If it was 100% acceptable to only wear tichels, would you?

hodeez ↓

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 5:52 pm

I exclusively wear tichels and it's so silly how many times people have told me "I wish I could wear a tichel". Just do it! No one cares and if they do they're jealous of your comfort!

amother

↑ Almond ↓

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 5:54 pm

amother Purple wrote:

A very beautiful woman, can look incredibly striking with elaborate bright colored mitpachat. A mediocre woman needs hair. Most of society is average looking.

Well I guess the dati leumi community disagrees. There are way more tichels and amost no wigs being worn so women obviously believe differently.
The majority dont even own wigs.

amother

Azalea ↓

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 5:55 pm

I like the way I look in a Sheitel and it’s the only thing that covers all of my grey roots. I also work and shop amongst a lot of non Jews so it would need to be very common in those circles as well for me to even consider it.

amother

DarkGray ↓

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 5:56 pm

hodeez wrote:

I exclusively wear tichels and it's so silly how many times people have told me "I wish I could wear a tichel". Just do it! No one cares and if they do they're jealous of your comfort!

People can't because it's Bad For Shidduchim™.

HonesttoGod

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 5:58 pm

Maybe a. Little more than I do but I also love my wig. I had awful hair growing up and my wig is gorgeous so I love it. And I love having long shiny hair.

I do wear tichels pretty often anyway though.

amother

Cantaloupe ↓

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:01 pm

hodeez wrote:

I exclusively wear tichels and it's so silly how many times people have told me "I wish I could wear a tichel". Just do it! No one cares and if they do they're jealous of your comfort!

I mostly wear tichels. Sometimes I wear a sheitel, but comfort is most important and people really don't care what you wear. And anyone who would gossip about what I wear is not someone I care about impressing.

amother

Jetblack ↓

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:21 pm

No I’m very pale and very allergic to all earrings so I look horrible in a snood unless I’m wearing a full face of makeup and I hate makeup so no I don’t plan on ever leaving my house in a snood unless I’m throwing out the trash

amother

Outerspace

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:34 pm

hodeez wrote:

I exclusively wear tichels and it's so silly how many times people have told me "I wish I could wear a tichel". Just do it! No one cares and if they do they're jealous of your comfort!

This!!
There's a beautiful chein in covering this way and it's accessible to all.

A (yeshivishe, American, Ashkenazi) lady who inspired me to cover this way would always say that she's never seen anyone who looks better in a sheitel...and I agree. (Sexier, maybe...more glamorous, maybe...but beautiful in a pure, Jewish way? No...Akin to the way that dd might look better with a long styled hair halfway down her back, but we keep her hair shorter, beautiful, and b'tampt.)

(I happen to be sephardi which makes it somehow more acceptable, even though I live completely among sephardim who mostly wear sheitles, including my whole family, and send to Ashkenazi schools.)

imaima

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:35 pm

amother OP wrote:

Let's say you woke up one day and half your city decided they would only wear tichels. Half the Rebbetzins, half of your friends and family, half of whatever Instagram influencers you might follow, etc. It became 100% socially acceptable to do and at any given event, half the women would be wearing tichels.
Let's say the other half wouldn't blink or gossip about it.

Would you wear tichels?

ETA please explain why one way or another- would it be about hashkafa, comfort, style or something else?

Isn’t it actually acceptable? Come on

amother

Mintgreen

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:42 pm

I love that I live in an Israeli area so I wear a scarf in my neighborhood.
For Shabbos or leaving the neighborhood I do wear a wig, I know DH prefers it but would never push me too.

One Shabbos I was visiting my sister's area and had a headache so went down to the yard with the kids in a pretied scarf. Everyone automatically thought I must not wear wigs if I dared leave the house not wearing a wig.
I'm so lucky I don't have that pressure where I live.

amother

Natural

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:45 pm

I wish.
Because I don't honestly believe that we're going to go greet moshiach in wigs. I have no doubt that when moshiach comes we're only going to be covering our hair with tichels.
That's aside for that fact that I would look beautiful in them and they're 500 times more comfy.
So for those reasons, I would love to if it would be more accepted in my community.

amother

Nutmeg ↓

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:49 pm

I wear only tichels. I live in a community where women only wear sheitels to simchas, b it may wear a tichel to the grocery store.

I didn’t know people gossip about women in tichels, what do they say?

amother

DarkCyan

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:53 pm

I wish I could just not cover my head at all. I'd like to have a shiny bold head with no hair and this way I wouldn't have to cover it. Cause se'ar be'isha erva. But when there's no se'ar, there's no erva

amother

↑ Nutmeg

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 6:54 pm

I feel that If Rochel imeinu was in our generation she would be wearing a tichel. Do you agree?

My questions is why is the majority answering yes and yet most of our communities wear sheitels?? Yalla ladies! Wear the tichel!

lamplighter

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 7:00 pm

I wear shaitels because that's our hashkafa. If that wasn't the case I would wear tichels most of the time except to events or simchas or when I want to look dressed up.
Tichels are so much more comfortable but I look much better with hair (shaitel). I would never wear a tichel to a wedding even others did it.

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amother

↑ Jetblack

Mon, Jan 06 2025, 7:11 pm

amother DarkCyan wrote:

You would end up covering it anyway 50% of the time when it’s cold you would put a beanie and when it’s hot you would wear a cap bec sun beating down on a bald head ouch and cold we’ll it’s cold you need a hat
The good part would be the other 50% and the ability to remove when indoors
But I would never want to walk around bald I think it looks sickly unless it’s a man with a full beard