How to get baby sleeping longer stretches?!

zebra111 ↓

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 9:43 pm

BH this baby is far from my first.
I have this problem every time.
Ds is now 8 months bH.
He wakes up every 40mins overnight. Sometimes he wants a bottle, sometimes I can rock him back to sleep.
In an ideal world id live in a palace, put him in his own room and do some sort of crying sleep training. Alas I live in a box, he shares a room with us (dh drives far to work and works long hrs, cant have him up all night), no room to squish him into a diff room even if he wouldnt bother the other kids with his screaming..
Please help a tired mommy! What can I do?!

amother

Foxglove

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 10:09 pm

I would think something is wrong medically. A sleep cycle is about an hour and a half so he's not making it threw a full sleep cycle. Does he have eczema? Reflux? Snoring or sleep apnea? Frequent ear infections?

amother

Camellia

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 10:13 pm

amother Foxglove wrote:

Actually sleep cycles are around 40-45 minutes, so it seems like he's waking between sleep cycles and doesn't know how to self soothe to put himself to sleep.

OP, you might benefit from a sleep consultant but often when kids have this issue it's because they're overtired. How many naps does he have during the day and how long are they?

↑ zebra111 ↓

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 10:17 pm

Could be overtiredness..he usually naps around an hr in the morning, and 1.5-2hrs at lunchtime.

amother

NeonBlue

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 10:26 pm

Can dh sleep somewhere else for a few nights? Even a mattress in the living room with a sound machine so he doesn’t hear the baby could work if you have no other place.
Or we’ve moved the older kids into our room for a few nights while we sleep train. The kids think it’s fun to sleep on the floor and this way baby adjusts to the new room alone.

↑ zebra111

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 10:29 pm

Maybe I could move the kids over..only other problem is the 2yo who also still doesnt sleep through!
Its a very small apartment, so whilst I actually dont mind leaving him to cry, its very disruptive for everyone else.
How would u go about training.

soontobemother ↓

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 11:19 pm

My sister put one of those room dividers so the baby doesn't see you in the middle of the night and then you would know it's not behavioral. you can sleep train and give your husband ear plugs for a few days? possibly the ferber method? I would also put noise machines in the other kids' rooms and possible close their doors.

this is assuming nothing medical is going on..

↑ soontobemother

Thu, Nov 21 2024, 11:21 pm

zebra111 wrote:

Could be overtiredness..he usually naps around an hr in the morning, and 1.5-2hrs at lunchtime.

Also try adjusting naps and see if it helps.. maybe he is ready for one long nap instead of two? I know its early but my kids transitioned to one long nap earlier and it helps with bedtime.

amother

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Yesterday at 9:56 am

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amother

Babypink

Yesterday at 10:34 am

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amother

NeonYellow

Yesterday at 12:09 pm

You don’t mind letting him cry? Please don’t be so flippant about that.
Try some gentle ideas.

mommaofone

Yesterday at 12:30 pm

amother NeonYellow wrote:

You don’t mind letting him cry? Please don’t be so flippant about that.
Try some gentle ideas.

Did you read it? That's not what this method is about. Its a very balanced method.
And its extremely tried-and-true