually a cool experience but definitely challenging- I had to climb over lots of rocks and go on a steep trail to get to the beach)

Ruchel ↓

Yesterday at 4:52 am

Physically during a cold wave. So slippery stairs outside.... Very dangerous.

Mentally... Lost a relative I loved I was in a blur but I wanted hugs. This was also a mikve lady who doesn't mesh with me so I had to look normal

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amother

Green

Yesterday at 10:20 am

amother Nectarine wrote:

Has anyone had to push off their mikvah for more then a week due to illness or some other challenging time they couldn't go due to physical issues.

I had to push mikva 6 weeks after an accident where I couldn't go to the mikva.
And it was after waiting 8 weeks pp .

amother

↑ Nectarine ↓

Yesterday at 10:27 am

amother Green wrote:

I had to push mikva 6 weeks after an accident where I couldn't go to the mikva.
And it was after waiting 8 weeks pp .

Wow that must've been so hard ! How did u manage thru that time it's so hard 🙈

amother

Yolk

Yesterday at 10:37 am

During a major blizzard in which the governor declared a state of emergency and no private vehicles were allowed on the roads. The mikvah arranged for a driver (male!!!) with a 4 wheel drive vehicle to go around town and pick women up from the closest main street to their house, since side streets were not yet plowed, and we were all dropped off at the mikvah at the same time and then picked up and driven home. Not individually, but rather as a group - it was a slow drive due to road conditions. I was young and 6 weeks post partum so it was the first time going after having my baby. Leaving her for so long while nursing was very stressful and at the time I thought it was the most embarrassing thing ever to be in a car with other women and have "everyone" know I was going to the mikvah... With maturity I realize how nice it was for the mikvah to make these arrangements.

tweety1

Yesterday at 11:08 am

amother Oak wrote:

Mikvah night coming up this Friday night and I have no idea how to work it! 2 teenage boys in shul. DD isn’t old enough to babysit the littles while DH is in shul.

I haven’t gone to mikvah in 18 months due to nursing clean BH. In last 5 years, I went 5 times. Twice postpartum with my 4 year old. Once after I finished nursing him, got pregnant that cycle: and then twice after my baby now. So not used to mikvah altogether. Add to this, Friday night experience 😩. I really have no idea how I’ll do it. Mikvah is 15 min walk each way.

I officially push off Friday night. I have very little tahor days and I'd rather be clean one less day than the stress Friday night comes along with.

↑ Ruchel

Yesterday at 11:11 am

amother DarkGreen wrote:

During Covid, after curfew hiding from police.

How could I forget
I wrote my own authorizations
And there were so few open places
Chlorine sting

amother

↑ Nectarine

Yesterday at 11:15 am

It's so inspiring to gear all these responses. The image that et is perfect peach when in reality life happens. And we learn to navigate with it

amother

Saddlebrown

Yesterday at 4:12 pm

well I went 2 friday night 2 weeks apart (and started bleeding then next day with both- bad BC pills) it was very cold but it wasnt bad.

amother

Chambray

Yesterday at 9:15 pm

A few days after my baby was diagnosed with cancer. Was extremely emotional couldn’t stop crying the whole time in the Mikva. And one time Friday night, I stayed home alone for shabbas night, while my husband was in the hospital with my baby who was getting chemo. Since the hospital was out of the city we live and they only came home shabbos morning, I was told to sleep with a knife under my pillow Friday night!😅

↑ s3 ↓

Yesterday at 10:57 pm

amother Chambray wrote:

💔 how's ur baby doing?

↑ s3

Yesterday at 10:58 pm

tweety1 wrote:

I officially push off Friday night. I have very little tahor days and I'd rather be clean one less day than the stress Friday night comes along with.

Same. Never went (and never will) go Fri night

amother

Burlywood

Today at 12:30 am

amother Ultramarine wrote:

Was s-xually assaulted by ob before and after giving birth.

Postpartum Mikvah after… was not ready to see or be touched by a man…

So sorry this happened to you. Did you report him?

amother

Phlox

Today at 2:27 am

Could also write a book!
*First week that Covid broke out
*Shvii shel Pesach, with mil, teens, young couples!!!
*Night of daughters sheva brachos, had to leave in the middle
*several Friday nights, though now that I’m well past childbearing
Age, I stopped Friday nights, the stress is not worth it, with mil living with us,
Teenage daughters etc, they’ll all know…
* many more long complicated stories…. Too many to mention
I hope we ladies will get a beautiful place in Gan eden with glistening pools and gardens etc as a schar,
These stories are not pashut!!!

amother

Topaz

Today at 7:39 am

Had to go the night before sil vort. Whilst everyone was helping prepare the house (vort was at home), I disappeared off the scene, and I'm usually the one who organises and helps a lot.
Had to go night before same sil wedding, having arrived from abroad. Was really late at night and a foreign country and language. Travelled ready prepped for mikva, and finished off prepping there. Dh and kids waited in car!