Step siblings engages!?!?

chanatron1000

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 7:20 pm

amother Tangerine wrote:

Yes. Just like we don’t marry our regular siblings even if we feel they’re bashert.

Some things are just not done.

That's a forbidden relationship, not just "not done."

amother

↑ Bergamot

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 7:34 pm

amother Cobalt wrote:

Where did you hear this news?

She prob knows them.

yiddishmom

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 7:37 pm

amother Tangerine wrote:

It’s not that complicated not to get engaged to your step sibling.
They chose to do this and the consequences that come with it.

What does this even mean???

Do you realize what you are saying?

You are saying that people shouldn't do what's best for them, because everyone around them has a right to gossip.

Interesting.

Your thought process is definitely not in line with halacha.

amother

Junglegreen

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 7:38 pm

amother Fuchsia wrote:

I know a couple whose parent married each other shortly after their wedding. the couple became step-siblings
It’s been at least 25 years. BH, the children and the parents are doing very well.

From Florida?

amother

DarkViolet

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 7:51 pm

I know several couples who are step-siblings, they are all bh doing well.
(I also know this family. The only one it's awkward to, is the biological other parent, which is my friend.)
I also know many uncles who married nieces and are doing well bh.
We have a huge extended family all over the world and don't know many of them.
There are several first cousins married in our family, doing fine bh.
My sibling also married my first cousin, (they didn't know each other until got married) they happen to divorce and we're still in good terms with our ex-in law and cousins.

amother

Royalblue ↓

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 7:52 pm

amother Tangerine wrote:

Yes. Just like we don’t marry our regular siblings even if we feel they’re bashert.

Some things are just not done.

The reason you didn't marry your brother is so people don't gossip?? I sure hope not

amother

Anemone

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 7:56 pm

Interesting that the ex parent agreed.
And financially it must be hard to have the whole burden.

I guess they won’t live in the same house now until the wedding.
Presents will be weird etc…

amother

↑ Royalblue

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:09 pm

amother Anemone wrote:

And financially it must be hard to have the whole burden.

What does this mean?

amother

Gold

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:13 pm

amother Anemone wrote:

Interesting that the ex parent agreed.
And financially it must be hard to have the whole burden.

I guess they won’t live in the same house now until the wedding.
Presents will be weird etc…

Why the need for a whole wedding? They can just move into one room and skip all the steps in the middle.

amother

↑ Cantaloupe

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:16 pm

amother Gold wrote:

Why the need for a whole wedding? They can just move into one room and skip all the steps in the middle.

This comment really isn't nice, such loshan hora.

GetReal

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:18 pm

Why are people making this into two people who grew up together and lived in the same house since age two? Maybe they became step siblings when the boy was away in yeshiva and the girl was in sem and they spent maybe two yomim tovim together and barely said two words to each other?

amother

↑ Orchid

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:19 pm

amother Anemone wrote:

Interesting that the ex parent agreed.
And financially it must be hard to have the whole burden.

I guess they won’t live in the same house now until the wedding.
Presents will be weird etc…

It’s not so common for step siblings to live together anyways

Also parents don’t have to “agree”, they are adults and can do whatever they want

amother

Cappuccino ↓

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:23 pm

Nothing wrong with this shidduch. They're not related by blood and they're not forbidden by halacha. That they have a half-sibling in common is interesting and complicated drawing a family tree, but again there's nothing wrong with this. MYOB and quit yente-ing on Imamother about real people.

amother

Taupe

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:25 pm

A Chashuva Rav in my area is married to his step sister. There is nothing weird about it. Their parents later got divorced which was a little awkward but nothing crazy. They aren't blood relatives so who cares?

amother

↑ Cappuccino

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:26 pm

amother Gold wrote:

Why the need for a whole wedding? They can just move into one room and skip all the steps in the middle.

. WOW! That remark can only be described as utterly bi***y! I suggest getting professional help for your dysfunctional hostility.

amother

↑ Magenta

Sun, Nov 03 2024, 8:27 pm

amother Cantaloupe wrote:

There's no scandal involved. They're basically strangers to each others.

I believe you. It was a gut reaction.