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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 10:45 am
Please!!!
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amother
NeonPink


 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 10:47 am
Whats the big deal
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amother
Raspberry


 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 10:48 am
Why are you so worked up? I havent seen bumped threads recently.
Also, why do you care?
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amother
Lemon


 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 10:50 am
Please stop yelling
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amother
Milk


 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 10:54 am
Why? I’ve replied to a few old threads. It’s something I was searching about and had a question or two to the mothers that posted on it.
Is that not allowed?
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 10:54 am
Sometimes it's irrelevant like a response to a question when it's not needed anymore
Sometimes it's a long thread which initially I think is current, only to waste time reading it and realizing it was already resolved
Sometimes it causes people to respond after only reading a few posts and that keeps bumping it so this cycle is perpetuated... Only for people to move later that the issue what resolved in the middle of the thread because so much was added on...
Why make people read old irrelevant threads? If they want to they can search words on that topic, I do it sometimes and it's very helpful - but that doesn't mean that hundreds of people need to read it along with me and that I should clutter everyone's home page
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 10:55 am
Just some of the reasons.
Why would you want people to bump old threads? What's the benefit to this site and to the women on it?
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amother
Alyssum


 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 11:35 am
amother OP wrote:
Just some of the reasons.
Why would you want people to bump old threads? What's the benefit to this site and to the women on it?


Not everything on this site has to benefit you.

Sometimes a poster will bump up an old thread because it's relevant to them right now and they want to revive the conversation.

I agree that it's annoying, but if it benefits another poster, there's not much you can do about it.
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Success10  




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 11:37 am
I think there might be something in the site rules about bumping old threads. Perhaps I’m mistaken?
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  Success10  




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 11:39 am
This is from the imamother new user guide:

“ Another common newcomer mistake is bumping up an old thread. Before replying to a thread it would be wise to check the date on the original post (OP). It is usually unhelpful to post on a very old thread. We assume that the original poster (OP) has already figured out what to do by now. Occasionally, answering an old post with new information, or asking the OP what happened in the end, is helpful. Please use your discretion to decide.”
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mommygirlx2




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 11:40 am
I love how in the manners and etiquette section you are writing in caps lock which is extremely rude
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Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 11:41 am
My own personal opinion is that bumping old threads is annoying.
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 11:56 am
I hope I remember to bump up this thread in about a month or so 🫣
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 11:58 am
I just spotted one bumped up from 2010 LOL
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NotFunny




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 12:30 pm
amother OP wrote:
Sometimes it's irrelevant like a response to a question when it's not needed anymore
Sometimes it's a long thread which initially I think is current, only to waste time reading it and realizing it was already resolved
Sometimes it causes people to respond after only reading a few posts and that keeps bumping it so this cycle is perpetuated... Only for people to move later that the issue what resolved in the middle of the thread because so much was added on...
Why make people read old irrelevant threads? If they want to they can search words on that topic, I do it sometimes and it's very helpful - but that doesn't mean that hundreds of people need to read it along with me and that I should clutter everyone's home page

I’m not endorsing bumping threads.
That said, I always check dates when threads were started when reading and if I see it’s a long but old thread- I skip to the end to see why it was bumped. If it’s a subject I’m interested in, I’ll read it, and if not I won’t. Regardless of date, I’m choosing to waste my time when and on which thread I prefer.

Especially in long threads, I try not to respond before reading through the threads. Usually the point I want to add was already said. If not, and it’s a current thread- I’ll post reply then.
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watergirl  




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 1:06 pm
amother Milk wrote:
Why? I’ve replied to a few old threads. It’s something I was searching about and had a question or two to the mothers that posted on it.
Is that not allowed?

Mod here. It's not against the rules of the site but as a mod, when I see an old thread bumped up, I lock it. It's considered bad forum etiquette (netiquette) to bump up old threads. And remember this - on a site like imamother, people come and go very often and are not even around to reply if someone quotes them. It's awkward.

- If you want to revive a conversation, start a new thread to have a new conversation on the same topic.

- If you want to know how someone is doing and want to bump it up for an update - that's understandable as we are all human and we all get curious. But don't. An OP will or will not come back with an update if she wants to. Often, an OP is happy her thread got buried and people forgot about it. No OP owes anyone an update.

- Some members are well known from many years ago and are no longer with us, it's shocking to see their names knowing they've passed away. Others have simply left and want to be forgotten and left alone.

Just don't bump up old threads.
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ra_mom




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 1:44 pm
watergirl wrote:
Mod here. It's not against the rules of the site but as a mod, when I see an old thread bumped up, I lock it. It's considered bad forum etiquette (netiquette) to bump up old threads. And remember this - on a site like imamother, people come and go very often and are not even around to reply if someone quotes them. It's awkward.

- If you want to revive a conversation, start a new thread to have a new conversation on the same topic.

- If you want to know how someone is doing and want to bump it up for an update - that's understandable as we are all human and we all get curious. But don't. An OP will or will not come back with an update if she wants to. Often, an OP is happy her thread got buried and people forgot about it. No OP owes anyone an update.

- Some members are well known from many years ago and are no longer with us, it's shocking to see their names knowing they've passed away. Others have simply left and want to be forgotten and left alone.

Just don't bump up old threads.


This probably doesn't apply to questions on a recipe thread?
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 2:31 pm
amother Magenta wrote:
I hope I remember to bump up this thread in about a month or so 🫣

This is OP, and I approve of your message LOL
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NechaMom




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 2:42 pm
amother Blush wrote:
I just spotted one bumped up from 2010 LOL

It's funny how she wrote "keep em coming" as if the last post was two minutes ago instead of 14 years.
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amother
Magnolia


 

Post Thu, Oct 31 2024, 2:48 pm
amother Milk wrote:
Why? I’ve replied to a few old threads. It’s something I was searching about and had a question or two to the mothers that posted on it.
Is that not allowed?


It's generally considered poor etiquette. Most posters prefer that you start a new thread.
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