Did people know?? | Imamother

amother

OP ↓

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 4:14 pm

Who did u tell that you were having twins when you were expecting?
I'm 16 weeks along BH but look much more pregnant than that.
I'm so embarrassed by how much I'm showing and so early even though I know it's for a good reason BH.
Did your co-workers know it was a twin pregnancy? Siblings? Parents?
Our Rav stressed the importance on keeping this as quiet as possible but just curious to hear from others.

yiddishmom

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 4:17 pm

I was never pregnant with multiples.

But I think you can tell people that you are 4/5 weeks ahead, they won't realize how big you are.

So right now, when someone asks how far along you are, say 20 or 21 weeks.

Bshaah tovah!!!

amother

Gray ↓

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 4:20 pm

My sister in law posted here and I figured out it was her and knew it was twins. I would have suspected otherwise but would not have been sure. She didn't tell family it would be twins.

amother

Vermilion

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 4:23 pm

I feel this is a very personal question and unique to each person. I personally told my parents and in-laws it was a multiple pregnancy because I knew I was going to need to be prepared for any complications and for help postpartum. I also personally didn't mind my siblings and my sibling in-law is knowing.

amother

Razzmatazz

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 4:24 pm

I'm pregnant with twins now.
I assume people who see me often are assuming, since I'm incredibly huge and have been this way for a long time. I really don't care, I'm just living my life doing my thing and trying to cope with a very different and difficult pregnancy. It's not easy! I wouldn't add extra stress by trying too hard to lie or to hide my figure.

amother

Garnet

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:07 pm

amother Vermilion wrote:

Same for me except I did not tell any of my siblings or siblings in law. I also told people I was due a few weeks before so maybe there was a better chance of them not figuring out.

amother

Pansy

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:12 pm

And I carry so huge with my singletons that I’m embarrassed that everyone is assuming I’m having twins…..

Tao

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:14 pm

amother Pansy wrote:

And I carry so huge with my singletons that I’m embarrassed that everyone is assuming I’m having twins…..

I feel ya
I got so many comments I started to believe there was a second one hiding in there myself LOL

amother

Bottlebrush

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:15 pm

I told parents and in laws at 16 weeks. I told one sister at 32 weeks, one sister at 35 weeks and a neighbor the day before my twins were born. Dropped lots of hints for other people and was huge and everyone knew I was high risk. Some connected the dots some didn’t… my one regret is not telling my two oldest kids before… they were young teens…

amother

Periwinkle ↓

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:16 pm

My sil was expecting twins and boy did I know. Lol, she was a whale. She told me afterwards that if I had said something she would have confirmed. I was like no way I was not going to ask!

amother

Mintgreen

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:23 pm

I think people being referred to as a whale when prgnant is probably where a lot of the insecurity comes from... I would feel really bad if people said that about how I looked

amother

Seagreen

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:38 pm

amother Peachpuff wrote:

I didn't know, so it's safe to assume nobody else did either.

U had twins and didn’t know u were having more than one???

amother

↑ Gray

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:47 pm

amother Pansy wrote:

And I carry so huge with my singletons that I’m embarrassed that everyone is assuming I’m having twins…..

Same. Everyone either assumes I'm due any day when I still have months to go, or that I've got a few extra babies in there. I get so many comments.

mfb

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:50 pm

amother Peachpuff wrote:

I didn't know, so it's safe to assume nobody else did either.

You didn’t do any sonograms?

amother

Olive

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:58 pm

amother OP wrote:

Just for the record when I was pregnant I was huge people thought I was having triplets! There was only one in there.
Meanwhile my sister who was due a month before me didn't even look pregnant! She had twins

amother

Hosta

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 6:04 pm

Yes. Everyone “knew”. But I. Had also gotten comments with singleton pregnancies.

I am still many years later weirded out about the man who stopped my husband to let him know to get ready for the fun ride that came along with twins.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 6:17 pm

amother Razzmatazz wrote:

Bshaa tova!! Wow! How far along are you?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Nov 06 2024, 6:18 pm

amother Hunter wrote:

I didn’t tell anyone

Did anyone ask you outright?