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amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 5:37 pm

I wear pajamas (nightshirt) with a full length Sherpa robe when I wake up and get kids ready for school. I change about 5-10 min before carpool, into a sweatshirt and slinky. For work I wear a pretty dress and shaitle and makeup and look like a highly functional normal human being. The second I’m done I rip my shaitle off and get back into the sweatshirt and slinky (2 pm). I do toddler/baby pickups at 2 like that, and wear it u til about 5 pm when even a sweatshirt and slinky and a bra is just too much. I get back into my nightshirt and robe and wear that till the next morning. I just can’t handle clothing. And bras. Omg. It’s like- life is hard enough without clothing. If my kids want a chance to have a nice mommy I better not be wearing clothes. Mostly this is fine bc my husband doesn’t care. I just get into issues if I get an unexpected knock at the door…or if a kid wants a play date.

What do you wear at home?

amother

Celeste ↓

Yesterday at 5:45 pm

Slinky skirt and zip up or oversized sweater
Tichel
Socks always

sequoia

Yesterday at 5:49 pm

Same, OP, same. The second I get home everything comes off, undies shirt and tights go into laundry, hang up my skirt and sweater, and get into nightshirt and socks and its like ahhhhh.

Bras… fuggehtaboutit!!!

amother

Steel ↓

Yesterday at 5:51 pm

Double post

Last edited by amother on Wed, Nov 27 2024, 5:52 pm; edited 1 time in total

amother

↑ Steel

Yesterday at 5:52 pm

amother OP wrote:

Omg. And here I thought there is nobody like me. Getting dressed is torture. Tights is the ultimate punishment.

amother

Crystal ↓

Yesterday at 5:58 pm

I also thought I'm the only one living in a nightgown. I hardly go out unless I have a school function or appointment because I hate getting dressed. The tights, shaitel, waistbands, and makeup are especially torturous.

amother

DarkGray

Yesterday at 6:00 pm

Omg same here. And I hate shopping as well. I would be in much better mood in public if I'd be wearing cozy sweatshirt and sweatpants.

amother

↑ Celeste

Yesterday at 6:08 pm

Oh and I change out of my bra into a sports bra
I have to always wear something bc I’m nursing and my nipples hurt if they aren’t in a bra or constrained

amother

Milk

Yesterday at 7:12 pm

amother Celeste wrote:

Slinky skirt and zip up or oversized sweater
Tichel
Socks always

Same
And I’m loving this winter coat weather!!!

amother

Apple

Yesterday at 7:13 pm

At home I wear pjs all day. I only get dressed when going out, or if people are visiting.

wrkngmomof2

Yesterday at 7:42 pm

I got a few zip up dresses. Comfy but not pjs.

amother

Orchid

Yesterday at 7:46 pm

wrkngmomof2 wrote:

I got a few zip up dresses. Comfy but not pjs.

This. I don’t feel good when I’m shlumpy (is that a word)
And I have major sensory overload. But a cotton black t shirt and a short skirt with a very stretchy waistband is good with me

chocolate moose

Yesterday at 7:49 pm

I think around the house clothes are normal to prefer. after all, you might be doing laundry or prepping food or tidying a bathroom. be comfortable and washable.

amother

Scarlet

Yesterday at 7:51 pm

Sameeee! I’m extremely sensory. I can’t wear a wig for an extra second. Waistbands and underwire bras (I’m well endowed) are torture for me. I always say, the one thing I wishhh I could do would be to wear pants in public… I would be dressed every day if I could wear leggings and an oversized sweatshirt

amother

Cappuccino

Yesterday at 7:52 pm

If it’s torturous to wear makeup and bra and whatnot why don’t you try easier versions? Like no makeup due-y skin look, an easy sheital, and no right tights, loose like a goose? Honestly asking.

amother

↑ Crystal

Yesterday at 8:53 pm

amother Cappuccino wrote:

If it’s torturous to wear makeup and bra and whatnot why don’t you try easier versions? Like no makeup due-y skin look, an easy sheital, and no right tights, loose like a goose? Honestly asking.

I have acne prone skin and a sickly complexion, so makeup is necessary if I want to feel presentable. I can't afford a more comfortable shaitel. After having kids I need the support of tights to reign in my mommy pooch. What we suffer for beauty <sigh>.

amother

↑ OP

Yesterday at 8:55 pm

amother Cappuccino wrote:

If it’s torturous to wear makeup and bra and whatnot why don’t you try easier versions? Like no makeup due-y skin look, an easy sheital, and no right tights, loose like a goose? Honestly asking.

That’s why I do what I do. Even my “dressed” clothing is zip up soft dresses, no stiff materials, no zippers or tags etc. there’s no such thing as a comfortable shaitle. Even a tichel is too much for me sometimes. I feel guilty bc we’re yeshivish and it’s not done in my circles, but I wear my hair in a bun while I’m in pjs in front of my kids…and I even have teenage boys. I just feel like I’m going to die if I am not comfortable. Parenting is so hard. Running the house is so hard. And wearing clothes makes me feel like I’m going to scream at everyone. I imagine and regular clothes to me feels like wearing stilettos, an olden day corset, and fifteen layers of petty coats and a gown. I can’t breathe and my stress is just off the charts—for what? Better that I’m a calm and present mother than look good. Even a shabbos robe sometimes gets to be too much and sometimes mid-seuda I switch to pajamas. I know it’s extreme but it keeps me at the shabbos table listening to the kids if I can just change and not be in a freaking bra.

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