S/o would your child tell a kid he's not jewish?

amother

Tanzanite ↓

Yesterday at 7:39 pm

amother OP wrote:

Because his mother isn't jewish?

My kids have done that.

How would they even know or be in that situation?

amother

DarkGreen ↓

Yesterday at 8:17 pm

mommy3b2c wrote:

When my youngest was 3 , he said to someone (an adult) :

“If you’re a g-y why aren’t you bad?”

Thats horrible.

Tzutzie

Yesterday at 8:23 pm

amother DarkGreen wrote:

Thats horrible.

It is. But it's coming from a 3 year old.

My almost 3 year old will ask me what I'm making on the toilet from the other side of the door....

The judgement and under amother isn't very nice.

Op, I don't think my kids would say it. But kids say dumb stuff all the time. So I wouldn't bee too shocked.

My kid once loudly asked me "is the driver jewish?"
We were on a village bus in kiryas joel, the driver was clearly dressed in chassidish clothing. He had curled peyos. A regular satmar guy.
She was 5!!
I told he to look at his clothing and make an educated guess.
Then she asked me how I know he's really jewish.
Kid's got a point....
But anyway. Kids are kids are kids. You teach them my preaching, by example and by correcting them. And then they still do stuff.
Oh well. So do I.

amother

Violet

Yesterday at 8:40 pm

We hid that reality about some of their cousins from them until they were in their late teens specifically so they would have the maturity and sensitivity to not have an oops moment and make our nieces and nephews feel awful.

amother

Petunia

Yesterday at 8:49 pm

A child of mine asked a secular Jew at 4 or 5 years old whether he was Jewish because he didn’t wear a kippa? The man was horrified and insulted which I think was pathetic. Children ask stupid questions, besides the man had been working in a frum workplace and was proudly NOT wearing a kippa so what was my son supposed to think? He was figuring out the world.

A more disturbing part was I had a neighbor who told her new classmate that she was a convert, because their whole family had recently converted and it was a known fact. So the neighbor was yapping about it in public like she wasn’t even really Jewish. Little did she know, her own mom was also a convert but she didn’t talk about it and of course other adults who knew didn’t either

↑ mommy3b2c ↓

Yesterday at 9:14 pm

chanatron1000 wrote:

It's horrible, and it's not the 3 year old who looks bad.

Never assume anything. I assure you, he didn’t learn that g0yim are bad from me. At my sons bar mitzvah:

My son is the kid without the blurred face . And the person he said it to laughed . But I still felt embarrassed.

amother

Bone ↓

Yesterday at 9:38 pm

mommy3b2c wrote:

Never assume anything. I assure you, he didn’t learn that g0yim are bad from me. At my sons bar mitzvah:

My son is the kid without the blurred face . And the person he said it to laughed . But I still felt embarrassed.

He is so adorable! Looks like a blast!
Don't forget to invite us to your next bar mitzva...

#BestBubby

Yesterday at 10:07 pm

My BFF and also my cousin adopted their children.

I didn't tell my kids because I was afraid they might tell the kids they were adopted.

My BFF asked me to tell my kids not to tell her kids about the adoption and was very impressed when I said my kids don't know.

SuperWify ↓

Today at 2:29 am

chanatron1000 wrote:

It's horrible, and it's not the 3 year old who looks bad.

ouch. Kids say dumb things that we have no control over.

My son at age five asked why an old black man looked like a monkey. I wanted to disappear.,

↑ SuperWify

Today at 2:30 am

amother Petunia wrote:

But how should anyone know if someone is Jewish if they don’t look Jewish?

amother

↑ DarkGreen ↓

Today at 2:56 am

Tzutzie wrote:

It is. But it's coming from a 3 year old.

No, it is not. Such judgement is learned. No childis born with judgementalness in them.

Dolly151

Today at 3:03 am

Kids ask/say things that we associate as either bad or good. They're just pure emes.
Like my daughter asking me if I'm pregnant bc I gained weight. It's true I gained weight. I associate it as insulting /embarrassing but that's on me. People have to chill out and realize that kids will just say interesting things/the "elephant in the room" story of things. That's part of their charm.

amother

RosePink

Today at 3:07 am

amother DarkGreen wrote:

No, it is not. Such judgement is learned. No childis born with judgementalness in them.

Gosh this is so self righteous.

My kids never said that specifically but they have said other such things. We live in a very black neighborhood and my kids are well liked by all of the neighbors, my extended family isn't frum and we are close with them and my husband and I always talk about and model derech eretz for all people. And my kids still say stupid things.

amother

Ivory ↓

Today at 3:18 am

I'm a bt and everyone in my family is intermarried so this is going to come up soon. My simple plan is not to tell my kids which cousins are or aren't actually Jewish until they're old enough to understand the nuance. They'll understand soon that not all Yidden get to go to Morah to learn what Hashem wants from us

amother

↑ Ivory

Today at 3:21 am

amother DarkGreen wrote:

No, it is not. Such judgement is learned. No childis born with judgementalness in them.

When you put a kid in a densely Jewish area and their only "exposure" to non jews is the Channukah story, Purim story, pesach story, and Avraham getting thrown in a fire, etc. what exactly are they supposed to think about non jews?

amother

↑ DarkGreen ↓

Today at 3:25 am

amother RosePink wrote:

Why self righteous?