Morah took away snack

amother

Yesterday at 10:44 pm

My dc is not an easy child. That being said I know the morahs have a hard time with her however it doesn’t give them an excuse to do what they did to her. She came home saying “ mommy Morah didn’t give me snack today “ I asked her why she said because Morah said I was bad today. I was flabbergasted I didn’t know what’s to believe so I called the Morah and ask her if it’s true what my daughter is saying. She sounded very defensive on the phone and told me that my daughter got snack but she was more wild than usual today. .. I told her I’m sorry for my child being extra difficult and hung up. I thought my daughter was just being over dramatic and believed the morah. Next day my child comes home again and says the same thing. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do who I’m supposed to believe ..I really hope my child is getting the proper care and is getting treated just like the rest of the children and getting the snack as well. I’m so worried. Help!

NotInNJMommy

Yesterday at 10:53 pm

Can you get more information? Was the child being wild with the food/at snack time or just in general?

Those seem like different issues for the child and the Morah, and the solutions/conversations may be different.

Certainly a hungry child won’t behave well, so it seems counter productive to not give them snack.

amother

Burlywood

Yesterday at 10:58 pm

You have to be careful not to give her a big reaction or she’ll keep saying it to get that attention. I’d call again to get more clarity. Sometimes kids exaggerate. Maybe she wanted a second or a snack out of snack time and was told no to that.

Rappel

Yesterday at 11:00 pm

I had a child who was so difficult that I wanted to take him out of class, and the teacher insisted that he has a right to go to gan just like every other child. She worked with him, and he never gave her a moments peace, but she laid the groundwork for him to be less anxious and today he's a shining example in school.

If the teacher is really taking away your child's snack, then that sounds... Incredibly punitive.

Please investigate, and make sure the teacher is supporting your child, and not getting into a power struggle with her.

amother

DarkCyan

Yesterday at 11:09 pm

I think you're all overreacting. This is a young child and not one who can communicate will to begin with.

What most likely happened: teacher told all the children to sit down for snack time. This kid is running around and making travel. Teacher tells her, if you don't sit down nicely you're not getting a snack. Kid still keeps running around or making trouble. Teacher gives out snack to all the kids. Kid comes over for a snack. Teacher says, you can't get cuz you were running around. Kid sits down and waits. Teacher gives snack 2 minutes later.

amother

Marigold

Yesterday at 11:34 pm

When I worked in gan we had a really difficult kid. When snack time rolled around and child wasn’t behaving we’d put child on the side to eat there or only give the fruit and drink but not the cookie, depending on how crazy it was
- like hitting, biting then no cookie
if the teacher feels your daughter shouldn’t be getting a junk food, fine but she should still be getting something to eat and drink during snack time

Good Friend

Yesterday at 11:34 pm

amother OP wrote:

I wonder if this means your daughter was given snack but was misbehaving using it, like maybe throwing the food or something of that nature, so the teacher took it away?

amother

Clematis ↓

Yesterday at 11:41 pm

I was working in a classroom one day and witnessed this exact thing. It was heartbreaking. I don’t think taking away a child’s food is a fair consequence. It’s ostracizing the child and forcing the child to watch everyone else eat their snack… while they can’t. What’s if the child is hungry… it’s excessive and in my opinion cruel. There has to be a better way to discipline. Defend your child. And fight for her.

amother

Garnet

Yesterday at 11:42 pm

Ds started behaving very badly when I put him in school. A few times he said the morah took his snack and I didn't believe him at the time. It came to a point where I had to take him out because he really resisted going to the school and he was very traumatized by it. I put him in a new school and the behavior is much better, started eating better. Don't ignore this, believe your child, change schools if you need to.

amother

Crocus

Yesterday at 11:57 pm

amother Clematis wrote:

You should say something.
It’s very unfair to the child.

logical

Today at 12:59 am

You should definitely investigate. There is nothing so bad a child can do that would justify taking away their snack. Kids get hungry.

Just want to add, I was a preschool teacher for 4 years. Kids can exxagerate and outright lie. It's not a bad thing - it's a maturity thing. Sometimes they confuse reality with their imaginations. You should still believe your child - just keep in mind that it might not be true.

amother

Whitesmoke

Today at 1:02 am

Does this child lie to you other times? I think most parents know what type their child is. I once had a 2 year old come home from a short term day in playgroup saying morah patch and showing me by slapping her face. ( it was her first time going out of the house) and she cried every morning but I figured that was just because it was a new experience. I didn’t send her back again and when she started going to regular school she never cried again.
Please trust your child

notshanarishona

Today at 1:28 am

Depending how old the child is and if you can trust their words I would try to clarify before taking it seriously . Maybe morah took away a part of her snack/ didn’t give seconds? I would take that much less seriously than literally no snack.
For example lets say teacher gives out snack to everyone sitting at the table and your daughter starts running around. Teacher says whoever is sitting down gets to enjoy their snack, anyone who gets up is showing me all done and your kid keeps running around so she doesn’t get any seconds. I wouldn’t have a problem with that.
The bigger issue is if your daughters behavior issues are such that Morah cant control, what’s the behavior plan in place? Are you giving the morahs tools to help her? Are you getting your daughter help?