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amother
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Post Tue, Oct 15 2024, 9:19 am
She has tantrums like w 4 year old. Screams, throws things, calls names, threatens. All this when she's angry. When she's calm she looks and acts sweet. Any ideas?
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Chayalle  




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Oct 15 2024, 9:25 am
Read "The Explosive Child" as a starting point. What are her areas of inflexibility that lead her to tantrum? How can you help her learn to switch gears without disregulating? How can she learn better coping methods? These are questions to explore, and they start with understanding what her triggers are.
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amother
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Post Tue, Oct 15 2024, 9:25 am
Probably not what you want to hear but this us usually a symptom of pans/pandas/some forms of brain inflammation. Treating the infections and the inflammation makes the behaviors go away.
Sometimes it's not triggered by an infection but something they're eating like msg or food dyes or gluten or dairy that they're intolerant to.
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amother
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Post Tue, Oct 15 2024, 10:43 am
amother Tan wrote:
Probably not what you want to hear but this us usually a symptom of pans/pandas/some forms of brain inflammation. Treating the infections and the inflammation makes the behaviors go away.
Sometimes it's not triggered by an infection but something they're eating like msg or food dyes or gluten or dairy that they're intolerant to.


It's not that I don't want to hear it, it's more that I don't agree that it's usually pandas or inflammation. It's more along the lines of jealousy and self esteem. Thanks anyway.
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mha3484




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Oct 15 2024, 10:54 am
I second the explosive child but you dont need to buy the book Ross Greene has a great website called www.livesinthebalance.org look for the parent section.
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  Chayalle




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Oct 15 2024, 11:14 am
amother Tan wrote:
Probably not what you want to hear but this us usually a symptom of pans/pandas/some forms of brain inflammation. Treating the infections and the inflammation makes the behaviors go away.
Sometimes it's not triggered by an infection but something they're eating like msg or food dyes or gluten or dairy that they're intolerant to.


This type of post basically negates Chanoch L'Naar Al Pi Darko.
Not every case of a child needing to learn emotional regulation is about Pandas/etc.... and medical treatment. Sometimes it's about parents learning chinuch methods that will work for that child and teach them better middos....
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amother
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Post Tue, Oct 15 2024, 11:18 am
And sometimes (a lot of the time?) its a process that takes a while until you look back months later and say, wow things are different after all.
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