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amother
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 Sun, Dec 15 2024, 3:07 pm
It's been a rough few years, but BH last week he was given the all clear! We could not not have coped, never mind thrived without the wonderful help and care from family and strangers (although you are strangers no longer) alike!
I don't know where to start, but I'll try.
Thank you to
-My parents. You were my staunchest supporters! Just knowing you were doing the worrying meant I didn't have to, and could concentrate on my family.
-My in-laws. If Hashem decided the best hospital to treat yanky (not his real name) had to be 2+ hours from our home, we thank Him it was in NJ (real name!) not far from your home! The lifts, the company, somewhere to be when we had to be near the hospital, when we didn't have time to get home before Shabbos, when my older kids wanted to visit...your home was ours!
-My local siblings/in law. For always being available to host my older kids, for the meals you sent in and for the last minute Shabbbos invites when we had last minute medical emergencies. And for the times you called on Sunday to invite us for Shabbos meals, giving me a week of 'one thing less to do' !
-My non local siblings/in law. For allowing me to vent! For driving out to visit, along with your kids to keep me and my son company. For inviting my older kids for Yom tov & holidays when they needed a break from 'all things hospital'.
And for taking over at the hospital over Shabbos numerous times, instead of my husband and I switching off, allowing us to be a family for Shabbos. This was a huge help!
-My friends and neighbours. For everything. For just being there. For the big things and the seemingly small things like a bar of choc through the letter-box with a note 'safe trip', or 'chocolate always helps!'
-My childrens schools. For not asking my kids how things are when that is what they wanted, and for asking them when they DID want to talk. I especially appreciated that you all kept in touch so you could help my kid. Or called when you noticed my kid was a little was a little off, wanting to know what, or if, you should do. Because as much as I wanted to be in touch, there were so many balls to juggle.
-The aquaintences in our wonderful community (somewhere in vast NY) who dropped off a fresh kugel or batch of challos because 'you happened to make extra' (even though you have a large family, and it was erev Yom tov...).
-The Seminary girls who met me and asked me if my kids had made their sh'lach monos for their friends yet because they 'looove doing these things!' (I hadn't even noticed Purim was approaching!)
-Our local bikur cholim, as well as the various different ones near the hospitals (particularly Satmar Bikur Cholim) who helped with meals for my family at home, as well as food in the hospital. The hospital staff were astounded when 2 woman made a round trip of over 2 hours to deliver Shabbos food to a stranger!
-The X family, chabad Shluchim who I'd love to name, but they won't allow me to! At one point, we spent a few weeks in a medical center in a small town where we thought there was no Kehilla. But Rebetzen X, you make a point of checking every couple of days to see if there are any Jewish patients, thank you for finding us! I'll never forget those hilarious late night games of Pictionary with your teenage daughters! And your famous mushroom barley soup. It warmed body and soul.
-My frum paediatrician. 24/7 you were available, always with a smile, advice and chizuk. We tried not to bother you too much, but..(I can hear you smiling, saying 'bother...when were you ever a bother?'!
-Camp Simcha & other medical orgs. Again, where to start! Big brothers/sisters, Shabbatons, Travel expenses, Mom's spa days, kids outings, and the extras like sandwhiches for 'the way'.
-Medical referral agencies and medical askanim. No words Hashem should bensch you with good health and nachas always.
-My wonderful teenage neighbours for being such great friends to my kids. Yes, you started out as babysitters, but you became their friends.
-Those who helped us with sorting out insurance when we were out of network, or helping us find the right doctors who were within the network-when our brains Just. Couldn't. think. Anymore.
I'm sure there are many people I've missed out, 3 years is a long time! Thank you Hashem, and thank you to all of you!
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 3:13 pm
I am not crying
My cheeks are just wet
מי כעמך ישראל?
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 3:16 pm
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Wow, I haven’t read such a heartwarming post in so long! Hatzlacha with your son! I’m so happy he was discharged, may live in health until 120!
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 3:21 pm
May Hashem bless you that you used up all your tzaros in these past three years, and your involvement with these organizations in the future should be only as givers.
May your middah of halaras hatov be a lesson to us all, and may your dc live a long life full of brachos, with the only after effects of this being positive.
I am so, so happy for you.
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 3:37 pm
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Crying as I read this too. You and all of klal yisroel should know no more tzaar and only be blessed with Simcha bracha and gratitude always!!
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 3:50 pm
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Wow what a kiddush Hashem!! Thanks for posting- was so heartwarming to read! Wishing you and your family continued besuros tovos and gezunt ad 120!
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 4:06 pm
| amother Lemonlime wrote: | May Hashem bless you that you used up all your tzaros in these past three years, and your involvement with these organizations in the future should be only as givers.
May your middah of halaras hatov be a lesson to us all, and may your dc live a long life full of brachos, with the only after effects of this being positive.
