Feels like I can go crazy

amother

OP ↓

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 12:00 pm

Baby hangs on to me all day. I need to sit with her while she plays.if I get up to do something, she cries. She wants to be held all the time. She's barely on the floor by herself for a few before crying.
I can't accomplish anything while she's awake. I barely throw in a load of laundry. Supper gets down in 5 min increments. Work gets done hopefully while she naps.

So let's say I leave laundry for at night, Or order supper, my brain just feels like mush. From not doing anything. I feel unfulfilled and exhausted at the same time.

lucky14

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 1:04 pm

What age?

I’m in the same situation.
My baby just cries while I make dinner usually. I mean I have to make dinner. I tell her that I’m sorry but I can’t hold her ALL day. My kids are late rollers and crawlers…

Btw I can do relate to the exhausted and not having done anything part.

amother

Seablue

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 1:46 pm

I'm sorry. I know this doesn't fix the root of the issue, but have you tried babywearing? To free up your hands.

amother

Hyssop

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 1:54 pm

Work on giving her validation from afar. As you stand up keep talking to her. Don’t just stand and walk away, say silly things, look up from supper and play peek a boo. Also your baby can kvetch or even cry a drop while you comfort her. You don’t have to go flying to hold her the second she makes a sound. Sounds like you built a lot of your bonding over physical touch only, so you not being in face is a negative.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 4:30 pm

lucky14 wrote:

Almost a year old. She does crawl around. So she ends up crawling to me and shlepping me to pick her up.

I would love to do something stimulating. But I can't even think straight long enough decide on what! So I end up doing nothing and eating.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 4:31 pm

amother Seablue wrote:

I'm sorry. I know this doesn't fix the root of the issue, but have you tried babywearing? To free up your hands.

I held her in the carrier for as long as my back would allow me. She's bh too heavy to be carried by now. And besides she grabs everything.

amother

Blue

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 4:35 pm

My baby does this a lot too but I definitely find that when she’s well fed and well rested she’s more willing to play on the floor next to me. Otherwise she gets cranky and wants to be held. Mine is a little older (15 months) and will grab whatever I’m doing so it’s hard to do anything when I hold her but I do what I can. Yes, I’ve made dinner holding her and fighting with her for the spoon. It’s a physically exhausting age

amother

Obsidian

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 4:38 pm

I recently started a thread about this 😊

https://www.imamother.com/foru.....88385

I guess we are all in the same boat.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 5:23 pm

amother Hyssop wrote:

Will try your strategy.

We did and do bond by physical touch. She's a baby. We also play together. But when I wanna leave to do something she cries.

My biggest issue is that my mind is numb with nothingness.

amother

↑ OP

Thu, Dec 12 2024, 5:24 pm

amother Obsidian wrote:

I recently started a thread about this 😊

https://www.imamother.com/foru.....88385

I guess we are all in the same boat.

I guess that's life with a baby. Heart