YOU can make the difference

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Mon, Oct 07 2024, 3:29 pm

This is a bit of a PSA
If you know someone divorced, chances are they've cried over the past couple of weeks. You think 3 day YT was tough? Imagine doing it without another adult in the house. Cooking for YT was hard? Imagine doing it at the same time as ALL the other jobs in the house, childcare and working out the house. Worrying about finances? Imagine worrying and having the burden of sorting it all out on your own. Every meal. Every appointment. Every insurance. Every PTA. Every everything.

This time of year is unimaginably hard for single Mothers.
We are a nation of gomlai chassadim, so I thought I'd list a few ways that YOU can help out:

Invite her for a meal
Ask your teenage daughter to go round to help cook/look after her kids/take kids to the park before YT
Ask your teen daughter to help her out with her kids on YK
Go and visit on YT/shabbos or invite her kids to come and play or take them to the park/go to the park together
Buy her kids a sukkah craft kit
Buy her kids a new book or toy for YT
Give her a voucher to get her nails or eyebrows done for YT
Drop in a kugel/cake/salad for YT
Give her a bar/box of chocolates, bunch of flowers, magazine or book for YT
Offer to make her a particular food for YT
Ask your husband to offer to take her sons to buy arba minim (bonus if you can pay!)
Ask your husband or big boys to help put up her sukkah or shlep sechach
Ask your husband to offer to take her boys to shul, especially YK and simchas torah

These are all easy/cheap ideas.
If you are wealthy, maybe put some money on her grocery/butcher account. Or give her a gift voucher for a clothing store.

Whatever you can do, please do it today. Don't let her sit at home, crying and worrying about whether her kids will get new clothes for YT, or how she's going to get arba minim for her sons.

Thank you

Ruchi

Mon, Oct 07 2024, 9:55 pm

Before considering doing any of the above, please ensure that this will sit well with the recipient. Not everyone want to feel like somebody’s Chessed project, charity case or good deed for the day.

If your family member is single, then you probably know what she’d appreciate. So reach out and offer help. If it’s something you can’t help with at least check with her if you can outsource to someone else