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Schedule of meals/davening times for shabbos
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amother
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Today at 12:12 am
Xanax!
Mazeltov 
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Goldie613
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Today at 12:17 am
Some odds and ends, though YMMV =
Shopping -
- Socks/tights/stockings for you and kids
- Shabbos shoes (for bar mitzvah boy and others)
- Hair ties/barrettes/kippah clips
- Make up
- New kippahs for the boys/your husband
To do -
- Do you wear a sheitel? Will it need to be set before then?
- Anything need to be dry cleaned before then? Altered?
- Any kibbudim you want to decide on in advance? (Who will daven, who will give a speech, make kiddush, etc)
- Is the Bar Mitzvah boy planning to write a speech?
- Haircuts as needed for all
- Find out (if you haven't already) if anyone coming has severe allergies to anything that might mean you have to adjust the menu
Misc -
- Set up zoom for out of town relatives
- Order thank you cards when ordering invites
- Gift for Bar Mitzvah boy?
- Some boys try to finish a learning thing lichvod their Bar Mitzvah (no idea what's standard where you live)
And most important - mazel tov!!! 
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Dev80
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Today at 12:31 am
| Goldie613 wrote: | Some odds and ends, though YMMV =
Shopping -
- Socks/tights/stockings for you and kids
- Shabbos shoes (for bar mitzvah boy and others)
- Hair ties/barrettes/kippah clips
- Make up
- New kippahs for the boys/your husband
To do -
- Do you wear a sheitel? Will it need to be set before then?
- Anything need to be dry cleaned before then? Altered?
- Any kibbudim you want to decide on in advance? (Who will daven, who will give a speech, make kiddush, etc)
- Is the Bar Mitzvah boy planning to write a speech?
- Haircuts as needed for all
- Find out (if you haven't already) if anyone coming has severe allergies to anything that might mean you have to adjust the menu
Misc -
- Set up zoom for out of town relatives
- Order thank you cards when ordering invites
- Gift for Bar Mitzvah boy?
- Some boys try to finish a learning thing lichvod their Bar Mitzvah (no idea what's standard where you live)
And most important - mazel tov!!! |
In addition to kippas, we also got new tzitzis so everyone would look fresh for pictures.
If you want family members to get aliyahs on shabbos, be in touch with your shul on how that works and collect everyone's names for being called up to the torah.
I can't remember if someone wrote this, but a babysitter for shabbos day for any little ones who might impede on you getting ready and getting to shul on time.
Candy to throw on shabbos at the bar mitzvah boy if that is done in your shul
And enjoy 
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Ruchel
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Today at 12:36 am
Hi, I got to bed near 5 hours ago from Moyshele's bar mitzva and oddly I'm already on Imamother 
BREAK THE SHOES IN. Or your mom will say we don't run barefoot.
That is me I'm talking about; bring flats. I did, btw.
It's expensive. Don't compare with even a big bas mitzva. Our first is a girl. She had a big kiddush, people said it was a bar mitzva kiddush (fish, meat) and a very classy party. But don't even compare. Tefilin ? Suit ? Good shoes? and if you get a teacher ? comparison is the thief of joy.
You may be very weird and emotional. You may cry (I never do). I did several times and was close to many times.
You will be allowed to dream HUGE. Get the princess dress. For you and daughters. Get the make up and hair done, don't do it yourself
Pics and videos BEFORE the food ideally guests even when the room is quiet.
Write the pictures you want. Match / do a theme, include grandparents even just an accessory they should accept
If the child is named for someone look out for closest relatives of this person when he leins, etc they'll be very emotional.
Don't mock Jane Austen characters anymore between emotional and girdle you'll understand why women fainted :p
"Breath breath breath you're not giving birth" my mom
Dream big. Is there a rabbi or lehavdil or a celeb you want? Invite. You may get a meil, a word or even a show. Don't jump at them LOL.
Now more serious CATERERS PLEASE allow poor people to take the food that remains. We had to leave it at shul in fridge and as we left the shul in the middle of the night I wrote on tons of groups "mehadrin food available in fridge grande synagogue of C" because caterer cannot do it... In Israel they've been done it since laready our wedding kah!!!! so write something on local groups after so people come, and say which kashrus
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amother
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Today at 5:35 am
OP, you didn't mention a Kiddush, but if that is being done separate from Shabbos meals caterer, then that should be on your list.
Bags of candy to throw at the Bar Mitzvah boy, if it's your minhag.
Thank you notes (you don't need personalized ones, can buy nice ones on Amazon)
I don't know the time frame of your non-local guests arriving, but I had a lunch available Friday afternoon (obviously not for a winter bar Mitzvah) and then a brunch for Sunday morning. Mainly bagels, spreads, muffins, etc , but something for people who are traveling.
Mazel Tov!
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Ema of 5
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Today at 5:40 am
| Ruchel wrote: | Hi, I got to bed near 5 hours ago from Moyshele's bar mitzva and oddly I'm already on Imamother
BREAK THE SHOES IN. Or your mom will say we don't run barefoot.
That is me I'm talking about; bring flats. I did, btw.
It's expensive. Don't compare with even a big bas mitzva. Our first is a girl. She had a big kiddush, people said it was a bar mitzva kiddush (fish, meat) and a very classy party. But don't even compare. Tefilin ? Suit ? Good shoes? and if you get a teacher ? comparison is the thief of joy.
You may be very weird and emotional. You may cry (I never do). I did several times and was close to many times.
You will be allowed to dream HUGE. Get the princess dress. For you and daughters. Get the make up and hair done, don't do it yourself
Pics and videos BEFORE the food ideally guests even when the room is quiet.
Write the pictures you want. Match / do a theme, include grandparents even just an accessory they should accept
If the child is named for someone look out for closest relatives of this person when he leins, etc they'll be very emotional.
Don't mock Jane Austen characters anymore between emotional and girdle you'll understand why women fainted :p
"Breath breath breath you're not giving birth" my mom
Dream big. Is there a rabbi or lehavdil or a celeb you want? Invite. You may get a meil, a word or even a show. Don't jump at them LOL.
Now more serious CATERERS PLEASE allow poor people to take the food that remains. We had to leave it at shul in fridge and as we left the shul in the middle of the night I wrote on tons of groups "mehadrin food available in fridge grande synagogue of C" because caterer cannot do it... In Israel they've been done it since laready our wedding kah!!!! so write something on local groups after so people come, and say which kashrus |
Mazal tov in YOUR bar mitzvah, and thank you!! Lots of really good advice.
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mommyhood
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Today at 5:51 am
| Ema of 5 wrote: | Oh, good point! I forgot they don’t come together.
And thank you for the reminder about cash. The weeknight party will be before shabbos, so ss will be the last meal. When do I tip? |
Ask the caterer how and when to give, especially if you’re having multiple meals/events it could be different staffing.
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