What to do next? (Issue with teacher)

amother

Violet

Yesterday at 7:08 pm

amother OP wrote:

We have PTA coming up. What should I say to the teacher?

I think you should reiterate that it's bothering your daughter and you know she's trying but it's still happening now often than not. What does she suggest? And then mention s few ideas like maybe a name sign on the desk or does she want your daughter to telling her?
I think making her think of a solution it'll put it more "in her hands" to try to make it work

amother

Daisy

Yesterday at 7:16 pm

My sister is the grade in top of me.
We are completely different personalities, and look nothing alike.
I was ok with being called by her name once in a while. It’s a mistake. But constantly? That’s just rude, I would’ve hated it. It also bothered me a ton when in 6th grade, one teacher always cracked down really hard on me if I ever breathed out of place, because my sister took her for a ride the year b4.

As an aside, like I mentioned, my sister and I have completely different personalities. We enjoy different subjects and excel in different areas.
In 9th grade, at PTA, one teacher wanted to know what she did wrong because I was disinterested in her class, and she knew I would love her class if I payed more attention, because my sister absolutely loved her classes. Guess who never listened in that class another day? I was so turned off.

Bottom like? Ask your daughter’s teacher to come up with a solution for herself, because it’s not fair to your daughter, and can leave her feeling resentful of her sister. So many things the teacher can do, if she cares enough.

amother

Nasturtium

Yesterday at 7:19 pm

OP, just adding that I really feel for you and your daughter. My second daughter had this in preschool. We live in a small community so whenever we would see her Morah around town/ Shabbos etc she would get so excited and her Morah would greet her with a big smile and cheerful face "hello (sibling)!" She was so deflated after each time. We tried to gently correct, but it never worked.

jj1236

Yesterday at 9:25 pm

You should definitely validate your daughter and say that sounds very frustrating. If it truly is all the time then at PTC say something. Just keep in mind that your daughter may be exaggerating from her point of view. She may feel like it’s all the time but in reality it’s only sometimes. Kids see things differently and parents are quick to believe them right away but maybe ask her is it actually every day or just sometimes.
Either way, it’s clearly bothering her and you should kindly let the teacher know how much it’s affecting her.

amother

Royalblue

Yesterday at 9:33 pm

Some names just get mixed up in certain people's minds. My dd gets therapy, and I always call her OT and PT both by the PT's name. I think I'm getting better about it, thanks to my kids always asking, did you really mean Judy or did you mean Betty as usual?

One year, when I taught, I always called one of my students by a different kid's name. It happens.

amother

DarkPurple

Yesterday at 9:44 pm

My DD would get in trouble with 1 teacher because DD did not respond to her sisters name. Ummm.... it's not her name, why should she respond to it?

If teacher gets every other name right, she is verbally abusing your dd if she consistently calls her by another name. If speaking to her at PTA doesn't help, talk to the principal. An occassional mistake is forgivable. Not ever getting it right is saying that yur dd is a nothing a not worth getting to know.

amother

Celeste

Today at 12:38 pm

In my days the principal of Bais Yaakov Elementary (5 grades of over 100 girls each plus preschool and mind you not a teacher who sees the girls for entire lessons but the principal) made sure to know each girl's name. If he ever called you by the wrong name or mixed up your name he would give you a soda can.
(The identical twins in the school were lucky that year Smile

)

amother

Waterlily

Today at 1:11 pm

As other people have said, firmly tell your teacher that you need a plan, either dd not replying to a name that is not hers, a sign, etc. Feel her out first, if you can see she is antagonistic about really changing, speak to the principal so she is aware this teacher is past her prime and tell your daughter this is something that is not about her.

I have had teachers who were unreasonable and generally it meant they had issues. You could not work with them. They generally retired shortly after.