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Do you allow toy weapons to be fired/launched/set off in your home?
Yes  
 26%  [ 33 ]
No  
 55%  [ 68 ]
It depends (please explain)  
 13%  [ 17 ]
Some weapons but not others (please explain)  
 2%  [ 3 ]
I allow guests to do this but not my kids (please explain)  
 1%  [ 2 ]
Total Votes : 123



amother
OP  


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 12:49 am
I'm the "do you let your kids play soccer in the house" OP.

DC is quite prolific at making guns and rockets from Legos, including missiles/ bullets which can be fired if you press a lever or pull the trigger. He uses rubber bands and springs for this purpose. These guns often misfire and BH for nisim where the bullet hit a millimeter away from another kid's eye. The bullets hit breakables too, and they get left on the floor (we have little ones BH). So we said no more Lego guns. The rockets misfire similar to Gaza rockets so they are less dangerous but we've had issues with them as well. So we said not outside your room, but he doesn't respect that - we're abusive, don't you know, all other parents allow guns to be fired and rockets to be launched in the living room, he's not doing it at other kids and he's always careful (nope).

He also makes bows and arrows, which he shoots at people, and we confiscated those because he's shooting at people (sorry, he shot at the wall a meter away from the person, not at the person, my bad).

Do you allow toy guns to be fired in your home? Do you allow toy bows and arrows to be shot in your home? Do you allow toy rockets to be launched in your home?

Including the option for guests because some people let rules slide for guests. FTR I don't allow guests to use toy weapons in my house, either.
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amother
Calendula


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 1:08 am
Nope. The rules are never in the house and never towards anyone’s face.
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effess




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 1:25 am
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amother
Indigo


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 1:32 am
2 separate things.
1. I don't allow my kids to play with weapons of any sort, whether "real" or toy
2. I don't allow any dangerous behavior, or behavior that could hurt other people.

So no, I would not allow him to fire off anything that might hurt someone else whether deliberately or by mistake. This is a blanket rule for anyone who crosses my threshold.
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Iymnok




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 1:37 am
Any toy gun is an opportunity to teach gun safety. Barrel down, finger off the trigger, don't point at your own toes, etc. We have made many targets (cardboard, dry erase marker on the window, etc.), some are only appropriate outside.
Stealth is a fun way to safely use to guns.

If he likes guns and archery, find a way for him to practice safely. A full ban will backfire.
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Teamster




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 1:40 am
Your son sounds adorable and creative!

But no.
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amother
  OP  


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 2:00 am
Iymnok wrote:
Any toy gun is an opportunity to teach gun safety. Barrel down, finger off the trigger, don't point at your own toes, etc. We have made many targets (cardboard, dry erase marker on the window, etc.), some are only appropriate outside.
Stealth is a fun way to safely use to guns.

If he likes guns and archery, find a way for him to practice safely. A full ban will backfire.

What is stealth?
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amother
Pansy


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 2:05 am
I voted depends.

My kids are trained in real weapons so toys are always used as an opportunity to practice gun safety and procedures.

Rule #1 never point the barrel of a gun towards anyone
Rule#2 weapons belong outdoors. Real and fake
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amother
Brickred


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 3:17 am
The Lakewood Mashgiach, R' Matisyahu Salamon ztz"l said that children should never be allowed to play with guns or anything violent-related.
So no, I don't allow it, ever
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Bnei Berak 10  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 3:44 am
amother Pansy wrote:
I voted depends.

My kids are trained in real weapons so toys are always used as an opportunity to practice gun safety and procedures.

Rule #1 never point the barrel of a gun towards anyone
Rule#2 weapons belong outdoors. Real and fake

Listen to Pansy OP. Send your kid do a course in shooting and weapons to learn how to deal with it.
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amother
  OP


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 4:36 am
Bnei Berak 10 wrote:
Listen to Pansy OP. Send your kid do a course in shooting and weapons to learn how to deal with it.

I've never heard of such courses for young kids or teens.
And this is a kid who would not receive weapons even if he enlists (volunteers) in the IDF.
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ora_43  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:39 am
I wrote 'depends.'

IMO it's impossible to ban play with weapons. You can only make kids get more creative about what they turn into a weapon.

But it is very, very reasonable to limit projectiles in places where they can hurt other people or other people's stuff. I'd even say it's irresponsible not to.

If your kid is whining that it's not fair and Everybody Else's Parents Let that usually means you're on the right track LOL seriously it's a very reasonable rule. I'm sure he has a million arguments about how he's going to be careful, and he never aims at people, etc. OK let him argue (or shut it down if you're sick of hearing it, your call). But keep the rule anyway.

Sometimes you can 'compromise' by offering them a room you're not using. like, start with 'only in the bedroom' and move to 'OK, if you promise to be really careful, you can fire your 'gun' in the upstairs hallway just for today. But not in the living room.'
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  ora_43




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:42 am
It's interesting to see some people turn it into a chance to teach weapons safety, I never thought to do that. It's a nice idea.

For me it's more a chance to teach consent / the need to take other people's feelings into account. 'I know you don't think it should bother your sister, but it does bother your sister.' 'I know you don't think it's dangerous, but since I'm also in the room, I get to decide that it doesn't feel safe to me.' etc.
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Success10




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 6:24 am
Yes, they’re boys.
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  Bnei Berak 10  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:02 am
amother OP wrote:
I've never heard of such courses for young kids or teens.
And this is a kid who would not receive weapons even if he enlists (volunteers) in the IDF.

Its time to find out. Call shooting rangers. Research on the web. There must be some bow and arrow training somewhere.
Shooting is an olympic sport.
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amother
Ecru


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:28 am
My child builds, weapons, missles,....
That's my child's way to deal with the war.
My child never points gun at anyone.
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  Bnei Berak 10  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:34 am
amother Brickred wrote:
The Lakewood Mashgiach, R' Matisyahu Salamon ztz"l said that children should never be allowed to play with guns or anything violent-related.
So no, I don't allow it, ever

I also agreed with this-until October 7th.
Today I would not forbid it. On the contrary, if they wanted to learn to handle weapons they should learn it under supervision of an instructor. Obviously age appropriate.
I live in Israel.
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amother
Outerspace


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:34 am
No, never (but he always did at friends houses). Grew up to be a combat soldier and is very conscious of all gun safety.
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amother
Slateblue


 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:35 am
My family member is suffering for years with permanent damage to an eye from a toy that was accidentally thrown into their eye.
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  Bnei Berak 10




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:39 am
All weapon sport including bow and arrow MUST be outside or at a shooting range.
NO WAY it's acceptable to do it in the home!
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