I am so, so happy for you. |
Omen! Thank you, I hope I'll have the zechus to be a giver from now on. I've learned so much from people in how to be a 'good giver'!
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 4:10 pm
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I'm crying. Mi Keamcha Yisroel! Op hashem should bentsch you and all the people you (haven't) named.
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 4:15 pm
| amother Melon wrote: | | I'm crying. Mi Keamcha Yisroel! Op hashem should bentsch you and all the people you (haven't) named. |
Omen! I'll add as I remember who I've missed out!
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 4:25 pm
I literally have goosebumps all over my body from reading your post.
You and yours should be continuously showered with brachos of good health and good news.
May all those who walked beside you and pulled you gently forward be gebentched for their dedication and love.
I am in awe of your humbleness and hakaros hatov.
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 4:26 pm
| amother OP wrote: | It's been a rough few years, but BH last week he was given the all clear! We could not not have coped, never mind thrived without the wonderful help and care from family and strangers (although you are strangers no longer) alike!
I don't know where to start, but I'll try.
Thank you to
-My parents. You were my staunchest supporters! Just knowing you were doing the worrying meant I didn't have to, and could concentrate on my family.
-My in-laws. If Hashem decided the best hospital to treat yanky (not his real name) had to be 2+ hours from our home, we thank Him it was in NJ (real name!) not far from your home! The lifts, the company, somewhere to be when we had to be near the hospital, when we didn't have time to get home before Shabbos, when my older kids wanted to visit...your home was ours!
-My local siblings/in law. For always being available to host my older kids, for the meals you sent in and for the last minute Shabbbos invites when we had last minute medical emergencies. And for the times you called on Sunday to invite us for Shabbos meals, giving me a week of 'one thing less to do' !
-My non local siblings/in law. For allowing me to vent! For driving out to visit, along with your kids to keep me and my son company. For inviting my older kids for Yom tov & holidays when they needed a break from 'all things hospital'.
And for taking over at the hospital over Shabbos numerous times, instead of my husband and I switching off, allowing us to be a family for Shabbos. This was a huge help!
-My friends and neighbours. For everything. For just being there. For the big things and the seemingly small things like a bar of choc through the letter-box with a note 'safe trip', or 'chocolate always helps!'
-My childrens schools. For not asking my kids how things are when that is what they wanted, and for asking them when they DID want to talk. I especially appreciated that you all kept in touch so you could help my kid. Or called when you noticed my kid was a little was a little off, wanting to know what, or if, you should do. Because as much as I wanted to be in touch, there were so many balls to juggle.
-The aquaintences in our wonderful community (somewhere in vast NY) who dropped off a fresh kugel or batch of challos because 'you happened to make extra' (even though you have a large family, and it was erev Yom tov...).
-The Seminary girls who met me and asked me if my kids had made their sh'lach monos for their friends yet because they 'looove doing these things!' (I hadn't even noticed Purim was approaching!)
-Our local bikur cholim, as well as the various different ones near the hospitals (particularly Satmar Bikur Cholim) who helped with meals for my family at home, as well as food in the hospital. The hospital staff were astounded when 2 woman made a round trip of over 2 hours to deliver Shabbos food to a stranger!
-The X family, chabad Shluchim who I'd love to name, but they won't allow me to! At one point, we spent a few weeks in a medical center in a small town where we thought there was no Kehilla. But Rebetzen X, you make a point of checking every couple of days to see if there are any Jewish patients, thank you for finding us! I'll never forget those hilarious late night games of Pictionary with your teenage daughters! And your famous mushroom barley soup. It warmed body and soul.
-My frum paediatrician. 24/7 you were available, always with a smile, advice and chizuk. We tried not to bother you too much, but..(I can hear you smiling, saying 'bother...when were you ever a bother?'!
-Camp Simcha & other medical orgs. Again, where to start! Big brothers/sisters, Shabbatons, Travel expenses, Mom's spa days, kids outings, and the extras like sandwhiches for 'the way'.
-Medical referral agencies and medical askanim. No words Hashem should bensch you with good health and nachas always.
-My wonderful teenage neighbours for being such great friends to my kids. Yes, you started out as babysitters, but you became their friends.
-Those who helped us with sorting out insurance when we were out of network, or helping us find the right doctors who were within the network-when our brains Just. Couldn't. think. Anymore.
I'm sure there are many people I've missed out, 3 years is a long time! Thank you Hashem, and thank you to all of you! |
Important one I missed out!
-My son's Yeshiva. His Rebbe called one day, concerned about him. He suggested a few therapy sessions, adding that the school has a fund for short term therapy. They did, it started the second he said that I think! We looked into which therapist would be a good fit, and called his Rebbe back. He said 'great, he works with a few boys in our Yeshiva, I'll arrange it'. I told him to send us the bill. He never did. When we contacted the therapist, he said it had been paid in full. It was only a few sessions, but still!
