What is going on the highschools???!!!!

amother

Lightyellow

Yesterday at 2:14 pm

Same with my Kindergarten class this year. Very click-ey, 1 strong leader whom the rest if the girs follow and who can be rather mean...
And the more mature, level-headed are having a hard time finding their place socially.
I was thinking this feels like a highschool/ middle school class.

amother

↑ Melon

Yesterday at 2:22 pm

Lovable wrote:

Same
I had friends too
And I did well academically too. But I hated school

I lived for the summer! I was a real camp girl, went since young until post sem every year for a full summer
Made great camp friends and hung out with them after school, and on the phone all year

Op maybe send your daughter to some extra curricular activities at night so she can forget about stupid school
And make her off days and summer give her the boost she needs for the rest of the school year

Send her my best of luck! Give her a hug and tell her she will get through it
And most of all make sure she knows you're always there for her and available to talk. I always had my mom to unload and vent to, after a bad day, over a delicious warm supper. It was a lifesaver in those days

Bhatzlacha!

Heart

Yes we are twins lol I was such a camp/youth group girl!!

amother

Violet

Yesterday at 9:12 pm

Yes high school is really tough. My self esteem really suffered, I felt like everyone thought I was weird and like I didn’t belong. I had different interests than lots of my classmates and always felt like the quirky one and not in a good way. Fast forward ten years- I think I was actually well liked in high school! My classmates are all so happy to see me and shmooze when I bump into them, and I really get the feeling that they like me for who I am. On the other hand, the girls who were cool but snobby/elitist/looked down on others, they may have been popular but many people disliked them.

amother

↑ Cognac

Yesterday at 9:15 pm

So question for all those of you who experienced this in high school-
Did the school/ your teachers do anything that helped this ? If not is there anything they could’ve done to help?
I watch this happen year after year and year and I m not sure how I can help. Pairing girls up seems manipulative. Speaking about it seems cliche ..
But I wish I could do something to mitigate it all

amother

Peru

Yesterday at 9:26 pm

I didn't read through all the responses but did want to respond to the OP.

I was a neb in 10th grade. No friends, felt rejected and invisible. Some girls were outright mean and nasty. I was a nice sweet girl, I did well academically, there was no reason for any of it.
Fast forward a few years and I worked in a lage company and made many friends. Guess what, the girl that was meanest to me in school also got hired there too. But I somehow blossomed there, my personality and humor came out, and she was actually vying for my friendship because I was much more popular than she was. And because it isn't high school and I'm not a mean person I befriended her. But it felt good .
So don't give up. This doesn't mean anything for her future. I'm not saying it can't affect her self esteem, it could and it did mine. But with your support and with Tefillos and surrounding herself with supportive people she'll get to the other side. I bench you that it should happen easily and smoothly

amother

Caramel

Yesterday at 9:33 pm

At the 10th grade orientation a teacher spoke to us mothers and gave us heads up that starting a little after sukkos, a lot of girls start feeling like they have no friends. This is usually the result of the large 9th grade groups of friends splitting up into smaller groups of friends. Some girls find themselves with no one. She said it's normal and temporary. Most girls find their spot and make good friends eventually.

amother

Mistyrose

Today at 2:46 am

amother Cognac wrote:

Why is speaking about it cliche?, why can't girls be taught how to have good middos. Why can't they role play looking out for people who seem alone and smiling and saying a nice word. You can't make people be friends with other people but you can teach skills that help girls become "nice" people.