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amother
Stonewash
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 Tue, Jan 07 2025, 3:50 pm
Married less than 1 month by my in-laws Purim night.
MIL kept asking where he was going becouse she needed help setting up for the Purim seuda….
Mikva didn’t have bathrobes just towels.
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amother
Ivory
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 3:51 pm
I could also write a book.... here are a few that come to mind. This list is definitely not exhaustive.
3 weeks after my wedding (which was a chuppas niddah) while working in an overnight camp in the mountains, having requested the night off with a car that broke down.
Several times seder night at my parents
13 days after going the previous time
During my dinner break of an overnight shift at work
In the middle of a wedding that was at a shul/hall that also had a mikvah
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amother
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 3:55 pm
Two come to mind-
One when I had to walk in boro park through high snow
And another when I had to go motzei yt out of town
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amother
Floralwhite
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:00 pm
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While my baby was getting chemo in the hospital
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amother
Peach
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:02 pm
I’ve had some episodes!
- Landing in EY from America had to go for ovulation
- Had to go in Rome we booked our Italy trip a year before..
- 2nd night of Sukkos (3 day Yom Tov) with my in laws in a foreign country
Basically I dislike traveling because of the above scenarios that happened lol
I go every month I am trying to become pregnant and it’s hard for me but everytime it is super difficult to go I think and pray that maybe just maybe this month will be the month my prayers get answered!
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amother
Camellia
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:08 pm
Summer at the end of Covid. First mikvah after second trimester loss. After flying cross country with my family we finally settled in the Airbnb and I went to fill the (old disgusting) tub and the plug was broken. After convincing the hosts that we needed a plumber the same night "to bathe my kids" I did prep and drove myself thru a bad neighborhood to closest Jewish community 40 minutes away. The combo to get into Jewish campus didn't work. Once I finally got in, I parked, had to walk thru a boys ball game and got to the mikvah. I went to get ready but there were no towels. The attendant forgot to mention that they aren't providing towels cuz of Covid... Let's just say it was a long hard night but bH became pregnant from that night and had a healthy baby.
Other hard mikvah was after the birth of my first child 15 years ago. I was nida for 6 months from IUD and I had to go the night of a cousins bar mitzvah (child born after waiting many many years) . It wasn't in my hometown and ML agreed to let me come late at night after the simcha. When I got there at 11.30 she was upset that I still had to take off my makeup and finish prep ... Told me off for not being ready to dip and said it would cost me $100. (I had specifically described the circumstances beforehand) I was young and it was only my second or third time going and I just burst into tears and offered to leave. 6 months of waiting and then getting yelled at was too much for me to handle...
She ended up apologizing and let me get ready and said I can pay what my local mikvah charges for special appointments. I think it was $40 or $50 (reg mikvah was $18 at the time). I didn't have more than that with me anyways.
I am very grateful for the uneventful regular mikvah visit each month close to home!
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amother
Bronze
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:17 pm
The day of my sister in law's wedding.
We landed from Israel that morning.
I had to find a place in lakewood that would allow me to dip early so I can make it to kabbalas ponim.
(Spoiler: there is none. I arrived to the chuppah.)
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amother
Dodgerblue
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:25 pm
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When my baby was in the ICU, and I wasn't familiar with the city at all, and no car. During a relatives vort, logistically couldn't go before or after. So stressful.
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amother
Blush
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:26 pm
When I was in quarantine
A Friday night mikvah had to open for me
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amother
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:28 pm
Hashem look at your daughters!
When I was a kallah we read all these stories of mesiras nefesh in Russia, this is the modern day mesirus nefesh
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amother
Tulip
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:37 pm
| amother Nutmeg wrote: | | Not as hard as all the examples here. I have had hard ones but this was just the other night. We had a family Shabbos this weekend and I was making a party for my daughter on Sunday that I needed to set up for. We left right after shabbos while everyone else stayed, ran to set up, I rushed to the mikvah, came back. Continued setup. |
So mine wasn’t either too bad other than it being Seder night but being that we’re Lubavitch dh and I did a public Seder and we were only married 10 weeks. Baruch Hashem nine months later we started our family so no more public Seders.
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amother
Junglegreen
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:44 pm
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When I was newly remarried and my kids and step kids and mil were there and it was pouring rain.
