Baby just turned 5 months. She sleeps in a crib in my room. The past week she has started waking up more and more often each night. Sometimes she is ok with me giving her a pacifier but other times she makes it clear that she wants to be fed. She used to eat one time a night now it’s 2-3.
Over the past few days she has wanted me to be in the room with her. She wakes up 10-30 minutes after being put down and cries if I’m not there. I go in and give her the paci and she is fine if I stay in the room but if I leave she starts crying as soon as I walk out. But I need to stay in for a good like 15-20 minutes until she’s super asleep or she starts crying if I leave.
What would you do?
I have things to do at night.
I feel bad leaving her to cry.
I don’t want to continue this habit of her needing me there to sleep.
But I understand she’s a baby and is used to me always being there.
We contact nap during the day. She literally is almost always with me.
But she used to be fine sleeping without me right there.
Just curious what others would do in this situation.
[quote="amother OP"]Baby just turned 5 months. She sleeps in a crib in my room. The past week she has started waking up more and more often each night. Sometimes she is ok with me giving her a pacifier but other times she makes it clear that she wants to be fed. She used to eat one time a night now it’s 2-3.
Over the past few days she has wanted me to be in the room with her. She wakes up 10-30 minutes after being put down and cries if I’m not there. I go in and give her the paci and she is fine if I stay in the room but if I leave she starts crying as soon as I walk out. But I need to stay in for a good like 15-20 minutes until she’s super asleep or she starts crying if I leave.
What would you do?
I have things to do at night.
I feel bad leaving her to cry.
I don’t want to continue this habit of her needing me there to sleep.
But I understand she’s a baby and is used to me always being there.
We contact nap during the day. She literally is almost always with me.
But she used to be fine sleeping without me right there.
Just curious what others would do in this situation.[/quote
It sounds like the 4 month sleep regression can happen now as well
It’s difficult when you have things to get done. I also spend a lot of time doing bedtime. I try to get most of my things done beforehand as I am way too tired after bedtime.
Can you move her out of the room? 3 nights and she'll be sleeping much better
Ok so in this scenario what would those 3 nights look like when she wakes and wants me there? I go in and stay or let her cry? Or you think by being in a different room it will be easier for her to not have me there.
So there’s the other (selfish) part that this is my last baby and I like having her close. Too much so obviously that I’ve created this mess. The thought of moving her to a different room totally makes me sad. So I guess I have to decide which I care about more…. Sleep or having her near me.
Ok so in this scenario what would those 3 nights look like when she wakes and wants me there? I go in and stay or let her cry? Or you think by being in a different room it will be easier for her to not have me there.
So there’s the other (selfish) part that this is my last baby and I like having her close. Too much so obviously that I’ve created this mess. The thought of moving her to a different room totally makes me sad. So I guess I have to decide which I care about more…. Sleep or having her near me.
I didnt nurse but I had the same scenarios. moving the baby out of the room somehow gets them to sleep better. my baby suddenly started sleeping thru the night.... but if she does wake up dont go in the second you hear her kvetch. let her learn to calm herself down.
when you do go in, take care of her and go right out dont get her used to the habit that youll be sitting there with her.
PI’m gonna consider moving her out. The only place to move her is to a room with two other kids who I think will keep her awake. Was hoping not to do that until she was closer to one.
PI’m gonna consider moving her out. The only place to move her is to a room with two other kids who I think will keep her awake. Was hoping not to do that until she was closer to one.
In that case, I would try using a sleep tent first in your room / the slumberpod is considered a safe one
Ok so in this scenario what would those 3 nights look like when she wakes and wants me there? I go in and stay or let her cry? Or you think by being in a different room it will be easier for her to not have me there.
So there’s the other (selfish) part that this is my last baby and I like having her close. Too much so obviously that I’ve created this mess. The thought of moving her to a different room totally makes me sad. So I guess I have to decide which I care about more…. Sleep or having her near me.
This isn't a mess, it's totally developmentally normal. 5 months is TINY. So normal they want you there until they're in a deep sleep and wake up several times to nurse.
I can't imagine moving a 5 month old out of my room. That would make me extremely sad.
This isn't a mess, it's totally developmentally normal. 5 months is TINY. So normal they want you there until they're in a deep sleep and wake up several times to nurse.
I can't imagine moving a 5 month old out of my room. That would make me extremely sad.
I'm gonna make you even sadder and tell you that I moved each of my kids out by 4 months, and everyone was happier for it.
Ok so I had a talk with her last night and explained to her that I was reading through my journal and saw that her older brother slept through the entire night 9:30-6:30 at her age and if she wants to wake up to eat that’s fine but she does NOT need me in the room with her the whole night.
(I really did jokingly tell her all of this last night).
So last night she actually stayed asleep from 10-6:30 waking just once for a quick feed at 2am. And I was able to clean the kitchen and get other chores done.
So I’m hoping & praying that the other nights were just a blip and that we’re back to our regular and not that last night was the exception….
