Do you really not have a favorite child?

amother

Cinnamon

Today at 6:56 pm

I was the not favorite child in my family and every time I get pregnant since my second I worry that this will be the child I won't like as much as my others. Then the kid is born and it's like just another miracle hashem gave me!

amother

Lightpink

Today at 7:11 pm

amother Honeydew wrote:

Can I be honest? I have one child who was so hard as a little kid. He is much easier now, as a teen, B"H. When he was little, though, he made me cry regularly (and made his siblings cry regularly too). We got him help, therapy, meds, lots and lots of parenting, and plenty of mistakes along the way.

When I read this question, I was thinking, "No, I don't have a favorite. Ooh, maybe that one, he's so cute! Or that one, I relate so well to her! Or that one, I look up to him so much! Or that one, she's adorable!..." and I could have said that easily for every single one of my kids...except for that one.

It makes me sad. He's grown so much over the years, I put so much effort into helping him, and I don't dislike him or anything. But he never went through that stage where I thought he was cute. I was never able to relate to his behaviors. And I guess that's what's stopping me from being able to think of him as my favorite...Sigh.

Wow this post really resonated with me.

I have one son who is just so much harder than the others, always thinking only about himself, it’s as if no one and nothing else exists. I eat myself up when I think about him like this. But at the same time I can’t help but wonder if something is really wrong with him…

amother

Green

Today at 7:53 pm

I love them all beyond.

Some I like more than others because they are more my type or easier or in a less difficult life stage or whatever.

I don't consider that playing favorites. I try to be fair to all of them and wish every one of them all the best things in life.

amother

Wisteria

Today at 9:38 pm

amother Lightpink wrote:

It’s interesting I find the kid I pour more kochos into I feel a lot closer to- by default I spend hours and hours helping her through her challenges - But I love them all to death!

amother

Outerspace

Today at 10:15 pm

I love all my kids equally!! I really think I do.

That being said, there are some of my kids that I connect to more easily while others I have to work harder to connect. Personality, age, stage, quirks all make a difference in how easy or hard it is to connect.