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out-of-towner

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 3:43 am

amother Viola wrote:

I had a friend who was r@ped over the phone. She was single and super naive and a guy called her under the pretext of being a Shadchan and started asking her her br@ size and if she's ever oed before and basically talked her through touching herself down there. She got off the phone and was super creeped out and BH reached out for help..

So yeah, I believe that there are perves out there.

For those doubting the legitimacy of this post, I am posting under my name, as a long time poster. I wish this was made up, but unfortunately it wasn't.

↑ Busybee5 ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 3:52 am

out-of-towner wrote:

For those doubting the legitimacy of this post, I am posting under my name, as a long time poster. I wish this was made up, but unfortunately it wasn't.

Of course it's possible, but she didn't have to engage! She could've put the phone down. She had phone s-x by the sounds of it.

Also posting under my screen name

Sorry I just read that she was super naive, there's your answer. It's not r@pe but s-xual abuse for sure. Yuck 🤮

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amother

Skyblue

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 3:56 am

Busybee5 wrote:

Of course it's possible, but she didn't have to engage! She could've put the phone down. She had phone s-x by the sounds of it.

Also posting under my screen name

It's easy to blame the victim. Don't judge anyone until you're in their shoes.
I'm one of those who never falls for any scam, until I was scammed.
אל תאמין בעצמך עד יום מותך

amother

↑ Amber ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 4:08 am

amother Skyblue wrote:

It's easy to blame the victim. Don't judge anyone until you're in their shoes.
I'm one of those who never falls for any scam, until I was scammed.
אל תאמין בעצמך עד יום מותך

OK I don't want to victim blame and hope I'm not doing that by asking the following question about the phone zex case. Is it possible that a frum girl of marriageable age and who is in the market for shidduchim has absolutely zero idea of what is considered tznius behavior? I mean they know about body covering and any type of intimacy having to do with the genitals being reserved for your future husband or do they not know that?

↑ Ruchi

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 4:44 am

amother Amber wrote:

Seems like very naive girls, can be easily carried away and swayed. Deep down they know it's wrong. But they just allow themselves, because their nature is not to resist.
I know a man once in my town did and made girls do horrendous things. It went on for a few years. He employed them as a cover up for his terrible misdeeds to them. All the girls were sheltered and naive. They complied.
If you are from Stamford Hill and old enough to remember, you will know what I'm talking about.

amother

↑ DarkCyan ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 4:47 am

out-of-towner wrote:

For those doubting the legitimacy of this post, I am posting under my name, as a long time poster. I wish this was made up, but unfortunately it wasn't.

Happened to me to over instagram tho.

amother

Green

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 5:15 pm

amother Navyblue wrote:

Omg, I just typed both numbers into my messages to see if I’d ever gotten anything from them—and sure enough, I had.

He asked for pictures of my gown but didn’t know which one because his sister-in-law mentioned it. I told him I’d posted a few and he needs to show me which one she saw. He said he wanted pictures of all of them. I said no, you need to tell me which one.

He responded, “Whatever, forget it,” and I said, “Okay. I don’t feel comfortable sending you pictures without knowing what you’re referring to.”
So he said you can cover your face and I just ignored him.
Weird.

I had the same thing, also mentioned that his sister in law sent it and asked for more pics, then asked what month I'm in and told me it looks great and do I think it'll work "b/c I'm huge on top"I didn't suspect anything so I said yes

↑ Busybee5 ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 5:25 pm

Ruchi wrote:

The wording of his question seems off, if he was enquiring about layout.

Maybe he's chassidish or his first language isn't English. I really still think he didn't mean that!
I personally think that's nitpicking, and trying to find issues but maybe we're missing some more info from whoever posted that. Why would he even ask that question to his benefit other than he wants to know what the layout of the beds are before renting. For all he knew maybe he was renting from someone who doesn't keep taharas hamishpacha or is past menopause, so they have a double bed which wouldn't work for them!

Come back poster, and did he really mean dtd?

CW540

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 5:42 pm

Had the same thing.... I didn't realize right away and thought I'm dealing with a complex teenager.
After 3 days of back and forth he "by mistake" sent a very very inappropriate message officiary meant for her husband.... that's when I realized something is totally off.... My friend had the same story same and we realized its a man.....

ra_mom ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 7:30 pm

When advertising a gown, people should only post a free Google phone number as contact information (which will forward the calls to your own cell phone number).

If you post your real number, creeps can research and find out who you are and where you live.

Such a creepy world we live in that we need to think about things like this.

↑ ra_mom

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 7:37 pm

amother Tiffanyblue wrote:

Why not turn the tables on him and send him a load of messages he might not like - he might get the message that way

You wish. Try dialing any of the numbers listed on this thread (using *67 first to block your own number). They will all say the number has been disconnected. He's using a spoofing program so that nobody can find him.

amother

↑ Aqua

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 7:46 pm

I’m sorry to say but reading all these comments and stories from this deranged lunatic makes me want to do dental work on him- and I’m not a dentist. And boy do I not mean it in a friendly way.

Alternatively, I can post pictures of gowns and spoof phone numbers to connect to 911 or other emergency numbers. Talk about how fast he’ll be caught by authorities. But first, take a moment to imagine is sick demented brain not understanding why he reached someone that says “911, what is your emergency”?
If I get enough votes I’m going for it iyh.

amother

↑ Tealblue

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 7:47 pm

I once had a guy dm me in Instagram trying to get me to talk dirty to him
I told him I’m married and uninterested

He didn’t seem to mind and didn’t stop. I blocked him. He messaged me from a different account

I blocked and changed my Instagram handle

This nonsense stopped

amother

↑ DarkCyan ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 7:55 pm

amother Tealblue wrote:

I had that as a teen with many crazy stories.

I kept saying I was 17 in hopes they’d get off my back…

amother

↑ Poinsettia ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 8:39 pm

Ruchi wrote:

The wording of his question seems off, if he was enquiring about layout.

He was definitely referring to dtd… conversation was in Yiddish and it’s not so common to divide beds in chasidish community….

amother

↑ Jade

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 8:48 pm

amother Poinsettia wrote:

He was definitely referring to dtd… conversation was in Yiddish and it’s not so common to divide beds in chasidish community….

How do you say dtd in Yiddish?

amother

Ruby

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 8:53 pm

I once had a man call me for info on a friend that was divorced. He asked me a lot of questions and then asked about their intimacy issues, which they had. I felt so grown up and nature to be asked such questions and to be taken seriously that I didn't bang down the phone and answered to the best of my abilities.
About an hour later it hit me that it might have not been so innocent

amother

↑ Amber

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 9:03 pm

amother Ruby wrote:

I don't get why you would discuss your friend's private issues to a total rando over the phone. Did you have your friend's permission to do that?

amother

↑ DarkCyan ↓

Mon, Nov 18 2024, 9:06 pm

amother Jade wrote:

How do you say dtd in Yiddish?

Many ways.

Someone told me they say שטופן and I always use שטופן in everyday speech as to push.