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amother
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 Wed, Oct 30 2024, 1:44 pm
This is for buying clothes for my kids b"h:
I don't need to buy more clothes for my kids.
They will look just fine and cute in whatever they have.
I don't need to buy things I think other people will find cute on them.
The clothes I bought are nice too.
My kids have enough clothes b"h, some they like more than others, and it's okay for them to learn how to handle that.
My kids are not asking me for more clothes.
I don't need to buy more. I don't need to buy more. I don't need to buy more.
Anyone have their own to add?
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paperflowers
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 1:46 pm
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This purchase will not make me any happier.
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amother
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 1:48 pm
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I don't need it, I don't need it, I don't need it. Rinse and repeat.
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amother
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 1:48 pm
| paperflowers wrote: | | This purchase will not make me any happier. |
What if it does? What if I will feel happier because I got my kids another cute thing?
Maybe instead (for me, anyhow)-
I don't need this purchase to make me happier. I can do something else to bring me more happiness.
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oneofakind
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 1:57 pm
What feeling am I experiencing that shopping is alleviating?
Am I bored? Anxious?
Face the feeling!
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BadTichelDay
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 1:58 pm
I've got about 150 tichels and headscarfs (really). I don't need 151, 152, 153... I've got every color and pattern. A new shade of pink, black or blue will add nothing to my life, other than clutter.
I don't need more earrings or necklaces. I've got only 2 ears and one neck. I've got enough cheap fashion jewelry to wear something different every day for weeks.
Other people won't track the tiny differences in my outfits anyway. A week from now no one on planet Earth will remember if I was wearing the grey skirt with the little flowers or the one with the other pattern or the new one I'm tempted to buy just now because it's such a great bargain.
If you buy a new X, you have to throw out one of the old Ys to make room for it. (Throw away? Me? Never!!) - So, don't buy.
Write one hundred times "I'm a human, not a hamster".
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my mama
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 2:12 pm
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I have everything I need and a lot of what I want.
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Bnei Berak 10
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 2:13 pm
| amother OP wrote: | This is for buying clothes for my kids b"h:
I don't need to buy more clothes for my kids.
They will look just fine and cute in whatever they have.
I don't need to buy things I think other people will find cute on them.
The clothes I bought are nice too.
My kids have enough clothes b"h, some they like more than others, and it's okay for them to learn how to handle that.
My kids are not asking me for more clothes.
I don't need to buy more. I don't need to buy more. I don't need to buy more.
Anyone have their own to add? |
Learn chinuch and mussar.
If you constantly buy clothes for your kids, what values do you convey? That mommy has a never ending stream of cash for everything?
Kids don't need to look like models in a magazine.
I suggest you get in touch with a wise Rebetzin or mentor that can give you perspective.
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amother
Mulberry
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 2:20 pm
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My kids don't need more stuff from me, they need more time from me
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Bnei Berak 10
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 2:22 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | What if it does? What if I will feel happier because I got my kids another cute thing? |
The feeling passes, right? So now you are on to the purchase, the next acquirement.
Once you acquired it your "happiness" is gone. That is not happiness. It's a high.
I like good shopping. I love a great bargain. But shopping and bargains aren't happiness. It's acquiring things. It's not the purpose of life.
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Bnei Berak 10
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Wed, Oct 30 2024, 2:23 pm
| amother Mulberry wrote: | | My kids don't need more stuff from me, they need more time from me |
Excellent! 
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isrmss91
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Fri, Nov 01 2024, 4:45 pm
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"it's not a bargain, if you don't need it.."
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zigi
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Fri, Nov 01 2024, 5:23 pm
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The drawers will be stuffed, more laundry and clutter
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amother
cornflower
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Sat, Nov 02 2024, 3:47 pm
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Cheapest way to deal when u see an 'amaaazing deal' is to leave it the shop.
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amother
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Sat, Nov 02 2024, 8:18 pm
[quote="BadTichelDay"]I've got about 150 tichels and headscarfs (really)...
I don't need more earrings or necklaces. I've got only 2 ears and one neck. [\quote]
By the same token you have only one head, so why so many headscarves?
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amother
Linen
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Sat, Nov 02 2024, 8:57 pm
My husband will not be happy if I keep on shopping. Do I want to ruin my shalom bayis?
This money will be better spent in savings.
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