Guests staying all day

amother

Yesterday at 9:41 pm

This is more of a little vent than anything and I'll deal with it. But this raised my eyebrows a little bit.
I was asked by a friend to host her family for shabbos lunch while she is away. Cool no problem, that's not the weird part. One of my kids is pals with one of theirs. Later the spouse coming messages me asking if they can stay all day until the end of shabbos, b/c it's easier for them. Ummmm.
They do live far. But I'm thinking to myself, why are they going out if their kids don't want to walk that far? And if it's hard for them to make the trek, why are they going out for both meals (a different family near me is having them Fri night meal). My husband and I typically nap every Saturday afternoon, catching up on sleep from the work week, and resting up from hosting as we often host big meals on shabbos. For reference, their kids are aged somewhere around 10 and 7 I think.
Don't worry I'm gonna chill and tell them it's fine.

amother

Mauve

Yesterday at 9:44 pm

Shabbos ends relatively early, they have a long treck, it's cold out.... If they're good kids, I totally understand the "can they stay til after shabbos ." Like a play date. Hopefully you can still nap.

Cheiny

Yesterday at 9:44 pm

amother OP wrote:

They probably don’t think it’s asking that much since Shabbos is over very early.

amother

Yarrow

Yesterday at 9:46 pm

My family does that when we walk far on Shabbos day. I don't think they're expecting you to entertain them. You can take a nap and do whatever you want. The kids will play and the husband can learn or read or find something to do with the kids.

tweety1

Yesterday at 9:51 pm

It depends on the entire relationship between both families. I don't know if I'd say no but I think I would have a hard time if it's not someone who my family is close with.

amother

Hibiscus

Yesterday at 10:07 pm

During the winter there is typically an expectation that anyone coming shabbos day (even for an afternoon play date) and has a relatively far walk for cold weather (15+ min) that they will stay until the end of shabbos when someone can drive them home. I’m not surprised at all by his request, I’m only surprised he actually asked instead of just assuming

amother

Daphne

Yesterday at 10:46 pm

It’s nice he asked! If it’s a long walk I would assume they are staying till after it’s cold out and Shabbos ends early enough that it’s not alllllllll day.
Text him back sure we usually nap at x time but feel free to use x room and we’ll leave out refreshments on the dr table. This way he knows what to expect as well