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 7:22 pm
| amother Poppy wrote: | | Crying as I read this too. You and all of klal yisroel should know no more tzaar and only be blessed with Simcha bracha and gratitude always!! |
Omen.
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 7:36 pm
| amother Charcoal wrote: | I literally have goosebumps all over my body from reading your post.
You and yours should be continuously showered with brachos of good health and good news.
May all those who walked beside you and pulled you gently forward be gebentched for their dedication and love.
I am in awe of your humbleness and hakaros hatov. |
Humble...hmm not sure about that, just realistic that we couldn't do it alone. Our situation caused us to eat some humble pie though, it's so hard to be a taker...
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Boca00
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 7:40 pm
Wow I'm in tears. I am so so happy for you- this must be such a tremendous relief!
And so special how many people came out to help you 
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yiddishmom
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 7:58 pm
Oh, I definitely joined the group of crying women
😭 😭 😭
Maybe you never know of such tzar again!
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 8:17 pm
| yiddishmom wrote: | Oh, I definitely joined the group of crying women
😭 😭 😭
Maybe you never know of such tzar again! |
Don't cry! But next time to see a Mom pushing a stroller with a feeding pump attached, just give her a bright cheery hi! It might be just what she needs!
ETA: And you can ask her how her dc is, if she doesn't want to talk about it, she won't. And don't worry that she might think you're being nosey, she won't. She'll just think you care!
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amother
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Sun, Dec 15 2024, 9:38 pm
| amother OP wrote: | Important one I missed out!
-My son's Yeshiva. His Rebbe called one day, concerned about him. He suggested a few therapy sessions, adding that the school has a fund for short term therapy. They did, it started the second he said that I think! We looked into which therapist would be a good fit, and called his Rebbe back. He said 'great, he works with a few boys in our Yeshiva, I'll arrange it'. I told him to send us the bill. He never did. When we contacted the therapist, he said it had been paid in full. It was only a few sessions, but still! |
Wow OP after so much negativity on here it’s heartwarming to see such a warm and wonderful post. B”h for the great news your family received and what a wonderful place to share your Miracle and your thanks. Your post brought tears to my eyes.
OP it might be a good idea to add this as an ETA to your original post in case anyone doesn’t go through all the comments, this Rebbe is amazing!
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amother
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Mon, Dec 16 2024, 7:34 am
| amother Lightgreen wrote: | Wow OP after so much negativity on here it’s heartwarming to see such a warm and wonderful post. B”h for the great news your family received and what a wonderful place to share your Miracle and your thanks. Your post brought tears to my eyes.
OP it might be a good idea to add this as an ETA to your original post in case anyone doesn’t go through all the comments, this Rebbe is amazing! |
I'll add it! You reminded me of another school related chesed. I work in a school, and when my wonderful boss saw I was struggling, between appointments, emergencies etc, she suggested I take 3 months off, then reassess. She promised me she'll keep my job open for me. I was hesitant, as it gave me some normality, esp since I'd been there a while. I was familiar with everyone, I could just 'be', I didn't have to pretend I was coping, or not!
As it turned out, my son was transferred to a hospital a couple of hours away, so I had to take a few months off. I ended up taking 8 months off, and just knowing my job was waiting for me, was a huge blessing!
I actually didn't realize what a brocho it was, until I returned to work. My whole indentity for that period was 'Mom of a sick kid', and getting back into life is very scary at times.
Firstly, when there let's say, a swelling on the PEG site, it's 'call the RN', his oxygen's dropping, it's 'call the hosp, do we come straight in or wait?' I was grateful for sure, but it was scary.
Secondly, I'd forgotten how normal life worked! Had I had to find a new job, new people, etc it would've been so so hard! Like this, I just slipped back into the familar place, with familiar people which really helped me adjust to real life again. Although I'm still adjusting..it'll take time.
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Mon, Dec 16 2024, 8:52 am
| amother OP wrote: | Don't cry! But next time to see a Mom pushing a stroller with a feeding pump attached, just give her a bright cheery hi! It might be just what she needs!
ETA: And you can ask her how her dc is, if she doesn't want to talk about it, she won't. And don't worry that she might think you're being nosey, she won't. She'll just think you care! |
You say it's hard to be a taker. But look at how much you give!
ETA: And for all you know, the woman you smile at and encourage might now be motivated to do something kind and drive for a chesed, or watch the kids of someone going through something, and there you are, part of the same giving cycle.
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Mon, Dec 16 2024, 1:49 pm
| PinkFridge wrote: | You say it's hard to be a taker. But look at how much you give!
ETA: And for all you know, the woman you smile at and encourage might now be motivated to do something kind and drive for a chesed, or watch the kids of someone going through something, and there you are, part of the same giving cycle. |
Your words mean a lot to me..I sent you a PM.
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