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amother
DarkYellow
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:45 pm
When I had covid.
I was getting over it and had permission to go but still felt pretty miserable.
It was Friday night. My bath at home had almost no hot water and I was shivering away.
I had brain fog so I remembered while I was in the middle of toiveling that my contacts were in and the ML had to bring me a case, then we didn't know if I needed to make a new bracha
Later that night I realized I couldn't remember if I actually did a bedikah that day (brain fog) and we had to ask shailah.
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amother
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 4:54 pm
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Had a shaila on day 7, dropped it at the Rav in the morning not realizing he wouldn’t be home till the evening but by the time we realized we were stuck. Rav finally checked and told us I would need to go to a Bodekes or start counting again. Called the local Bodekes, she was away. Got the number of another Bodekes and drove 40 minutes crying the whole way to see her, she was so sweet and calming and BH found a Makkah so Rav said I could go to the mikvah. Called the mikvah because at this point they would have to stay late for me since I had a 40 minute drive home that I hadn’t planned for so I hadn’t done any preps in advance. I told them what was happening and Mikvah lady told me to come no problem and to please take my time and not rush.
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amother
Burntblack
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 5:02 pm
First time after wedding on Taanis Esther at night/Purim night, after fasting the whole day.
During a snowstorm, and the car broke down on the way home.
The night after my 2 month old son was admitted to the ICU with pneumonia (it was my first time going PP)
A few days after surgery (I was told I did not need a bath, and only to dip once)
A few days after being sent to the hospital for uncontrollable migraines
When I had COVID, and a special Friday night mikveh opened just for me
I got to the mikveh after doing chafifa at home and saw blood on my white underwear. Had to leave mikveh and find a rav to pasken on the Shaila as soon as possible (it ended up being okay)
When I had food poisoning.
Motzei Pesach with my in laws in my house. I sneaked out as everyone was turning the kitchen back over to chometz.
Purim night with my parents in my house. No guest room, so we DTD in the basement, hoping no one would hear.
Basically, standard mikveh nights are an anomaly around here!
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amother
Outerspace
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 5:18 pm
also could write a book
newly married , night of brothers bar mitzvah
few times night after 9 av
nephews bar mitzvah friday night in monsey trekking a mile or more in the freezing cold while leaving bunch of toddlers with a sister in law
purim night a few times
rh at my parents
third night of yt with a house full of guests
I feel like I'm on a Friday night cycle now, must have gone Friday night 6 times in the last year, with a houseful of teens it's a challenge.
proud to say 20+ years I have never pushed it off, although many times considered it. we need the zchusim...
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amother
Midnight
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 5:27 pm
In a row it was
Night of a work event that I couldn’t miss
Tanis Esther
Night I moved into my apartment
Motzei Shavuos when I had a 6 am flight the next morning
Night of another work event
Motzei Tisha bav
I’ve been ttc for 2.5 years suffering from sif
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amother
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 5:30 pm
Newly wed. During Covid.
Had to prep at home and the landlords sewer kept backing up into the bathtub DH had do drain the bathtub manually and clean it for me to bathe. Happened th r first few months till I got pregnant bh.
2 days after moving to a new place.
After my miscarriage.
Preparing in horrible water at home for a Friday night.
At my in laws motza pesach OOT Mikvah was closed had to use a Friday night one (men’s in the day) opened for me.
They heard me in the bath and shower motza pesach since the bathrooms above the kitchen.
And it was just DH me 4 month old twins and almost 2 year old. ( a bunch if years ago) his sibling dint come home.
My father’s cousin was my Mikvah lady bh got pregnant that month. And first time going PP the administrator of the school
Work in was my Mikvah lady I went 6 weeks pp to the day and also went back to work that day and she saw me
Many more times.
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amother
Aquamarine
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Tue, Jan 07 2025, 5:30 pm
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Since I've found out that DH has very little chance of having his own children without serious medical intervention at this point. I am not very emotional, but I sit in the bath at the mikvah and I cry. I wish I could just push it off. I don't like intimacy with my husband. Ironically I did enjoy it when I thought we were going to have a child that way, but since his diagnosis, it just been so painful. Going to the mikvah is just really hard. I can't ask for support irl because obviously asking would hurt dh and others don't know about the situation and don't need to.
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