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amother
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 Yesterday at 8:32 pm
My daughter that just turned 3 is super anxious and it is getting worse and worse. She's constantly worried that someone will come into the house and started having nightmares as well.
How do I go about this?
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amother
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Yesterday at 9:27 pm
| amother OP wrote: | My daughter that just turned 3 is super anxious and it is getting worse and worse. She's constantly worried that someone will come into the house and started having nightmares as well.
How do I go about this? |
Bumping
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amother
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Yesterday at 9:49 pm
although usually we like to validate kids feelings, (when they are happy, sad, surprised, etc) when they are scared or anxious don't validate it. they are not looking at you to validate their feelings, they want to see you as the big strong one who can help/save them, not someone who is feeling scared with them.
don't focus on "you are scared b/c of this," focus on "Mommy is always watching you. Mommy is always here for you etc."
My kids were playing hide and seek at a family friends house and the kids all hid in a dark closet. I heard my 2.5 yr old crying and I got her out. whenever she started talking about the closet I would focus on "and mommy came and got you out". she did not develop a fear of closets.
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Anemone
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Yesterday at 9:51 pm
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Firstly does she watch anything? Sometimes these things expose them to scary concepts that are too big for them to process properly. And it leads to bad guy fears.
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amother
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Yesterday at 9:55 pm
Strep
Gut health
Reflex integration
Is she a mouth breather?
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amother
Mint
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Yesterday at 10:01 pm
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OP I mean this in an objective way, not at all trying to place blame. Are you very anxious? Is her father very anxious? Sometimes this can be learned behavior.
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:32 pm
| amother Purple wrote: | although usually we like to validate kids feelings, (when they are happy, sad, surprised, etc) when they are scared or anxious don't validate it. they are not looking at you to validate their feelings, they want to see you as the big strong one who can help/save them, not someone who is feeling scared with them.
don't focus on "you are scared b/c of this," focus on "Mommy is always watching you. Mommy is always here for you etc."
My kids were playing hide and seek at a family friends house and the kids all hid in a dark closet. I heard my 2.5 yr old crying and I got her out. whenever she started talking about the closet I would focus on "and mommy came and got you out". she did not develop a fear of closets. |
Thank you makes sense
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:33 pm
| amother Pear wrote: | Strep
Gut health
Reflex integration
Is she a mouth breather? |
Its an ongoing thing, so I don't think it is strept.
I got her tested for pandas... and did a trial of medication, didnt make any difference.
Re reflex integration I am taking her someone for a while to work on this and its not helping with the anxiety aspect
But yes she is a mouth breather
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:34 pm
| amother Mint wrote: | | OP I mean this in an objective way, not at all trying to place blame. Are you very anxious? Is her father very anxious? Sometimes this can be learned behavior. |
No really not. That's why it is so interesting to me
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:35 pm
| amother Anemone wrote: | | Firstly does she watch anything? Sometimes these things expose them to scary concepts that are too big for them to process properly. And it leads to bad guy fears. |
No, the most she ever watched was Ms rachel or the like
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:46 pm
| amother OP wrote: | Its an ongoing thing, so I don't think it is strept.
I got her tested for pandas... and did a trial of medication, didnt make any difference.
Re reflex integration I am taking her someone for a while to work on this and its not helping with the anxiety aspect
But yes she is a mouth breather |
Mouth breathing is another angle to look at, not getting enough oxygen puts the nervous system into fight-flight. Do you know why she mouth breathes?
What about gut health? What is her diet like? Is she getting enough nutrient dense foods? Low in inflammatory foods? Maybe consider adding a probiotic, some magnesium, a methylated b complex and some fish oil.
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:51 pm
| amother Pear wrote: | Mouth breathing is another angle to look at, not getting enough oxygen puts the nervous system into fight-flight. Do you know why she mouth breathes?
What about gut health? What is her diet like? Is she getting enough nutrient dense foods? Low in inflammatory foods? Maybe consider adding a probiotic, some magnesium, a methylated b complex and some fish oil. |
I went to an ent to rule out any issues and everything came out fine.
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:57 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | I went to an ent to rule out any issues and everything came out fine. |
An airway orthodontist or myofunctional therapist can help you figure out the cause and how to fix it.
It can make a huge difference to her mental health.
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amother
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Yesterday at 11:00 pm
| amother Pear wrote: | An airway orthodontist or myofunctional therapist can help you figure out the cause and how to fix it.
It can make a huge difference to her mental health. |
I was considering to take her to a myofunctional therapist because she def has weak oral muscle tone. But whoever I looked into was over my budget. Any reccomendations?
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amother
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Yesterday at 11:05 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | I was considering to take her to a myofunctional therapist because she def has weak oral muscle tone. But whoever I looked into was over my budget. Any reccomendations? |
Where are you located?
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amother
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Yesterday at 11:36 pm
| amother Pear wrote: | An airway orthodontist or myofunctional therapist can help you figure out the cause and how to fix it.
It can make a huge difference to her mental health. |
Can you recommend an airway orthodontist in ny/nj area? Tia
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