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Do you enjoy going to simchos?

No, I only go because I feel obligated

45%

[ 105 ]

Yes, I love getting dressed and going to simchos

[ 19 ]

Depends on the night, weather, hormones

43%

[ 102 ]

Other

[ 6 ]

Total Votes : 232

amother

OP ↓

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:12 pm

Question in poll

amother

Holly

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:24 pm

Maybe add “depends who’s simcha”. I love going to family simchos. More out of obligation for others.

amother

Oxfordblue

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:25 pm

Hate them with passion.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:26 pm

amother Holly wrote:

Maybe add “depends who’s simcha”. I love going to family simchos. More out of obligation for others.

I tried editing and couldn't

amother

Canary

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:26 pm

amother Oxfordblue wrote:

Hate them with passion.

Same. Hate getting dressed, hate meeting people, just hate it!

amother

↑ OP

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:27 pm

amother Oxfordblue wrote:

Hate them with passion.

So far you are in good company. We all feel the same. Yet we spend thousands to make simchos and invite people who'd rather not come...

amother

Myrtle

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:31 pm

I hate the getting ready part but the actual being there I love. I’m happy to show up to friends and family and share in their simcha. I’m happy to meet adults irl. I’m happy to look dressed up and good. It’s just the finding a babysitter and getting the kids in bed in time and running against time

amother

Azalea

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:35 pm

I hate going to family simchahs when all I exist for is to "make" their simchah.

DrMom

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:38 pm

I like smachot.

These are usually celebrating milestone moments my relatives' or friends' lives, and it's wonderful to celebrate with friends and family.

amother

Chocolate

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 9:39 pm

I hate having to arrange child care. Once I'm by the simcha I usually enjoy myself.

amother

Sapphire

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 11:00 pm

I love going to simchas! Traveling and dealing with babysitting arrangements is not fun but getting dressed and going out and socializing and sharing in family and friends simchos I absolutely enjoy

amother

Firethorn

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 11:28 pm

I enjoy the fact that I have Simchas to go to but I must be getting old because I can't take the noise level anymore. I really enjoy Simchas on Shabbos for this reason.

essie14

Yesterday at 1:38 am

I voted Yes because I only go to smachot of people I really love and care about. If it feels like an obligation then I don't go.
I despise going to smachot of people I barely know so I don't.

ChalieB

Yesterday at 3:06 am

I love getting to dress up, do my makeup, go out with my husband, eat fancy food, and see my friends/family! Best date nights ever.

amother

NeonYellow

Yesterday at 3:48 am

I love this poll and responses. People kill themselves to spend so much money on simchas so they can invite the world, and people don't even want to come!
We gotta start making them smaller.

amother

Hotpink

Yesterday at 4:01 am

I said "yes", but I'm a BT with toooootally non-religious family, so I only go to friends'weddings and their sons britot (soon may barei/batei mizvot too beezrat hashem), so it's a very rare thing since I have few friends. Like once every 2 years or something.

amother

Lemon

Yesterday at 4:02 am

If it’s someone close to me then I want to be there and feel genuine joy. If it’s someone I’m not close to, especially if they have tons of family and friends, I won’t bother. I’m an introvert but there’s exceptions when you’re truly happy for someone.

Personally I don’t have a lot of family and before every simcha I get very nervous about if anyone will show up. I am so so appreciative to everyone that comes.

Chayalle

Yesterday at 4:56 am

Sometimes it's a drag to get myself dressed up, etc..and I do so out of obligation. But once I'm there, I really enjoy seeing everyone (whether "everyone" is family or friends) and sharing in the Simcha.

amother

Azure

Yesterday at 4:58 am

If my friends will be going I enjoy seeing everyone.
If the only person I know is person making the simcha then it's more of a bother to go. Sometimes I'll go just a few minutes to say mazal Tov, sometimes I'll skip.

At the end, I was truly happy to see all the people that came to wish me mazal Tov to my kids' wedding!!
I feel bad that I can't make it to every wedding.

giftedmom

Yesterday at 5:09 am

Let’s all keep in mind that imamother is largely introverted. I see plenty people enjoying themselves by simchas.

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